I really miss her?

[Anonymous]

i had this friend, well she was my only best friend, we were friends for more than five years. She was a little bit “mean” to me but I didn’t mind it. Like she was commenting on trivial things that’s why I didn’t actually mind, but day after day I just kept it inside. And one day she made a comment about my looks “I’m not sharing details” but it’s basically something about my appearance and how she looks innocent and i look corrupt. It was so mean and i cut her off. After couple weeks, i had a party and invited her. She didn’t come, i asked her why and she blamed me for ghosting her, “i didn’t ghost her the thing is i didn’t send a message first”. So i told her that we needed to talk everything out so we can move on. So I told her what was upsetting me, i wrote so many paragraphs and i was pouring my heart out. And she only replied with “idk”
I was pissed. And the friendship was ended there. And I believe that she’s in the wrong, But now it’s been months, and i kinda miss her, should i send her anything or just let go?

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that sounds really tough. Losing your best friend of 5 years over something like that must have been really hard. From the sounds of it though, it seems like she wasn't really treating you with much respect towards the end there. Making rude comments about your looks and then not even trying to understand how you felt when you opened up to her - that's not what a good friend does.

It's normal to miss her since you were close for so long. But you've gotta think about if reconnecting is really a good idea or not. Would things even go back to how they were? Or would you just end up getting hurt again? Sometimes the best thing is just to move on, even if it's hard at first. Maybe give it some more time so those hurt feelings aren't so fresh still. You'll probably meet some new people who will treat you better too. But it's up to you - just be careful and don't let her treat you badly again, you know? You'll get through this, just hang in there.

[KrakenAttackin]

Send her a hand written note and see if the friendship can be rekindled.

[Natasha2024]

One thing I've learnt from friendships is that tou need to separate thw duration of the relationship from the quality of the relationship. If she was not building you uo in any positive way then it really isn't worth it. And it seems like you're the only one trying to make things work. If she cared enough she would've responded a bit better to how she hurt you not with I don't know. You may feel like you miss her but it may just be that you're attached and you miss how it was being around her. Focus on letting go of the idea of having this friend and rather look for friends that care and you can still have a good time with them

[HateyouxD]

No move on so much time has past and she only said I don't know

[Onyx436]

I’m sorry. It’s gonna hurt but let her go. It seems like you are not getting any reciprocation and no friendship should be one-sided ✨

[Anonymous]

It is time to let it go.