Hi, so my problem is that I found out a girl has been lying to me through text for quite awhile and I've never bother to confront her about it until now because they been adding up and I do notice more about it and it makes me feel angry and resentment towards her and when I mention to her before about why she lied to me. She said if I was accusing her of lying and I kinda turned it around to see how she reacted and when I mentioned about the other stuff about I know she was lying and she said was, yes. So I already knew she was lying and I had resentment towards her because she couldn't treat me better when I been treating her well.
Ever since then is been 12 days. She hasn't said anything when I told her about lying to me and that she hasn't treat me well and have resentment.
Girls, let me know how does it feel when someone confronts you about lying. Do you stay silent and hurt or what?
Please let me know so I can understand how you feel and why. Thank you for taking your time reading all this. I know is a mess but not really rehearse.
Ever since then is been 12 days. She hasn't said anything when I told her about lying to me and that she hasn't treat me well and have resentment.
Girls, let me know how does it feel when someone confronts you about lying. Do you stay silent and hurt or what?
Please let me know so I can understand how you feel and why. Thank you for taking your time reading all this. I know is a mess but not really rehearse.
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7 mo
More answers please and thanks. I know lately I've been getting less so hopefully I get more at thus time
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7 mo
I know, I wish I said it right away instead of being too scared. I have low self-esteem so I don't get confident enough until I'm actually angry. Truth hurtsShe's been hurting me a lot, making me angry and causing me pain so I feel resentment towards her
What Girls Said
I don't know how it feels because I would never do what this girl did. In fact if I were you I would leave this girl in the dust and move on. I am assuming you are into her romantically and that's why the hurt. It is a big red flag if she is lying to you already. You can't trust her. Friend or romantic interest she can't be trusted. That will always be in the back of your mind... is she lying to me right now? That's a crap way of going through a relationship or friendship. Best cut contact.
I know, it is a crap way. I did everything for this girl just to get treated badly. We've been friends for almost 2 years
That sucks dude. I feel for you because that's not how a friend should act towards you. It's betrayal. Sorry.
Like I know when she's telling me the truth and telling me lies and her taking too long to respond back is a problem with me. We been arguing a lot this month, including last month.
I'd already told her that she has feelings for me and she reciprocated it back so I know she does love me but the problem with this relationship. I'm calling it a relationship because it is us arguing but getting along with each other but now that I haven't heard from her for the past 12 days of confronting. I just felt like it was time to bring that out again
Alright I'm going to just tell you straight that someone who loves you doesn't do this. I saw you wanted more opinions so I'll tag some friends. Good?
@roseysarah @BoopBoopBeep @Charliefretz329 @EmmaMary
I think they are likely to say the same thing but they are all honest people in their advice. Best of luck.
Do you think having resentment is bad towards someone? Figure I ask now
No because she wronged you. It is human nature to resent because of that. The problem is when you let it fester. You need to eventually let it go.
Thank you. I really appreciate your help!!
You're welcome. Those are all good people that tell it like it is. Hopefully that gets some more or different views than just mine.
I just saw another good guy active that gives good advice @exitseven
@middleagedclimbee
When an individual lies to another, especially when confronted about said lie, it's a betrayal of trust. It's one thing to keep a secret, but when you're confronted with a question from a friend, or a loved one, honesty is the only policy.
Really I'd feel so bad and say sorry! Most normal women would...
There are a lot of people who don't feel bad about lying 🤥 at all. She just ghosts you and moves on or gets angry and...
Your worth someone wonderful 👍 not some women who is a lying low life ruining your mind.
You liked her and it hurt she lied so take time heal and when your ready watch for that red flag and end it.
She just wants your attention maybe romantic but she just feels like she needs to lie!
a lot of women are not like that and will feel bad. They won't just lie for no reason like she is.
@_Maya_ 😊😊😊
I assure you that someone who cares for you and wants a healthy relationship, does not lie and certainly does not try to make you feel bad because you caught them in their lie. That is narcissistic/abusive behavior and in my opinion, a big red flag 🚩. That’s controlling and mean and abusive.
Someone who loves you gives 100% of their heart to you and feels your pain as their own.
Someone who uses you gives just enough effort to appear hurt so that you sacrifice yourself for them.