I went to the bar the other night and started talking to this guy, I was drunk, and I think he was a little bit. But I'm so social when I'm drunk, to the point where I make friends with everyone. When I'm not drunk, I'm quiet... basically anti social, I avoid places with tons of people, but I love it when I'm drunk. I wish I was like that now, but today we are going to get some food, and I'm a really large lady, I hate how my body looks. I just didn't know I would be hit on. It's happened a few times recently but rarely happens at all. I get told I'm adorable by my friends, but I feel like sometimes they lie to me, haha.
The conversation flowed, I thought he was the most handsome guy ever. I'm afraid we will get there and he will be unattracted to me. I don't know. Maybe him talking to me was the last resort? I'm not sure. I feel like alcohol makes people 10000x more attractive, maybe to men more cause I've heard of guys hooking up with women, and the next day, they thought she was ugly cause they weren't drunk.
I'm worried about this. Is this just getting into my own head and sabatoging something that could go well?
The conversation flowed, I thought he was the most handsome guy ever. I'm afraid we will get there and he will be unattracted to me. I don't know. Maybe him talking to me was the last resort? I'm not sure. I feel like alcohol makes people 10000x more attractive, maybe to men more cause I've heard of guys hooking up with women, and the next day, they thought she was ugly cause they weren't drunk.
I'm worried about this. Is this just getting into my own head and sabatoging something that could go well?
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I want someone to find me beautiful body wise and mentally.
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When I was a bigger woman I rarely tried to date and how you’re acting is a prime example of why. I was severely insecure and over-thought almost every aspect of a man even showing interest in me. It’s better to just be single until you’re at a place where you can have some confidence pursuing love.
Let me just say from experience that you are 100% being your worst enemy and I really hope you get help to work on that, like therapy. You can’t live your life always worried that the other foot is going to drop because you know what? Even the most beautiful and fit woman could have a guy ghost her or lose interest — that’s just life. So stop applying your size to every situation and treating yourself like a leper, there’s already enough people in this world that will tear you down, don’t help them out.
Anyway, if things don’t work with this dude then try not to make it about you size, if it were an issue you two wouldn’t be where you are now, he would’ve said nothing the next day. If things do work out with him then for your sake, don’t bring up the weight shit or insecurity over him leaving and finding someone else. That’s so damn pitiful, awkward and unattractive.
lots of guys will like you