How do I get more confident around the girl I like? How do I act so that she doesn't realise I am nervous?

[Anonymous]

[DreamCrescent]

fumble the first time around and get better the next. that’s the short answer


practice a little in the mirror. nothing you can do about nerves, i wish i could tell you differently. they have to deliberately exposed to the source of what’s scaring them and desensitized that way so they won’t bother you in the future

[Asker]

I did fumble the first time already. She seemed shy too, but she is always shy. I'm just frustrated because when I am not nervous I am such a 'fly guy'. That's why I always end up with those girls I didn't put on a pedestal.

[DreamCrescent]

i understand. but babe, there’s no antidote or a practical way to become not nervous. you must hide the nerves and put yourself out there. establish rapport until the nerves are desensitized/you’re comfortable enough around each other

fake it till you make it is the only advice, really

[Jim_F]

There are two ways of getting confidence, you are either born with it or you develop it at some point during your life.
To develop it one must practice, practice, practice!

I’m not saying it always works but if you don’t keep trying then it will never come.

[Unknownuseraccount]

Don’t overthink it just be yourself even if you’re nervous. One time a guy seemed nervous to talk to me but that made me nervous too in a good way. I could tell he liked me but he told me like 10 months later 😿

[Asker]

I always do that, but they sense my anxiety and then they tell me at some point that I am shy, even though I try to hide it. Did you like that guy?

[Unknownuseraccount]

I did like this guy but he posted a girl and thought he didn’t like me. I felt hurt but he never knew. Then some time passed and a bad guy talked to me and unfortunately he played me. I wish I saw the signs of the first guy who even warned me about the other dude. But you should always give it a shot you could save a girl from players ☺️

[Asker]

She likes me too as a person, I know that. It's just the pressure that I want her to like me more than that. She is the conservative type and she dates to marry, so she is most likely very selective.
Well, I am the same guy who played other girls... I didn't cheat, but I lied to them, I was toxic. I am completely opposite sometimes.

[678987]

How do you know she dates to marry? she told u that? Anyway, why you idealised her? and you said you are toxic and played with other girls, so why/how she makes u uncomfortable?

[678987]

clarify "I want her to lime me more than that" as if you want her to love you? How old are u guys?

[Asker]

She is religious. Because she seems to embody what I look for long-term. I used to be toxic a few years ago. The fact that I was like that with other girls doesn't mean that I can't be shy with others

[Asker]

To be attracted to me and at some point, to love me. We are early 20s