I just graduated college. I’m 22 years old and there’s this one girl ( a lesbian ) who I’ve had a couple of classes with in the past but it’s been a couple semesters. Once I was walking up to my desk and I caught her staring at me and we had another class the next semester and I definitely caught her glancing at me a few times but her and I never talked.
I think she would’ve been interested but I was also in a relationship and wasn’t interested in her until a certain point.
I made a new friend my last semester and I found out that the new friend follows this lesbian on social media. They’re both still in college and 21 but I think they’re graduating in May. I don’t know how to approach the situation and I don’t have Instagram other wise I would just slide in the lesbians dms lol so I’m not sure what to do without being weird? Should I just let it go? I’m not looking to necessarily get in a relationship but I think this girl could be fun. I don’t want to bring her into anything confusing because I kinda have a crush on a friend of mine and the friend is giving kind of mixed signals and gets jealous but I would hate to get with this girl and then things start happening with my friend so I don’t want the lesbian to seem like my backup option. I don’t think dating my friend would be a good idea because she has a lot of issues but I just want to make sure no one gets hurt. So for the lesbian should I add her on Snapchat? If so, what do I say? I have a friend who’s kind of a pessimist / realist and told me to go to the cafe where she works but I don’t really want to go there lol. What’s my best option?
I think she would’ve been interested but I was also in a relationship and wasn’t interested in her until a certain point.
I made a new friend my last semester and I found out that the new friend follows this lesbian on social media. They’re both still in college and 21 but I think they’re graduating in May. I don’t know how to approach the situation and I don’t have Instagram other wise I would just slide in the lesbians dms lol so I’m not sure what to do without being weird? Should I just let it go? I’m not looking to necessarily get in a relationship but I think this girl could be fun. I don’t want to bring her into anything confusing because I kinda have a crush on a friend of mine and the friend is giving kind of mixed signals and gets jealous but I would hate to get with this girl and then things start happening with my friend so I don’t want the lesbian to seem like my backup option. I don’t think dating my friend would be a good idea because she has a lot of issues but I just want to make sure no one gets hurt. So for the lesbian should I add her on Snapchat? If so, what do I say? I have a friend who’s kind of a pessimist / realist and told me to go to the cafe where she works but I don’t really want to go there lol. What’s my best option?
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Hmm yeah that's a tricky situation for sure. On one hand I can see why you might be interested in getting to know that lesbian girl since it seems like there was definitely some kinda chemistry there in class. But at the same time like you said, things are kinda messy with this friend you have a crush on too, so I wouldn't wanna do anything that could hurt her feelings or make things more complicated, you know?
If it was me, I don't think I'd try adding the lesbian girl on Snapchat out of nowhere since you guys don't really know each other. That might come off a little weird or like you're just trying to hook up. Maybe the best move is to just let it be for now and focus on trying to sort things out with your friend instead of bringing someone else into the mix. The last thing you wanna do is lead someone on if your heart's not fully in it. Down the line if things ever get more clear with the friend situation, maybe then you could think about saying hey to the lesbian in a casual friendly way. But for now I'd say just play it cool and don't stress too much about it. Her Snapchat will still be there if it starts feeling right later on, ya know?