Is really fair that some women demand softer verbal treatment from men despite knowing the man is NOT a physical threat?

[Anonymous]

When it comes to verbal interactions men and women are on even ground. We both have two ears, one mouth and one brain. Men do not have any special advantage over women in a verbal arguments. An no speech is not violence unless it directly implies an actual physical threat e. g. saying “I am going to kill you!”. But just being upset and arguing with someone isn’t violence. That’s ridiculous.

It’s true that women have a natural fear of male physical strength and body mechanics. But most women know that most men can’t nor won’t abuse that physical strength advantage. Not without severe consequences. But even if there were no societal consequences with male on female violence most men morally refrain from that. Especially in modern times.

I’ve had women over the years use the bs excuse they are “afraid” to talk to me directly despite knowing full on damn well I was no physical threat to them. They know they can get away with that because society will side on their “safety and welfare”. But in reality they just want to avoid/minimalize their own emotional discomfort. These are often the same women who can dish it out but can’t take it.

[RebelinSteel]

There is a thing called menacing, guys do it to other guys and to women. You do not have to come out with a full on threat. Telling a girl you know where she lives, has zero threat to it, however most people would be concerned. Even if you said that to a guy with a dodgy smile it would possibly be menacing. You are wrong to say men do not have an advantage, implying something is a major thing. You standing in a bikers bar and a guy smiling at you and say holding a pool ball or similar can be unnerving. Also I defintely talk differently to my guy friends compared to girl friends.

[Asker]

Well of course in those scenarios the guy has an advantage. Especially if he’s a stranger and she doesn’t know his intentions.

But I am talking about scenarios where the woman already knows the man and also knows he’d not a physical threat yet he’s upset with her. Right or wrong she doesn’t want the emotional discomfort of having a confrontation.

I’ve had two woman I knew very well (including a relative) who took this cowardly approach. They can’t handle the emotional discomfort and are two afraid to communicate one on one. And “constraining” of men happens a lot.

[RebelinSteel]

Everyone is different, people react different ways

[Asker]

But men can’t use the excuse to say “they feel threatened” to not interact with other men or women in confrontational verbal disagreements. Not without losing face and being labeled cowardly.

But I’ve had women in social sphere, workplace and even among family who dish it out but conveniently act “threatened” when I throw it back.

[RebelinSteel]

I had a guy on here report me for saying he was a whiny boy
Zero threat but he can’t take being called out

[sirderpsalot123]

Agreed. As long as the guy isn't getting in her face, there's really no reason for her to be afraid.