I like teasing my girlfriend but sometimes she cries but I think she's over reacting but I think we should break up cause I might not be good for her?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is sweet and tiny like literally the smallest thing ever she's 5ft and I'm 6 ft 3, she has very petite bone structure, she could pass for a 5th grader. We have a 18 age gap so she is fairly. it took a while for her to date me after we've known each other 2 years with her physically abusive exes before me but I'm the third guy she's given a shot. I run my own company and she works in aviation. She gets off fairly early and likes to spend the rest of the day with me if neither of us aren't too busy. She atleasts wants us to hang for 1 day of the week and she'll clear her schedule to tag along with me all day to work or whatever. But she takes everything seriously like my opinions on everything if I respond sure to something she's wearing or if u like it. she gets upset. Sometimes I'll point out that another girl is pretty and she'll get all sad. She'll ask for 5 mins of my time and if course I know its not 5 minutes she wants but I'll set a timer to tease her. My latest tease is we were on a walk one day and I walked a bit faster and she couldn't keep up and chased after me to stop walking she tripped at some point and I stopped to go help her then when I picked her up she started crying I was walking too fast and her tummy hurts. I didn't mean to laugh but I did but I just find her so adorable and she thinks everything I do now is making fun of her. I was complaining it was hot the other day when we were relaxing under a tree and she was on top of me she got up and I told her to lay back down and she said I was hot so it was okay, I kinda told yelled at her to shut up and lay back down I just liked holding her cause my week hasn't been the best then she laid down and started crying. I think I'm just hurting her and should break up I don't take everything as serious as her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. I get you think teasing is harmless fun, but from what you described it really seems to upset her a lot. Crying is no small reaction - she's clearly very hurt by your "joking" comments.

The age gap and past abusive relationships probably make her extra sensitive too. She's not overreacting - you're underreacting to how your actions make her feel. No one deserves to be with someone who regularly makes them cry, you know?

I think breaking up is a good call honestly. She needs to be with someone who treats her feelings, and her tiny self, with care. And you need to find someone who gives as good as they get with teasing. This dynamic just ain't working bro.

Learn from this - relationships take communication and compromise, not one person constantly upsetting the other "for fun." Do both of you a favor and let her go find happiness without fear of tears, okay dude? You'll both be better off in the long run.

[Asker]

I brought up the suggestion of breaking up it went horribly wrong. She asked if she did something wrong or if I'm bored with her. I explained that this was for her and she responded by saying she didn't ask for it and she became a crying mess that could barely get anything out. I hugged her and she's now asleep in my bed with very swollen eyes. I'll work on my toxic teasing but now she probably thinks I hate her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that must have been really rough seeing her so upset. I can understand now why suggesting a break would go south - she clearly cares about you a lot.

Don't be too hard on yourself though, you recognized an issue and were trying to do right by her wellbeing, even if the delivery missed the mark. That shows you've got a good heart underneath.

For now, just focus on making her feel loved and secure again. Let her sleep it off, then when she wakes up reassure her gently that you're not going anywhere, you just want to do better. Tell her specifically how much she means to you.

Going forward, be super mindful of your teasing - no joking about other girls. Compliment her sincerely instead. Ask how her day was and really listen. Small acts of care will help her see you support her happiness.

And remember - relationships take work. Promise each other honest communication from now on so issues get addressed together, not separately. I'm sure with understanding you guys can get past this stronger. You've got this bro!

[Zenpanda]

The first example you basically say okay 5 minutes but no more, basically indicating I'll only do this because you're so needy to her.
Then the next you actually walk away from her, creating distance where you know she can't really keep up.
The next you basically command her while she's both confused and not trying to be a burden.
It's almost mental abuse to someone so meek.
Stop with this type of teasing or break up, because you're hurting her.
Not physically like her exes, but mentally.
If you love her, then teasing her should be stuff like telling her you have a surprise at a later date and keeping her guessing for a while. Something that doesn't make her get stuck in her own thoughts that you don't like her.
I think she has cried enough, so unless they're tears of joy or from a movie, she shouldn't need the shed any more.

[Asker]

Thanks I'll take what u have said into consideration. I have made her cry a lot and unnecessarily. I'll do better, this has a lot of potential to become something. Especially since she started crying when I brought up breaking up. She fell asleep a few minutes ago.

[Anonymous]

U don’t give a shit about her. U are literally using her for time pass

[Asker]

I have intentions of doing that, she's a sweet person honestly, I would never want to intentionally hurt her or use her.

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣.

[Asker]

I don't wanna hurt her but I have joking personality and I don't take most things seriously she knows this.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol including her