there is this bar downtown in my home city , its more of a restaurant during the day but a trendy hang out place at night. a lot of attractive younger women work there like 18>early 30's. since i've been there a lot i know most of them fairly well and have talked to them when at work about various things. so they know my name and know me fairly well.
but its so weird none of them will do a shot with me there even if i ask politely or when there doing shots when off work with other people. i've done shots there but all have been with girls who didn't work there or had worked there in the past and no longer staff. i did do a shot with a girl that worked there but that was a year ago and on my birthday. never done any since
but weird i did do a shot with a girl who works there but it was in a bar in another city in April , seems weird she'd do one with me there but not at the place she works that advertises all these shots on the wall/ menu. i can't figure out whats going on and starting to feel hurt and insulted by being rejected for something so minor , like not a big deal to do a shot with someone at the bar especially when they advertise it around the bar as being a place to do them with people.
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A lot of attractive younger women don’t want to hang out with a guy your age. Sorry to be mean but it’s true.
i wasn't asking them to hang out with me , just do a brief shot at the bar. also most people say i look younger than my age so i wouldn't really stand out as being too old for them and some of these girls are late 20's so not even that much of an age diff
Huh. Why are you so pissed about this? Do they talk to you and hang out with you in other ways than doing shots?
yes i talk to some of them a lot when there and felt we were friends at that pub , maybe we don't do things outside the pub but i do talk to them when there and felt there was a genuine connection or why would i always talk to them when there
Then why get so pissed off at then just because they won’t do shots with you?
i find it insulting on so many levels , its disrespectful to me as a person. if i've made a genuine request to do a shot with them and there drinking and doing shots with other people i don't see any reasonable reason to not do one with me
I think you’re being weird. They still hang out with you. But ok.
all i wanted to do was do a shot at the bar , these are like party girls who do shots like a normal person drinks water. its not a big deal for them to do a shot with someone
I really think it’s because you’re too old. Sorry.
but what is the point in hanging out with a bunch of party girls at a bar who won't do drinks with you? its a bar people are drinking , it seems so weird that they wouldn't do a shot with me in such an environment , i'm hurt and feel insulted i don't know what else to say , other girls there age at other bars have done shots with me and didn't seem to think it was an issue
That is kinda weird. Maybe hang out at a different bar?
i'm not sure its about the age difference , from the outside looking in someone might say thats the issue but i'm really not sure it is. i do shots with girls there age all the time at other bars , is this country bar i go to on Saturday some nights and i've done shots there with younger women all the time
Huh. Maybe hang out there instead if it really bothers you?
i know it is really weird , whats also weird is i live in the same area as these girls a small city of 20,000 and all summer not once have i seen anyone from that bar anywhere else here , i only see them at that pub , never seen them at other restaurants/bars here or anywhere.
i do go to other bars , went to that country bar on Saturday , i did 1 shot , with a younger women i see there a lot also included a girl she's friends with i hadn't meet before , i didn't really ask anyone else to do a shot , did talk to a blonde girl who i did a shot with in the past but we did't do one last night
Still think you’re better off hanging at a different bar
there isn't really a lot of options here , thats sort of why that place is the main hot spot during the summer. there is a couple other places where you could get a drink but they don't have the same vibe , more like chain restaurants or tourist restaurants.
Oh ok. Well I feel bad for you that these girls don’t want to do shots with you, but I don’t know what else to say.
It seems weird that you're so hung up on it. You already said you guys aren't friends in the sense that you do anything together outside of the bar. Maybe they just don't want a shot. Or maybe they just don't want a shot with you. If the latter is SO offensive to you, just go somewhere else. At 36-45 I'd have thought you had bigger issues in life than some party girl not taking a shot with you.
"but they don't have the same vibe"... the vibe at this one is they don't want to do shots with you, so maybe the other one NOT having that same vibe will work out in your favor
@BoopBoopBeep i guess but still what harm would come out of these girls doing a shot with me at the bar they work at? it all seems so pity for them to deny me such an experience when there paid to be there and supposedly we got along and were friends at the pub
i feel bad about the whole situation too , we should be able to do the odd shot together carefree and for fun in such an environment. it all seems so odd for them to draw a line in the sand and say no shots when they work in a pub that promotes shots as something fun to do
i'm going to go out on a limb here and say you probably have some degree of autism, no? you remind me a lot of an ex. it's the narrow focus and fixation thing. That's cool and all, right, but the problem is, for people who don't know that... you come off really creepy to them, and that's why they don't want to do the shot with you
@BoopBoopBeep lots of girls still do shots with me more at other bars though , i suppose some would do a drink with any guy that looked half normal if he was paying though. this one girl i was really fixated on her last summer when i saw her at this bar and she was obviously annoyed , then a year later saw her at same bar and asked her to do a shot and she actually said yes. but it happened quickly she just happened to be standing near the bar with friends before they had ordered , but weird she told me her name was emma but i know its ella as i've seen her profile online
I feel like you wake up every day with one objective; that if you don’t do a shot with a girl, you don’t feel fulfilled as a person. It’s very sad and you’re coming off as a desperate fool, living inside a box.
yeah... this is what i'm talking about bro
"but it happened quickly she just happened to be standing near the bar with friends before they had ordered " right... it wasn't some special moment you shared, she was doing something else and just worked a free shot into it
" weird she told me her name was emma but i know its ella as i've seen her profile online" No that's not weird at all, since, by your own admission, you fixate on women. she didn't want to end up in your basement so she gave you a fake name
@BoopBoopBeep the shot was weirder than i realised , there was a second girl with her at the time and i also bought her a shot not knowing who she was , saw some pictures online and turns out she was her sister so i bought her and her sister a shot that night. but she didn't really mention to me at the time who she was
my main goal was to do a shot with her so i got that done and though it went over better than expected
i think she has a boyfriend so maybe she was trying to keep me away from her life , i'm pretty sure she enjoyed the shot and was ok with finally meeting me
@On_cloud_wine i just go to a lot of bars and found doing shots was one of the few things i could get attractive women to actually do with me when at the bar. i like never dance with anyone and don't go home with anyone either. but like shots seem to be easy to get them to do and make evening more fun.
i don't ask random girls at the bar to do drinks with me , usually have specific people in mind or want to meet , its actually much more targeted than you'd realise , which is perhaps why i'm annoyed at these girls at my pub is there is a couple i'd specifically like to do shots with but don't seem to want to play ball for whatever weird reasons
I can’t help you anymore.
The last time you asked this question the bar was advertising shots with the girl bartenders and they wouldn't do shots with you.