Girls, have you ever made the first move?

[_Maya_]

For the guys, has a girl ever made a first move on ya?

Yes I've made the first move or had a girl make a move.

Nope...

[pierre7i]

A few years ago I was on a week-long overseas business trip with a girl from another company we had a joint venture with - separate rooms in the hotel of course

On the 2nd evening we'd arranged to meet in the lobby bar for a drink before going out to a restaurant for dinner - I'd just gotten out of the shower and was drying myself when the room doorbell rang, and thinking it was room service "bed turndown" staff I quickly put the towel around my waist and opened the door - it was her !

Though I was surprised, I asked her in and said I needed a few more minutes to get ready/dressed and started heading towards the wardrobe to get a shirt + long pants to take into the bathroom

But she sat on the bed and beckoned me to sit with her, saying she wanted to tell me something - as I did, she leaned forward and kissed me - then she pulled towel from around my waist and held my by now already semi-erect penis in her hand -- then she pushed me down and straddled me

I was so surprised, and though I thought it wasn't a sensible thing to be sexual with a business colleague, when I saw she was pantyless under her short, flowey skirt, I just let it all happen and within a few moments she had taken all of my by then long sexual hardness inside her

She told to cum inside her because she was on bc meds, and I did, at pretty much the exact same time as her orgasm came !

We lay back and held hands and let the beautiful sexual ecstasy we'd both experienced sink in !

After a while, we showered then went out for a wonderfully enjoyable dinner, it truly was a magical night !

The next few nights were magical too !

We became very close friends, still are - whenever I'm back in my home country we always catch up and sometimes spend a few days enjoying time with each at a favourite beach-side place

[EricSummer]

Yes, it has happened to me that a girl made the first move. It was when a girl at high school asked me to spend a free hour with her before the next course. A short while later she became my first girlfriend and we stayed together for 4 years.

However, this has been really rare and for all my partners since then I made the first move.

Well, my current girlfriend gave me her number before I could even ask for it. Not sure if that counts as a move. We were already talking at an event where we first met.

[Adaeva]

Of course, I have. Most of the time I make the first move. It is a girl's responsibility to make the first move. Some boys don't know that so they approach me even though they should wait for me to smile and say, "HI" or give some other indication that I am willing to be approached. In a group situation, circumstances often dictates who makes the first move.

[Adaeva]

After reading other replies, a girl making the first move doesn't in any way imply that she is the one that asks for a date. It only requires that she indicates that it is okay for the boy to approach. Generally, guys should not approach a girl until she gives some indication that it should be okay to approach her.

[Midnight_Kiss]

Yes and the experience put me off doing so again due how sh*t it felt being rejected.

However (years later) I have convinced myself if I happen to cross paths with the lasted guy I like, I will throw caution to the wind and tell him out right (I'm fully prepared for rejection) and hope for the best.

[_Maya_]

Good for you and hope it works out!

[exitseven]

Now you know what guys go through all the time.

[smilelots]

hope it works out no matter what that you feel good about yourself always

[rebeliouse]

@Midnight_Kiss
have you ever considered how it is to be a man then getting rejected all the fucking time and usually in a nasty horrible way! more girls should make the first move and i commend you on doing so as they might not be so harsh to a guy that has made the effort.

total credit to you and dont give up

[exitseven]

@rebeliouse yes, that might work.

[Finchie40]

Yes , it happened a good amount of times , I honestly prefer a girl to make the first move on me over me making the first move on her , Those relationships were actually better then the relationships that I made the first move on. Mainly because a girl pretty much knows what she wants when she notices a guy that gives her the butterfly flip flop feelings making it easier for me to just be myself instead of trying to impress her at all times , When a girl is into you she is into you, she automatically makes you her top priority and looks forward to seeing you , it’s a huge turn on when I know a girl really wants me that way

[Bricealan]

When i first moved to California, I changed jobs on a few occasions, and ended up in Orange County from LA County. I took a job with McGaw Laboratories in Irvine and my office was predominately women - Attractive women.

One night after work, before I could change out of my suit, the phone rang (never knew how they got my phone number? The 'girls' asked me to join them at the Lakeside Restaurant, not far from me AND work.

We almost closed the bar, and it was dark, in the parking lot where we all congregated, and one of the girls. walked up to me, away from the group and put her hand down my pants! I was shocked AND flattered, but having gone through several affairs at Firestone in my home town, I did not want a repeat of the past.

I hoped and prayed that "Jean" did not resent my lack of interest, as that was not the case at all, just wanted to maintain a professional demeanor in a new job.

[Anonymous]

I was an extremely socially fucked up weirdo for my entire childhood and early adult life.

However I was attractive and I had many girls throw themselves at me over time. I think luckily I had always had a taste for fashion so I dressed well.

The girls would throw themselves at me and be confronted by a wall of anxiety and terror. I was terrified of women.

Most would be put off by it. Every single one approached me and I NEVER approached a woman.

Some even took me home or went home with me despite my clearly obvious social anxiety and fear of women.

I'm so lucky for those girls. I could have easily been an incel for life but I got lucky to look good enough to overcome all incel vibes (loooong before incel was even a thing).

So yea, womenndo approach. But only guys who look good.

[ManOnFire]

I had a young girl once try to suggest we could go out some time. I didn't answer yes or no to it, I didn't want to hurt her feelings. She was a sweet girl who really liked me, but she was too young for me and still not my type in other ways. I knew she was disappointed that I wasn't into her like that and for a while she was mad at me and then acted shy around me, but eventually she got over it and we were talking again. As friends lol.

[_Maya_]

Aww that's good at least that you're friends. Cool.

[ManOnFire]

Not anymore lol. That was some years ago and we kind of just fell out of talking over time, even with text. Life happens.

[_Maya_]

Yes it does...

[Adaeva]

In our modern society, all smart men know not to approach a woman unless she gives some indication that she is willing for the man to approach her. It doesn't take much. A smile or catching his eyes and holding them for several will suffice. Therefore, at least to that extent, women should make the first move.

[Anonymous]

Yes. There was an older man who lived next door with his parents. He was so handsome and was very athletic but he never paid attention to me because he just saw me as a little girl. I was always flirting but he never took the hint.

Our bedrooms faced each other. So one night I stood by my window in my dressing gown and waved at him and he waved back. I then dropped my dressing gown to reveal that I was completely naked, and the look of complete shock in his eyes, I then reached down between my legs and pleasured myself. Just then I heard my mother knocking and I quickly put on my dressing gown. He took the hint then.

[Wallythewalrus]

My wife definitely let me know she was attracted to me. She had just moved to the area and was friends with a girl I knew. I ran into them at a bar and my friend introduced her to me. My wife shook my hand, I looked at her and said, "it's a pleasure meeting you", her reply, "oh, no! It's my pleasure. I've been waiting for Crystal to introduce to some of her hot friends and here you are"! She has game!

[Anemone978]

Only once in real life... A few times online..
When I first got with my husband I made the first move because he wasn't..
Same as a different guy I liked, he invited me to his house but was like you wanna go home now? because he was shy so I just kissed him and then he was relaxed with me, I went home after a couple minutes of kissing lol

[Rei13]

I have had six boyfriends? I asked two of them out. My first boyfriend was mutual, second was him, third and fourth were me, fifth and six were the guy. I’ve approached guys where it didn’t work in my favor outside of that. Personally I prefer it when the guy puts in the effort, it has led to relationships where the dynamic was better

[CountryWanderer]

My now-wife asked me out for our first date, and she brought up the us kissing before I did.

She appreciated that I made the first move at other times (tongue-kissing, caressing her butt), and said that she wanted me to propose if when we got as far as wanting to marry).

It's good to have each party take the lead on some things.

[YollyM]

No and I never will. I'm not saying that I'm beyond beautiful or anything like that but I doubt that a guy would be honest and reject most girls when approached.
I think he might go with the floor even if he's not too keen about it/her.
Am I right, probably not but I stand by the thought.

[YollyM]

Floor* flow

[Anonymous]

I've made the first move but it's because I'm less attractive. If I didn't I would be celibate forever as men don't pursue me for a relationship. Where I live women never have to make the first move if they look good, even shy guys will take a chance.

[CubaPirate]

Yes but unfortunately the alarm clock woke me up

[_Maya_]

😆😆

[shades777]

i've been told I'm intimidating because of how handsome they perceive me to be, thats cool that they say Im handsome but them being cowardly doesn't help me get laid haha, for the ones who has a pair of tits, some we hit it off and others well i wasn't attracted to

[Shamalien]

I must have had a much less prickly aura because at ages 15-17 girls were often making the first move on me. One even hopped on my lap and started bouncing. Another simply kissed me by surprise when I was playing piano.

both were fucking homewrecking sluts and I’m kind of glad I was too awkward to proceed

[Still-alive]

It happened to me once hehe. i was pretty shocked like 'whoa a woman approaching me really?'

it didn't work out but still i wish it happened more often lol

[_Maya_]

To the guys that say girls never approach I always ask then how did I get with my ex girlfriend? Little thinker and some humor there 😆

[Still-alive]

Well it happens for sure but it still isn't equal yet in my opinion. too many girls prefer to be the one being approached because 'its the guys job' as i've seen a few women say often.

but i do like that the tide is finally changing a bit. I always tell the women on here who are like 'why only the jerks approach me?' or 'where have all the good guys gone' and i tell them 'hey why don't you simply approach yourself? take destiny into your own hands instead of waiting for it to happen.' or something like that hehe.

[_Maya_]

It's still one sided for sure.

[Alex-Snow]

It happened to me in my senior year of high school. We ended up having a lot of fun and a bit more!

[_Maya_]

Nice!

[Dnice1]

Yup and it worked out great, we dated for 3 and half years. It's a pity we didn't work out. He was great and I truly thought he and I would end up getting married.

[MyOwnMan2]

Why didn't it work out

[Dnice1]

Well it would be too hard for either one of to move. See we were long distance and we both felt like it would be hard for either one of to move and leave our families and home state. It was a difficult decision but we made the mutual decision to break up.

[Bklynbadboy12]

@Dnice1 That's my girl

[molonski2]

For me , many many times they have moved , certainly used to happen pretty much every time I went out , but I've seen it so many times , its hardly uncommon , been like that for many years.

[menina]

I've never made the first move. I probably never will because I'm not brave enough. 😂😂

Besides I'm 100% sure that I'm going to be rejected. So I don't bother trying.

[Bklynbadboy12]

What makes you so sure you'd be rejected

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 I like white men and I'm black. So, I guess it's obvious why I would be rejected.

[Bklynbadboy12]

@menina I'm sure there's some white men that want black women so don't be so sure you'll be rejected

[Likes2drive]

That’s how most guys feel. I wouldn’t reject you because you’re black , I’ve been with black women before and other races , but I’m white and they don’t know I might accept if I’m attracted to them

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 There are, but it's very rare. Besides, some of them have a fetish for black women. I don't like that and I don't want to be with someone who has a fetish for my race.

[menina]

@Likes2drive I know you wouldn't and it's nice to hear that. But most white men aren't interested in black women.

[Likes2drive]

Here in the United States it’s a little different, it’s actually more common

[menina]

@Likes2drive Yes, I've heard that too.

[Bklynbadboy12]

@menina Why does that bother you that will just make them want you even more

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 Why does that bother me? Isn't that obvious? These kind of white men only want black women for sex. They use black women. They're never serious.
And no, that doesn't make them want me even more. They just want a part of my body, they don't want me.

[Bklynbadboy12]

@menina Well you have a point there. But if that's true where does that leave you cause from the way it sounds no matter what you do you can't win

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 Where does that leave me, you mean what I can do?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes exactly cause unfortunately we can't control how someone else sees us

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 No, we can't. What I can do? Well, I'm doing nothing at this moment.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Unfortunately that's all you can do. Your a sweet im sure you'll find someone soon

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 I don't want to find someone soon but thanks.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So you'd rather be alone

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 No, it's not that I want. It's more that I need to be alone.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I can respect thay

[Bklynbadboy12]

That

[menina]

@Bklynbadboy12 Thanks. I'm glad you do.

[Lakeshore]

As a guy, it has happened to me twice.

The first girl was a nice person, and nice looking, but we didn't have the same values and goals in life. She was happy to stay home all day with her mom, never tried to get a job or any training/school to improve herself. And that was a major problem between us. I couldn't see her as my partner after 3-4 months.

The second girl who made the first move is who I married in a little over a year after dating. She's my soul mate of 43 years.

[Sugar100]

I’ve made a first move before and I got rejected in my senior year of high school by a guy.

I’ve been rejected my guys many times and I don't know how many times more more men will reject me now at age 25/26.

[zes0511]

yes the girl I've been hanging out with now did. she's asked me to kiss her the last few nights but i refused because she was drunk but the other night when she was sober she was sitting on my lap on the porch and she just turned around basically grabbed the back of my head and pulled me in to her face

[Nik1hil]

Yes, I have been approached but not like a first move.

Issue is, "She approached, the moment I show interest, she pulls away faster than light.", which 😅 means, "She just wanted attention, not my heart"..

[Summeroflove]

Yes but nobody should wait for someone else to make the first move. Because your only options are limited to who approaches you… It may not be the type you want.

[Sarahr123]

Never ever. I’m very traditional. Even if I like a boy I would never tell him that myself but usually he would speak himself and I would just speak normally and never prolong the conversation.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've had lots of girls make the first move, to the point where I've never had to with anyone I thought was pretty.

None worked out though, a few were near mental matches but not quite, and the rest I wasn't interested in.

[lilBigPotato]

I have. Don't like playing the shy girl who waits for her crush to make the first move just to see him then walk off with a different girl

[_SillyShoes_]

Yes, but it never turned out great.

In my personal experience, I now let the guy make the first move because if I do it I always know that he's just not that interested.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Yes, no problem.

I have zero insecurities.

Yet, I'm oozing with with confidence.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Now that's sexy

[DaBiggestBird]

Not jumping to any conclusions but I’m pretty sure one has and multiple times, but I’m not risking any 5 years in jail just for pointing out her sexual gestures, and then going to court after being falsely accused of something.

[SolitarySolace]

I’ve had a few who liked me. The only one I would have gotten with was still seeing someone else at the time and I didn’t feel right about getting with her. I turned down everyone else because I wasn’t interested. They all ended up moving anyway.

[sheenagwapa]

no... my confusion on datinh rules on wedtern culture doesn't count. it's funny how western people easily wanna feel better about themselves and so they don't really get to know the oerskn they are dealinh with because they are too excited to make themselves ferl better and treat the other oerson as dumb or that something is wronh with ger. i will never initiate because irl i eill never initiate. i am not a slave of having kids, of my age getting older, or whatever

[kaylaS91]

Yup. I made the first move with both of my last two exes and wouldn’t feel weird doing it again.

[Talksik6]

Do you cuck them

[kaylaS91]

@Talksik6 lol uhh no

[Talksik6]

I figured you might since there were acting like little sissies

[BunBun369]

I am pretty dominant in my pursuits of the people I am interested in. I am not a cowardly Lioness.

[BoopBoopBeep]

At least a dozen times, and that doesn't include deployments. It's always been quite flattering.

[ohsheeT]

A smart girl that looks from the inside out will definitely make the first move if she has that opportunity

[chaznthat]

I’ve never experienced it although I would really appreciate it if a women made a move on me. Where I’m from, it is usually the man who makes the move which sucks as I can’t flirt etc 😆

[kellytheman]

Yeah a couple times as long she knew me a little at first. I think more girls should make the first move if they are really interested or attracted to the guy and likely he might feel the same way but afraid to read you wrong and make a move.

[rebeliouse]

i wish more girls would make the move life would be so mor simpler.

why u stopped following me @_Maya_

[_Maya_]

I don't follow anyone. Never have so not sure what you mean.

[rebeliouse]

we dm before but it won't let me now maybe u need to dm me and i can again

[rosemilk]

not sure if i'd be where i am today if i hadn't made the first move lol so yes.

[stratford]

I think I've probably had a girl make the first move on me, but I lack the perception to notice.

How obvious do you think a girl should be?

[sheikalana]

Yes, I made the first move and now we're married.

[Jerre]

Yes, several girls made a move on me. We dated and had a great time.

[Jerre]

@_Maya_ Thank you for the Like

[_Maya_]

You're welcome!

[Con29]

Nothing really happens though because I have explained the things I like

[Con29]

Can I explain to you about the things?

[_Maya_]

Sure knock yourself out...

[Con29]

Can you message me?

[_Maya_]

Why does it have to be private?

[Con29]

Because anyone and comment on here but I will do it

[Grovermint]

For future reference, you can set it up to not allow anyone but the asker to respond when you post.

[dannybear]

@_Maya_ @con29 Like a boxer, of course, like Mike Tyson.

[dannybear]

@con29 @_Maya_ Sorry about my comment, as I would not want to get into the ring, or for that matter, be anywhere near Tyson.

[juliammm]

If you want quick or casual fun, you definitely have to make the first move.

[serious]

Well, no that has never happened and in many ways it was good it never happened.

[summiter]

Before I was married I loved it if the girl made the first move. It was a pleasant change!

[strateguy632]

in recent years almost all relationships, each she approached me.

[Christoff92]

Sure once they see that the guy isn't trying to play and is really doing his own thing. Meaning focusing on his potentials then looking to see what she's wearing.

[RavVid]

Girls have made it ungentlemanly of me not to ask them out.

[_puzaa_]

Almost always. I do not mind making the first move at all. I go for what I like. It caused few problems in the past but as we get older, I realized that I do not care. If the guy has a problem with it then he is not for me.

[Anonymous]

Yeah as a kid I liked a boy and decided to message him confessing my feelings, and got blanked.

Ever since, I never made a move on a single guy and let them all chase me lmao

[ColHathi]

Girls have made moves on me, yes. A number of times actually, now that I think about it 🤔 I don't think I've ever really made the first move.

[Mehrsia]

I did and it never worked for me. Guys do notntake it very well, plus you should be ready for rejection and takes it lightly and move on.

[Mansearching]

Yes she did. Ex did that. Went to puck her up and she opened door naked. Grabbed me and took me.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Women asked me out/started a relationship with me several times. Nothing wrong with a woman taking action and being proactive.

[Viktor001]

In high school my crush asked me out and because I was stupid, I froze...

[dannybear]

Many girls have made the first move in general and on me.

[dannybear]

Sorry, but I am like the closest thing to being a women, of course, stuck in a man's body. Some men actually ask me if I have a 'pussy' or a 'uterus', but unfortunately, I do not have one.

Circling back, when I used to serve and strip frequently, and sometimes, during the one offs, I still recieve these advances.

[John-spark-naked]

We both are friends on facebook and meet in real life and she wanted to hook up with me so she told me she likes me and we started our journey

[musicbrain5]

Yes, a few times! But it never worked out.

[_Maya_]

Ah too bad. Always worth taking a shot.