Am I too possessive if I love being the only female in my male friends group?

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So, I grew up with a brother, 1 year younger than me, he had lots of friends, I grew up being spoiled by him and his friends too, because he was very respected and everyone admired me because of him.

So, I was used to being the only girl and quite honestly I loved being in the spotlight and being the only girl who had access to all this guy talks and secrets.

I was quite girly and they always respected my presence with them but I always felt the best in those kind of situations.

So, now at work, my whole office are guys and we have girls in another office but the guys are the closest to me. As they are also foreigners and we found a lot in common.

So, tomorrow we have a day off and I wished to go out, they all decided to come and have fun along with me. So tomorrow, there will be 4 of them and me going out to do some aim shooting and karting and I am very excited and also, what excites me is that I am the only girl there and feel in the spotlight again.

Am I being childish for enjoying that?

nastyb · Accepted Answer

yes. I do think its a bit childish. Its a type of thing teen girls tend to like. By your age, I would assume you've outgrown that. But honestly... I think that you are very needy of attention. Its not that you simply like the spotlight. Everyone likes the spotlight to a certain extent. But You are "in need of MALE attention". You're likely insecure to a certain level or you are the type who does things to get approval from men.

But understand that as you get older, you will find that there are a lot more guys that aren't single. So just because you are the only girl in the male group, it doesn't necessarily mean they admire you. Just because they laugh with you, it doesn't mean they will leave their wives or gfs for you or be open to your advances.

rienna888 · Accepted Answer

I think it’s normal, I feel this way too. So there’s no competition and I notice guys will try to put down a female to impress another.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

No , I don't think so I think many people feel like that , I go out with a group of females , golfers and caddies here , most are married , my interest is completely no sexual , and we have a great time , I'm always the only guy , and I really love it like that , one time another guy turned up , and it was still really good , but the dynamic changed , at the end of the night they tell me " We not bringing again khun Molonski , was no good " ,

I just said fair enough , so I get what you like about it.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

I think a lot, if not most people like to stand out in their group as the nexus for the others. My understanding is that position is actually vied for by the dominant personalities over time. Celebrities are popular to much of the population. That seems the same thing on a larger scale I suppose.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Possibly. I'd say it's childish if you expect to be the only female around other guys in your circle all of the time. It's a little attention seeking in my opinion. Are you allowed to enjoy it when it do happens to be this situation every once in a while... yes.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i wouldn't call you possessive but you could be an attention whore or just one of the guys. it's actually nice to know a girl who gets guys, so until you start fighting off their girlfriends, i think it's perfectly okay to like hanging out with whomever you like

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes.. if you need that much male attention you obviously have something wrong in your life lol

spartan55 · Answer

Yeah, that sends the message that any female attention cannot be shared because you are insecure.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

Haha it may be a bit petty but do it if it makes you happy

Grond21 · Answer

It's not childish to enjoy it. But it is not something you should focus on artificially creating.

Emilianorodríguez · Answer

Hahahaha, she is in need of attention, she wants all those manginas to be flattered only to you, I recommend you to mature.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes you are your only there friend they have to have a life as well

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone need your presence to brighten their days...

Jennz6 · Answer

Nah, we all love the attention 💃

Andres77 · Answer

It sounds like you’re power-hungry…😜

KrakenAttackin · Answer

This is attention whoring.

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