Revealing clothes are that bad?

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Hello strangers 💐I need some clarification about a specific topic. I admit I like revealing clothes because I grew up watching a lot of magical girls animes and I always loved the aesthetics 🥰🥰 the problem is that im a believer and all and so I showed a picture of a character to mom and she told me she looked like a slut because her dress was too short. I often heard women bashing other women with the word slut referring to clothes. For men, I heard that women who wear revealing clothes are not respectable and bla bla bla. But why all this hate? I mean I knew women dressed modestly who were very slutty and women wearing sexy clothes who were adorable and respectable. In my case, I see the woman body as a beautiful creation of God just like a flower. So why all this hate? My best exemple is this: I personally really like mens arms. So when I see men in t shirts I find them sexy but I’m not going nuts it’s just part of the world beauty so why it’s not the same for women?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

No. They are not bad at all. It’s simply a matter of choice and preference. There’s just a couple of things to factor into deciding to wear them. Biggest factor among them is the where. Wearing revealing clothing at the beach, park, a night out dancing, a date, or an amusement park may all be fine. The same outfit at a kids school event, workplace, or classroom may not be completely off limits but sure is going to create some negative response from some people as it treads into an area where some may not be comfortable. Weddings, funerals, job interviews, church, work functions…this could be a real thing and cause some reactions you may not want.

What are the reactions you may face? Absolutely, 100%, dislike and friction from other women. Some women can be outright mean and rude toward prettier women. Their man starts checking the other girl out and straight up anger and aggression can flare up. You may also have to contend with men (and some women) checking you out. When it’s that gym guy with the arms you’re talking about it probably will be fun. When it’s the pot-bellied creeper with a giant bald spot you may feel very uncomfortable. You need to sort out how you will feel & react to these things.

Lastly, somewhere in my life I realized I loved a woman in revealing clothing but particularly one who can pull it off classy and with feminine style. A woman who understands that revealing doesn’t necessarily have to mean as much exposed skin as possible is truly a thing to behold. Be sure to keep your class about you and don’t get so carried away with it that you tarnish meaningful relationships, such as with your parents, family, or close friends. There is a time and place for these things.

SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

Ignore the value judgements.
The fact of the matter is that if you wear revealing clothing, more people will stare at you... particularly men... especially smoothbrain, hideous men who have no concept of self-control and will stare holes in you.
In past centuries, wearing revealing clothes would have incited those same smoothbrain, hideous men to rape you on sight... but fortunately these days that mostly only happens with refugees from muslim countries who have no concept of how to behave in a civilised society (though there are other uncivilised people too).

The point is that, like it or not, there are negative consequences to revealing yourself even if you like how it looks... everybody should probably be aware of those consequences... and the "hate" you're getting from your parents is a reaction to the existence of those negative consequences and you effectively choosing to ignore them.

Besides, if I might be so bold as to say this... the very idea that society presents these sorts of outfit as "looking good" is precisely because they ARE sexual in the first place. Society WANTS you to wear things that men will stare at. Anime most certainly is frequently made to appeal to male sexual desires and will promote things which are revealing for that very reason.

So ultimately... are you willing to accept the consequences in order to look the way society has told you is good?

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

You’re basically asking about purity culture, and rape culture alongside the hypersexualization of women, which is a whole lecture apiece lol

The extremely summarized answer would be that institutions like the patriarchy and the church wanted women to look and act a specific way in order to “honor god” and also their husbands. You’re welcome to love whatever look you want regardless of how much it exposes, but there are going to be people who make inaccurate and harmful assumptions because of these influences and unfortunately you can’t determine how other people see you. It may not be a good part of life, or one you can enjoy, but you can still do you as you want to, just don’t expect your mom to be happy about your outfit choices.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Is not hating but if you want to be respected you need to present yourself a certain way. Respect is something that is earned and first impressions matter a lot. Is true that a lot of women who dress more modestly can have behave inappropriately and women who wear more revealing clothes can also be sweet and mature. But most of the times what we wear is an extension of our personality so if you wear revealing clothes all the time I'm going to assume you're attention seeking and is going to be hard for me to take you seriously.

Anonymous · Answer

Understandable. I think if I was in much better shape myself I’d wear nicer clothes. Not so much revealing, but things like dress shirts, dress pants, etc. So I can see why a girl would want to wear something like that because she thinks it looks cute, especially if she’s earned it by going to the gym. I think part of it is, is it appropriate for the setting. There are a lot of women who wear revealing clothing because they like the attention. We can’t control what others think or say. I’ve known women do dressed modestly but slept around, same w the reverse w women who showed more skin but didn’t sleep around. Sadly that type of dress style has been associated w that type of behavior. Again not always true but a lot of people in society associate that style w slutty, promiscuous women. I’m not a cop, but if I wore a cops uniform in public people would think I’m a cop. That’s just the reality of it. Your mom was born during a different time, she probably didn’t dress like that. Maybe she did but acts as if she didn’t. You just have to find that peace of mind in yourself w out seeking everyone’s approval. It’s never going to happen.

Novemberr_ · Answer

Revealing clother DO NOT make a woman slutty or something else in bad manners whatsoever. The value of a woman cannot be measured with the clothes. It's totally their preference but avoidance of disturbance to others is a requirement. I find revealing clothes so sexy yeah I am infatuated but never disturbed woth any of them.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

just be yourself... if you like some kind of clothes, wear them, just put an effort into keeping the way you look inside of the acceptable range. You are not a sole user of public places, and your appearance can have some impact on other people...

strateguy632 · Answer

it is a generation gap.

parents are old fashioned. she wants you to dress a certain way.

but clothing is dressed! i am 50 but i get with the times. common is common. not slutty. and slutty is the stuff pole dancers wear! different!

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

The truth is that the world is judgmental and has always been. Someone will always judge you for whatever you do. Like you, I came from a pretty traditional family. Some will laugh when you dress conservative, then also judge if you dress revealing. It's so weird lol. Just wear anything that makes you feel beautiful and let their eyes roll. Life is too short to give a damn about what other people think, queen. Flaunt it. ✨

Apple1996 · Answer

Clothes cannot make someone slutty. They are literally just a piece of fabric

laly520 · Answer

its nth new yk societal norms, different cultures n religious beliefs largely contribute to the judgmental attitudes towards revealing clothes for women n its also based on individual perspectives therefore some regard it as less elegant n pretty

pinkinthenight13 · Answer

Modesty is dressing in a way that doesn’t bring attention to your body. So, it’s really subjective. I think that you should wear whatever you want as long as you aren’t trying to be sexual. A lot of cute clothing is short and little, but it’s not supposed to be slutty. Some people just sexualize things too much.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It depends, if it's classy and a little revealing, not a problem. If the clothes are a little to revealing then they could be on the slutty end of the spectrum.

AliceGregory · Answer

This sums up my views!

Wise4myage · Answer

I think women wearing revealing clothing is fine as long as they don't overdo it, or wear that type of clothing too often.

Kelly6 · Answer

@misscouincouin i wear however I want to and however I look sexy. either it’s revealing or not.

jahaims · Answer

The only reason to wear revealing clothing is for attention from strangers. Attention seeking is an off putting quality.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not judgy like that myself...

nawtee_me · Answer

Because most men don’t think the same as women do. The world doesn’t see with a believers eyes either, they see with the devils eyes….

Twalli · Answer

Because society never objectified men. A girl who dresses revealingly generally is seeking attention with a sexual undertone.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you wear the uniform of a hoe don't be surprised when men see you as a hoe.

tasqueen · Answer

Always believe wear in which you feel comfortable

Anonymous · Answer

I take the Dave Chappelle approach to this. If you dress like a cop people will mistake you for a cop.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

I don’t hate you! What are you wearing?

Revealing clothes are that bad?

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