I went to a festival with my partner. Going to this I knew I wouldn’t bump into anyone I know because I’m mainly an anti social person, but I knew we would bump into people my partner would know.
Eventually we did, it was someone from his school (we’re both in our 20s and we did go to the same school but he was one year above me) and she hugged me and I said “I’m sorry what was your name?” Which then she replied with “you don’t need to know” and responded with “sorry I didn’t mean to offend-“ and then she walked off when I was in mid sentence.
I felt guilty and had felt like I just done something entirely wrong. I asked my partner who she was and he told me she was in his year (also we left school FIVE YEARS AGO) and I had told him of the encounter and he said that I shouldn’t have said anything and just hugged and smiled, but I thought that to be rude.
This has been weighing on my mind HEAVILY. I don’t know what I did, I tried to apologise, but still feels like it’s my fault? Even my partner sorted sided with her and just told me not to say anything.
Eventually we did, it was someone from his school (we’re both in our 20s and we did go to the same school but he was one year above me) and she hugged me and I said “I’m sorry what was your name?” Which then she replied with “you don’t need to know” and responded with “sorry I didn’t mean to offend-“ and then she walked off when I was in mid sentence.
I felt guilty and had felt like I just done something entirely wrong. I asked my partner who she was and he told me she was in his year (also we left school FIVE YEARS AGO) and I had told him of the encounter and he said that I shouldn’t have said anything and just hugged and smiled, but I thought that to be rude.
This has been weighing on my mind HEAVILY. I don’t know what I did, I tried to apologise, but still feels like it’s my fault? Even my partner sorted sided with her and just told me not to say anything.
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Honestly I don't think you did anything wrong in that situation. It's perfectly normal and polite to ask someone's name if they hug you but you don't recognize them. That other girl definitely overreacted.
I get why your partner would side with her since he knows her from school, but from an objective viewpoint you didn't do or say anything rude. She was the one who got all huffy when you just asked a simple question.
I wouldn't stress too much about it. Some people just look for excuses to get offended sometimes. As long as you were polite, which it sounds like you were, then try not to let it bother you. Easier said than done though I know! Maybe talk to your partner again and say you still don't feel like you did anything wrong by asking her name. Don't let her bad attitude get to you.
Perfectly said💯 this is what I exactly thought like the girl was kind of overreacting. Also, it has been over five years and not everyone will remember people in our life from the past years.
@sageeeeee For sure, that girl totally overreacted. Like you said, it's been over 5 years - there's no way you could be expected to remember everyone from that long ago. And it's not like you guys were even really friends back then or anything. She was just some random person your buddy kinda knew from school. I don't know what her problem was, acting all offended that you asked her name. Some people just love to cause drama I guess. I wouldn't waste another second worrying about it if I were you. You seemed polite by trying to apologize, and that's all you can do really. This one silly interaction says way more about her being immature than it does about you. I'm sure all your other friends there didn't even notice or care about what happened. Just put it out of your mind and enjoy the rest of your time with your friends at the festival. Don't let some weird girl from the past ruin your good time, man!
Honestly honey who cares. You can waste time picking apart that encounter in your mind but she isn’t even thinking about you, she’s moved on and you should do the same. She even said sorry if her response was rude so let it go already.
Oh I misread, you said sorry, not her. That’s even more reason to move on though, like you tried to right it and she walked away so you should move on from it too.
you didn't do anything wrong. you asked a common question. she was anti social