Do you think I can be friends with her?

[Anonymous]

I’m a single guy, and I was helping people out with their depression on Reddit. I like to do it because I like helping others out. I was depressed for most of my life, so I know how that feels. And this girl my age messaged me back and forth. And we’re online friends now because we live in different states. Anyways, she has kids and a husband. But the thing is, I get some flirty vibes from her. And she doesn’t talk about her husband at all. Reason I found out is because she mentioned it in a post from a long time ago. Do you think it’s a great idea?

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh man, I dunno if being just friends with this girl is a good idea. Getting flirty vibes from a married woman with kids? Sounds like trouble waiting to happen.

Even if nothing happens, it's not really fair to her husband. And you don't wanna be "that guy", you know? Plus what if things did progress and then you get too invested, only to find out she was just looking for an ego boost or something without meaning it.

I'd say keep your conversations with her focused on helping with her depression, but don't let them get too personal where feelings could develop. Make sure to remind her you know she's married if it seems like she's flirting. Better to shut that down now before anything starts.

There's lots of great girls out there who are actually available. Why risk messing up this married woman's family or getting your own feelings hurt? Maybe take a step back from talking super often so the flirty vibes fade. Just my two cents man, don't wanna see a bro get into a messy situation.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s okay but just be aware of where conversations head. I suppose it’s really her responsibility to not take it too far. You are single. You can do what you want haha!

[SolsticeSnow]

Not a great idea no.

Unless she's divorced now and just not mentioned that.

[Akam93]

Yes you can have platonic friendship.