Why does my friend get mad and start double texting me when I don’t reply? When I do reply then she doesn’t continue the convo. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, your friend's behavior is kinda strange and immature. A few possibilities:

- She may have anxiety/abandonment issues and gets frustrated easily when she feels ignored.

- She could be seeking validation through constant messaging and gets worked up if you don't give it.

- Some people play mind games and like keeping you on the hook without actually wanting to chat.

- Or maybe she's just really moody and takes things personally too fast.

Whatever the reason, it's not cool for her to get mad every time! She needs to chill. If I were you, I'd have a gentle talk with her about setting some boundaries. Say something like:

"I've noticed you double texting when I don't reply right away. Can we agree not to get annoyed if the other is busy? Conversations don't always have to be instant."

Make it clear you don't like feeling rushed or controlled. If she keeps acting up after that, you may need space from the drama, sis. You deserve chill friends who don't stress you out! Don't let her issues bring you down. You got this girl!

[Anonymous]

Ignore her, and when she starts acting bitchy about it ignore that too. Doesn’t matter if she knows your whole schedule and knows you’re just sitting at home, she isn’t entitled to your time. You have to learn to set healthy boundaries with your friends and get rid of the ones who don’t respect them. I’d have a plethora of friends if I kept hanging around the women who demanded my time in some way, shape or form, then get mad when I’m not readily available. You have to put your foot down and show you can’t be walked all over no matter how nice and quiet you are.

[Asker]

I told her I didn’t want to be friends anymore (because of this) and she texted me 7 texts in a row along the lines of “thanks that makes me feel bad” “good luck” “I’m not the problem”
She’s incredibly psychotic. This is why I think ghosting can be appropriate.

[Opinion Owner]

I just wouldn’t say anything else at all. She sounds like a woman who is self absorbed and lacks accountability. I had to cut off a friend like that more recently, she wanted all my time, whether it was constant texts, calls, or being at my house in her free time. She needed me for every little thing, all her venting and issues, it became soooo taxing. Especially the fact she’d get mad when I dared not be available to go out, party or drink. Friends like that are toxic. I only have 3 friends who respect my time and vice versa. They’re cool when I have to cancel or reschedule, don’t flip out when we don’t talk a few days. Those are the friends you want.

[Asker]

I also feel like this friend gave me a lot of bad advice and when I would call to tell her about it she just feels sorry for herself and says “oh well I guess that’s my fault since I told you that”
Once she told me she got a restraining order against her husband and then a few weeks later told me they got together and she had sex with him 3 times.
I called her to tell her I lost my dog and her response was “ugh yeah everyone is going through a lot right now. So many people are losing someone” and in that same conversation she goes “a lot of women are jealous of me. I’m not” and something about how people are dumping their problems on her.