Coworker holds a grudge?

[Anonymous]

About a month ago me and my female coworker had an argument how to do one of the project. I wanted it to do my way, she wanted to do it her way. I was like "fine, do it your way, but i know this will be mess" and she messed it up. Later i told her "Maybe next time we should do my way" She was like "No" ... i was like "Wtf?" In short... Things got heated, but it did not go personal. Next morning she even did not say "hello" even... and did not talk to me. After a week some of the coworker tried to tell her "get over it already" and she still told them she won't speak to me... After a months she still won't speak to me... My question is... Why she care about it so much? - Yes you could ask me the same question, but to me it is just a curiosity and its weird to be so emotionally invested in a workplace.

[chloeaimeejensen]

Simple answer. You’re both acting like schoolchildren. Where do you work? The school playground! She’s being a bitch because things didn’t go her way and you’re being a bitch for rubbing salt in her wound. She wouldn’t be behaving like this if had just kept your mouth shut after doing the project your way. It was your gloating that caused this mess and good luck trying to undo this mess because as the saying goes “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”.

[Asker]

On the last part - i doubt about that. Like i said she gets grilled by other women at work already because she is still angry and can't get over it. Eventually that kind of attitude is gonna hurt her if she keep acting like that. 😐

[Anonymous]

So long as her grudge isn’t effecting her work performance or yours (like interfering with getting things done), then don’t worry about it. I’ll be honest, she’s probably put out and doesn’t want to talk to you any more than she has to. The way that situation played out and how you acted would’ve put a bad taste in my mouth too, because it comes off as offensive. You made her feel incapable and incompetent.

[Asker]

So its not about who was right and who was wrong or how we should proceed in the future with those projects. Its about how i made her feel? 😕
Is not work done quickly and effectively more important than feelings?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course working efficiently is the goal at work, but that’s not what the problem is. Your comments were incredibly rude, insensitive and flat out unnecessary. Condescending even. I think you owe her an apology, it’s the least you could do if you aren’t too proud.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"Maybe next time we should do my way" was pretty catty. You two ought to be able to work together, but I can't see her ever being friendly friendly with you.