Guys, would you take it as a red flag 🚩 if a girl doesn’t talk to any of her older siblings?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, she comes from a very toxic family and she only went through horrible experiences with them.

[Rab1901]

The sad reality is that the vast majority people who experience horrible treatment also give out horrible treatment. Often they are not even aware that they are being just like the people who treated them poorly. This is not my opinion. This is based off of reality according to professionals.

That being said, it's not a complete red flag if she is very aware of what's going on and has been taking steps to get out of that cycle. However, I would definitely be extremely careful about getting involved.

[snowboarder720]

It sounds like she’s doing what she can to protect herself from her family. It’s called setting boundaries.
She sounds really damn smart and intellectual if this is the case.

[DermalPunch]

At best she has a messed up family and do I want to enter into a dysfunctional dynamic. At worst, she is an immature self-centered brat who has used and alienated all of them. Have fun finding out which one!

[Anemone978]

Most likely she is dysfunctional too if her family is and she can't get along with them. So yes big red flags!

[Pegases]

I've heard similar stories like this, and in all of those cases, the girl was just as toxic as well, if not more. So don't think that just because she doesn't talk to them, that she isn't also toxic. Most often, the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree. So yes, its a red flag, but perhaps not in the way you expected it to be.

[Fuentes]

If none of your main family talks to you that tells me your the problem and you refuse to admit it. I find it hard to beleive everyone in my immediate family looks to me and calls me to ask me about almost everything so annoying that I'm the only one with brains it seems like but besides that, it means u must've did something if they all can communicate but just not with you.

So yeah red flag

[Gent207-2]

At a certain age you have to make that choice - stay with your family or make your own.

The right person will understand, respect and support your decision.

[TheBootyChest]

Not bad at all. I just hope she cares for me more than she does for them. I hope that didn't sound defensive.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Nope. I was raised by myself while my sisters were across the country. We're not close. Family is only blood sometimes and nothing more. I wouldn't hold that against anyone.

[Pinay_ako]

It’s a red flag 🚩. Need to know more. Two sides of every story. Theirs and hers. And oh yea the TRUTH. that’s three

[TomMarks]

It depends, I’ve seen situations where the girl cutting off communication with various family members was more THEIR choice than her choice. She may be only doing so to protect herself and ultimately anyone with her.

[horatiohornblower]

The reason why they are no longer in contact would be the determining factor. Basically, who was the transgressor.

[BCA6010]

Bad family relationships often are a red flag, but context does matter.

[AdithyaR]

Depends on the reason. I've been on reddit long enough to know sometimes people are victims of abuse from their family while other times they are the abuser.

[Sabretooth]

Same. Guess we'd both be each other's way out.

[gorydetails]

Yes. Because someone who has a majority of people in her life who are "toxic" means she's usually the problem.

[David4358]

If she explained how toxic it was then why would I care? Sometimes the situation is so bad you have to cut ties who am I to judge?

[Grapessss]

No, sometimes family can destroy your own well being!

[Shiningtempest]

I see woman who doesn't talk to her siblings as an immediate red flag. I see it as an automatic red flag because I perceive it as a sign of dysfunctional household.

[cloud9vortex1234]

No, I would give her the benefit of the doubt at first.

[Blues36]

there may be problems

[Asker]

Like what?

[Blues36]

she can be a really bad person

[Asker]

What if all her family is broken? Meaning, her older siblings don’t talk to each other either.

[Blues36]

I thought it was just about her, so it's okay

[brooke233]

Not a red flag at all.

[Reem12345reem]

sounds like my family

[EzraEzra]

عربية؟

[Reem12345reem]

@EzraEzra yes

[EzraEzra]

كلنا جايين من عوائل توكسيك😅

[Nikki1989]

Not really. It is very common.