I crashed my boyfriend’s car, not that bad but I feel very guilty, how do I get over it?

[Anonymous]

We where at a party and both drunk I thought that I was less drunk then him so I drove and driving off I crashed into a pole in the parking lot, I feel super stupid about it, my boyfriend isn’t mad but I still feel stupid and embarrassed about the situation, I am an airplane pilot so that makes it more embarrassing for me

[WaterIsland]

Ugh. Yeah it was a stupid mistake you made. But guess what. EVERYONE has made a stupid mistake at some point.


The guilt feeling is normal. It shows you care.


Here is the way you have to frame it and think about it. You have to fix the situation. And you have to learn from it and not do it again. If you do it again in the future, there’s no sympathy at that point. But it was a mistake. Learn from it and move on. Use it to make you a better person.


But guess what. It’s fixable. You can work with your boyfriend to pay for the repair cost. And you can learn from it to not do it again in the future.


I’m glad your boyfriend is so sweet and supportive of you. I’d also rely on him. Talk to him. The more he reassures you it’s ok, that might help you too. Just be careful because if you just keep feeling guilty and he’s trying to make you feel better but it’s not working, it might turn into him getting frustrated that he can’t absolve you of your guilt. Because he wants to help but he doesn’t know how. And that can lead to possible frustration. But he sounds like a great partner and I’d lean on him if I were you.


It’ll all be ok. It really will be. Wishing you the best!!


And although I’m 100% sure you know this, as a student pilot myself: make sure you are below the legal alcohol limit before flying again haha.

[Asker]

Thank you! This helped a lot

[andreasderjuengere]

I do hope that you're not flying for Cathay Pacific?

My company booked a flight for me for today...

Silly little accidents do happen. But to drink before that wasn't a good idea, right? :)

Your embarrassment looks justified to me; but I would be surprised if this will end your career or will be tattooed onto your forehead.

[Anonymous]

bet you would feel more guilty if you killed someone because you fucking drove drunk... get your life together jesus!

[provokeesmokee]

Pffft

Kiss your license goodbye if you get charged with a DUI, rightly.

[Asker]

Didn’t make it past the parking lot

[jshm2]

Not a very good pilot either it would seem.

You both will be jailed for drink driving when the matter is rectified and reported.

[Asker]

Who is gonna rectifie what? You watch too many movies bro

[BoopBoopBeep]

Was the pole damaged? Was it private property or a utility company pole?

[Asker]

It was in the parking lot and nothing happened to it

[BoopBoopBeep]

Ok well at least you don't have to worry about THEM pressing charges

[Guido]

Only an idiot drives drunk. Go turn yourself in to the police. If you had killed someone your life would be over and you could rot in jail.

[Asker]

Theoretically I didn’t do anything because I never ever left the property. So don’t push it

[exitseven]

As long as it is all good with him, put it behind you. They call them accidents for a reason just be glad you didn't get lugged for DUI.

[Anonymous]

It's his own fault. You NEVER let a woman drive your car. Some guys have to learn this the hard way.

[Asker]

Actually I kind of agree, but he gets drunk so that I have to drive, it’s so annoying

[Opinion Owner]

😆😆😆👍👍👍

[Luckycharms12]

You should feel bad and stupid could killed a family driving drunk

[scooogy]

Destroy it completely and tell him it was stolen.

[Jmmmfi4]

Suck his dick... seriously that makes everything better

[inhua]

help him fix his car or get a new one

[Anonymous]

You are retarded