So what do I do now?

[Anonymous]

It seems like since I recovered from my illness and had treatment, I’m less of an extrovert and people pleaser and more of a sensible, reserved woman who observes others. Since that time, I’ve lost 2-3 of my friends, who didn’t believe that I had a stalker and sided with him. Initially, I seem to be doing well. I’ve been nice and polite to everyone, including my abuser. But needing my friends to be there for me instead of my being there for them, combined with my personality change, seems to have put half of them off me. That means I need new friends. How do I go about making them?

[Anonymous]

Honestly it sounds as though you’ve benefited from this. I don’t know you, never met you, but just from reading your question you sound calm. You sound peaceful, like your eyes opened to a lot of things. You realized a lot of things about yourself. While you may not realize it maybe the loss of those 2-3 friends was a good thing. I don’t know what kind of energy they brought to you life, but maybe it’s a good thing they’re gone. I know this may be hard to do but I’ve lived w the mentality now for the last 10 years that no one is coming to save me, I have to save myself. Don’t be co-dependent on others, depend on yourself. As for friends, maybe some sort of classes. Spin classes, gardening, there’s a lot of groups out there.

[SotiCoto]

Can't really answer that. I've not gained any new friends in years.
But as long as you're maintaining the new you consistently and still interacting with strangers, some of them might end up as friends.

[laly520]

try to go out often so u can interact with others
keep it friendly n nice n u will make friends in no time

[HateyouxD]

Why are you nice to your abuser?

[Asker]

I have this need for everyone to like me. It’s something I’m getting therapy for.

[HateyouxD]

Would you like to be friends? I see myself in you and maybe we can talk when things get hard? I'm laura

[Anonymous]

Online apps, the bar, social gatherings. Etc.