So when something would happen her go to response would be that I triggered her often the things that triggered her were directly connected to my autism which she could accuse me of just making excuses. When the relationship was first starting I bought a consule so we could play games together well one night we were playing basketball and she was losing and got mad and hit me in the head. going forward I wasn’t sure how to play cause if I hit 3s I was shooting too many 3s if I dunked I was dunking too much or if I started going easier she would still be mad. Another time the dog grabbed something and ran off and I didn’t see it right away and she got up and hit me in the head. She would frequently call me a bitch. On the flip side of this I always treated her good my sister couldn’t see how I couldn’t give up because I believed that wasn’t actually her maybe it was a bad day. When her sister was about to be homeless I let her stay in my apartment rent free and bought her groceries even gave her money to buy things. I would spontaneously surprise the girl with dates when she would come home I knew her favorite foods sometimes I already had the food ordered or other times i already had the restaurant destination set. I got her thoughtful gifts for holidays, her birthday. I bought her surprise tickets to one of her favorite shows when I found out they were coming to town. When she got sick with Covid I had her stay in bed and i handled everything including our dog so she could rest. She came home on night cause she worked at a daycare with these weird spots and was gonna dismiss it and I was like no let’s go get it checked out and it was chicken pox once again I had her rest and I cared for her. She had a seizure on night and we woke up I got her to the hospital and stayed not caring I was late for work cause her health was more important. With all this I guess I don’t understand how I can trigger someone into abuse I thought I was being a loving boyfriend
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I've taken some fairly vicious beatings over the years, from several women who found it very satisfying to release their anger, aggression and frustration at my expense, and although things occasionally got a little out of hand, I'm very grateful for having received those thrashings today.
seems like better option is to end it
sorry
It did end I guess it’s more a reflection back and trying to make sense of stuff
good
u deserve way better
Was I too soft
u were a good person n nowadays good people have it the hardest
not ur fault so dont blame urself
Nah she's just an asshole
Yeah man I just occasionally think back and try to make sense of what happened
It has nothing to do with you brother. Hopefully you aren't with her anymore.