Why are more then 85% of girls that are good looking or pretty. So shy about their appearance or insecure?

[Anonymous]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm not sure if it's 85% as others pointed out but I do think there's too much focus on form over function in women's bodies.

With men, we tend to have more focus on function: run fast, lift heavy, last long in bed. It's mostly about function first and foremost unless we get into the bodybuilding craze.

So it's not that men are judged less on their bodies as I see it. We're judged a whole lot. But we can improve it by focusing on functional improvements because we're mainly judged by the functional and above all judge ourselves mainly by the functional. The only thing we can't change are things like our height, and that tends to be the most common insecurity I find in men.

That's why I suspect PEDs are more prevalent in men (especially among people who aren't professional athletes) and eating disorders, anorexia, and cosmetic surgeries more prevalent in women.

But judging ourselves by form leads to far more insecurities than function, since we don't have nearly as much room to change our form as we can function. So I think it's this emphasis on form over function which is what most tempts bodily insecurities in women, and the emphasis on function over form that possibly tempts fewer bodily insecurities in men (although I am seeing an alarming number of men these days insecure about their height).

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think we also need to separate ideals from standards. Ideals are not standards at all; they're ideals because we don't expect people to achieve them. They're there to motivate progress in that direction, not to reach the ideal.

Yet we tend to conflate ideals with standards for women. If we conflated ideals with standards for men like super tall men with perfect face and an 8-pack with the most athletic figure, I'd probably be insecure too. But I look at such as ideals for which I'm going to fall short, and fine with falling short of, and not standards; otherwise they'd be hopeless standards for me, and people who set hopeless standards for themselves will be hopelessly insecure the whole time.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

A factor is the beauty standard (for where I live. If you search "pretty" on the internet, everyone has the certain look. If you are different, you are not good enough to be called "beautiful".) Beauty clinics are everywhere. You will be haunted if you visit malls. The staff are so hard-working. They would scan the target from head to toe then ask if you "need" to fix something on the appearance.

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Or maybe because sometimes men compare women. Usually, I am fine in my own skin, my weight and some of my flaws. Suddenly, a man started to point out to another woman and said "She looks so nice, look at her perfect body!" Since I didn't receive the compliment, I started to feel insecure. I have no idea why some men love to tear our confidence down. It's a childish way to feel superior. Only women support other women. I am into aesthetics and express my impression to her when I find another woman beautiful. Children even toddlers are also honest when they spot an attractive face.

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Like some other comments, some women might experience the same esp. ones whose their partner constantly compare them to other women, so they're insecure and would like validation from other sources and strangers. I think complimenting is not a bad thing. Just be sure it's respectful and not objectifying. I found some vids sharing Bad Boys' tactics, mentioning that NEVER compliment a woman you like. What? I would say that is the most retarded way to get a woman's attention unless you want a low self-esteem one who will be attracted to you just because of those sickly mind games.

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Say it. When you are still young and single. You Have Chances. Not when you're too old and then you'll become a creep.

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[_Maya_]

Where do you get the 85% figure from? Do you have a credible source because I am not buying that at all. It sounds like a pretty big assumption and generalization. The first problem is who is saying who is pretty? Since beauty is subjective what if you find a girl attractive (pretty) but she doesn't? She is insecure because she doesn't find herself pretty but you do. So who is right? You because you think she is pretty or her because she thinks she isn't? So even some source that says that is going to pretty much bs for the simple point I just made.

[Abbycado]

What she said.

[DreamLife7]

😂😂😂 right like which Harvard research was this because I can't find it

[Light_beam]

@_Maya_ you just made the question look soo sillyyy !!!

[MMelanieM]

This is such a great response!! I literally had a good laugh after reading it. You are absolutely correct... but it took a different turn to the question asked hehehe

[_Maya_]

Glad everyone enjoyed. 🙂

[Light_beam]

Lol, smart and pretty ! Something is not right here !!! May be lesbian?

[Siri137]

Well, I can't add to this. Maya is correct.

[NamerOfStars]

Because we live in a society that values women primarily on their sexual attractiveness- or seems to, at least. They certainly get a lifetime of constant bombardment that looking good is the single most important thing a woman can do, and that no one will to be around them or interact with them (in ANY way, not just romantically/sexually) if they're not gorgeous. On top of that, they get constantly shown a barrage of women with all their flaws hidden by airbrushing, makeup, and skilled camerawork, and told that THESE women are "average".

You'd be insecure, too.

[Mr_twoface]

I don't know where you took that figure from, however, generally speaking societies and the rise of social media platforms like instagram and TikTok these days places a higher value on physical appearance, especially for women. They often showcase idealized, heavily edited or filtered images, leading to girls/women have a sense of inadequacy. There is also a constant bombardment of images and messages from media and advertising that promotes a very narrow definition of beauty. This can lead to having mixed feelings about their appearances if one doesn’t meet these often-unrealistic standards.

Also comments and judgments from peers/other girls about appearance can deeply affect one's self-esteem. Bullying or teasing, which can sometimes focus on physical attributes, can also contribute to long-term insecurities.

[ThrobbingMeat]

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[RebelinSteel]

Why do people keep coming up with wank stats from no where. How someone looks is really subjective and totally varies between people. Then shove in the bollox that is social media. The short version is nearly everyone has some level insecurity or a bit iffy about their appearance at various times. Society, the fashion industry, the beauty industry, social media all come out with crap to sell stuff. Also @_Maya_ is spot on.

[Berweic]

I am a really beautiful girl, too, but since women are given the perception of perfection nowadays, I can be ashamed of my small flaws and I want perfection. Unfortunately, this creates insecurity and I obsess. I constantly ask people around me how I look. I hope I can get over this, otherwise life won't work with this obsession.

[Anonymous]

Because they grew up around other woman. Woman can be competitive and vile. They want the man so they will say whatever untruth to crush competition.
If stuck in close proximity with these people, such as academic years, those voices can stick to the mind long after graduation.

[RavVid]

Female beauty has been a winner take all competition since Helen of Troy.

Plus they have a short period at the peak - 20 to 24 or 20 to 29 being generous.

Why wouldn't they be insecure?

[handsomelad70]

Women are taught to value their comeliness, so OF COURSE even ugly broads will be they're good-looking. Add that lots of even handsome men will try to date and bed ugly women, and you have plenty of women who aren't honest about their looks.

[Juxtapose]

I bet half the time women do that it's just to fish for compliments.

I mean, I don't get complimented much but I get complimented enough to know I'm not ugly. Isn't that fucking good enough?

[OtterMan68]

Same reason so many beautiful famous women get plastic surgery: Nicole Kidman, Kaley Cuoco, Natalie Portman, Hayley Duff, Kate Hudson, every one of Kris Jenner's daughter with the possible exception of Kourtney...

[IslaTheWitch]

upbringing, the school environment, not achievable beauty standards...

[jshm2]

Because no girl is pretty or good looking. It's why there is a whole industry to make them feel like they are

[WhitneySnow]

A lot of girls are shy or insecure about their appearance, not just the pretty ones

[laurlaur101]

Because guys just don’t go for me I don't know why I feel so rejected I feel like there’s always other girls they will prefer over me so that’s why

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[douride2]

Why are you so shy or insecure that you have to hide behind the anon feature to ask a mundane question like this?

[Anonymous]

Because our society tends to set a very high standard for women and we don’t feel we meet it.

[itsclearlynicholas]

It's a valid question, it's like they're all on a different planet lol 😅😆

[Nikki1989]

Where did you pull that stat from?

[laly520]

anyone can get insecure also from where did u get that number

[LiamJHayden]

Not sure it is that high, but some personality types focus on the negative. 99% can be great, but that 1% can consume them.