This girl at work (who lives with her boyfriend) was going out of her way to flirt with me; (compliments, collar-fixing, blowing a kiss, touching my face, following me in the parking lot to ambush me at my car and invitingly reminding me that we’re social media friends, “message me!”) I told her my interest to be romantic with her at some point but she cut the conversation short before I finished drawing boundaries. She quit responding when I did message her so I quit talking to her. She came back months later prodding me for attention; I told her sternly that we needed to have a conversation. She said she was “nervous” and “anxious” and didn’t want to talk to me in the parking lot where she’d ambushed me before and where we’d met 1-1. Acted very snappish, like she didn’t want to talk despite being the one prodding me for attention and I got mad at her, raised my voice. She told me to shut up and go home and that we’re not friends anymore (a label she had never used despite me asking for clarity in the prev. conversation she cut short; that she’d only talk to me about work.) I said ok and left it at that, back to not talking. 3 weeks later she breaks her own rule and asks me about a mutual friend; when I tell her what we do she says “Oh, I do that too!” Since then she’s acted as though she’s confused by why I’m ignoring her; I talk to her for work and am civil but cool and short. She seems to have grown somewhat perturbed by my behavior. She occasionally mumbles a barely audible “Hi, (my name)”, she’s commented “I like your shirt,” or “I thought you were behind the office prank.” A couple times she’s come up to where we both file papers & just kind of silently hovers (she could come at any other time I’m not there); last time leaving with a bit of a stomp when I didn’t speak to her or look at her; just making space for her to file. What’s her deal? If I make her anxious why not avoid me completely and just keep it professional?
Why does she act so inconsistent? Why not avoid me more if we’re not on good terms?
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Indeed I am…and truth is stranger than fiction.
Why do you write these kind of stories though?
Alright my matter-of-factness is working against me—-I will try to break it down thanks in advance for reading—
All this is in fact a true story; by coincidence I’m an aspiring writer (obviously your 1st comment was saying “I don’t believe this, you made it up” but…
I work a regular office job which is where this odd situation occurred over several months.
You can believe it’s made up if you like but I’d appreciate it if you analyze this person’s behavior as though what I’ve written is the truth.
It’s not the whole story of our interaction bc of space limitations but it’s reflective of the recent past. And I know it’s odd, which is why I’m asking. It confuses me too, lol
If interested feel free to ask more questions and I’ll elaborate as best I can without divulging identities.
It seems she's playing both fields. She wants her cake & eat it too moment. She's taken & probably doesn't or can't leave but to me she may have a little thing for you..
Interesting that you say that…I’ve incidentally overheard her talking about her financials before; maybe some dependence there based on what she’s said about that & her family life.
I appreciate the commentary 🙏. My gut feeling was that she does or did like me even though we’re unfriended atm. She clearly wanted my attention at least.
From what I know it was only a couple months into her relationship that she began flirting with me; would you say that reinforces your idea?
She wanted your attention for sure
She's probably walk infront of walks and had a bird shit in her face. Dude just carry on with your life man