How to stop being such a timid person?

[Anonymous]

I’m plus size and quiet, I’m not outgoing and have insecurity issues. At work I stay away from confrontation, I work with nurses and I’m afraid they think I’m easily able to be pushed around. I’m trying to get assertive, but I’m 26 and I’m not there yet. I’m a CNA, but sometimes the nurses can be bossy I try to ignore it but I want them to think that this isn’t okay. One nurse told me I’m quiet and don’t talk a lot, idc though cause I’m not telling personal details for them to gossip about. I am bad at socializing, I used to sit far away from them but now I’m sitting by them. They say I do a great job, but I feel like a kid. They are younger than me and are so smart and confident. I don't know what to do, how can I get more assertive?

They don’t believe me when I tell them I’d tell them if they were being rude, I don’t want them thinking I’m a pushover.

Even on video games I have a plus size character and I get shamed daily fat shamed. I know it’s VR but it’s like real life. Anyways, how can I end this? How can I make people think “oh she takes no shit”.

I’m 26 almost 27. I have gotten better but I want to be the best

[Lokiion]

Sounds like low self esteem anyways think of who you want to be and what you currently are then decide on what you need to do to meet the goal of the person you want to be for example you said you are quiet start talking to more people everyday start a short conversation with people at work and such you said you don’t want to be a push over how would someone confident and assertive act and look. Of course take this with a grain of salt I’m 17 and don’t personally know you however I feel like this was some decent advice that could possibly help you out or point you in the right direction

[JayBones]

I don't know if you can ever stop being a timid person. As a very aggressive person and a complete extrovert I always took personal offense to timid people and tried to force them to come out and play. It worked some times. It failed often. If you make aggressive friends or lovers you don't have to be less timid. They will do it for you.

[bobalife]

Sometimes being silent is more powerful than you think when you don’t let their words affect you :) Other times, it’s also important to be assertive and have boundaries. Usually I don’t mind what people say, I think it’s more empowering. But I do mind if it’s people I care about or if I don’t mean to hurt/upset others feelings.

[tfan1]

Ignore them. If that doesn’t work take self defense classes. Confidence is key.