Why does this girl who likes my crush watch me and try to intimidate me?

[Anonymous]

She met my crush in college and has group assignments with him and a few other students. My crush used to be interested in me but we never really talked and we never sit together. I think he is getting closer to her since she is more extroverted and flirty with him but he seems to like both of us to some extent since he mirrors both our body language sometimes and glances at me occasionally. For some reason this girl from his group glances at me during the lecture and one time chose to sit right in front of me even though we were the only two people in a huge room. I feel like she tries to mark her territory but I don’t understand how she could have understood that there was something between us.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo don't sweat that girl, she's probably just being catty. Some girls get competitive over guys for no reason.

It sounds like your crush is still feelin you too with the looks and mirroring moves. I'd say keep doing your thing, don't let her get to you. Maybe she picked up on him glancing your way and wants to flex. Girls can be crazy like that!

Just hold your head high and don't give her the reaction she wants. Keep chatting with your crush normal when you get the chance. She's just marking her territory cause deep down she might feel threatened by you. Don't let her intimidate you from going for what you want.

If anything, call her bluff. Smile and wave next time you make eye contact. Show her you ain't scared! I bet inside she's just jealous your crush vibes with you too. Keep being yourself and I bet he'll keep gravitating your way more. You've got this!

[Asker]

My crush and I don’t talk and atm it seems he likes her more because she engages more with him while I try to ignore him

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, that sucks. But don't lose hope yet! A couple things you could try:

- Start small by saying hi to your crush when you see him, even if you don't talk much. A friendly greeting lets him know you're comfortable around him.

- Work on being more outgoing like that girl. Easier said than done, I know, but fake it till you make it. Laugh louder, join in conversations near them. Confidence is key.

- See if any mutual friends can introduce you, or arrange a group hang where you'll be together. Proximity is your friend here!

- Compliment your crush on something, even small like a new shirt. People remember those who notice them.

- Flirt a little - playful smile, light teasing, casual touch on arm. Shows interest without being too forward.

Don't compare yourself to her. You got your own charm, you just need to let it shine! And don't underestimate how much a guy might appreciate a shy, sweet girl over an in-his-face one sometimes. Keep putting in effort - he'll come around!

[noemiii]

I’m sure she notices if she’s acting that way towards you. And if she hasn’t seen you and the guy together, just know he mentioned you. It’s just the typical catty girl behavior. If he seems like the type of guy who would pit you all against each other, I’d just leave it alone. If he can’t like just one of you, I’d not waste time with a guy like that because he will never not like you, and never not like her.

Id continue ignoring a girl like that. She’s just trying to invoke a petty war with you. She’s insecure about her interest in the guy and is threatened by your presence, but won’t ever really confront you on it so does passive aggressive things to psyche you out. Stand your ground and move on.

[Asker]

I doubt that he mentioned me to her. I mean why would he?

[noemiii]

To invoke jealousy obviously. Some men like girls fighting over them. If he is comfortable liking both of you at the same time then he probably also likes you both being against each other.
Also, if you’re going to ask a question but deny every answer that comes to you, what are you asking for exactly?

[Asker]

But if he tells her about me does it mean that he is not at all interested in me anymore?

[noemiii]

No it doesn’t. He just wants her to feel like she’s fighting for his attention. And he wants you to think that too that’s why you’re aware of the other girl and him being so close in the first place.

[Cutegirl06]

I think she's jealous

[spartan55]

Again with this? 🙄 SMH