Am I wrong for breaking up with girls’ that prioritize their friends ‘ over me? Read Below?

[Finchie40]

Not saying she can’t have friends’ but I usually end up with girls’ that want me to prioritize them and choose them over my friends’ which I do, because I put myself in her shoes , out of respect for our relationship together , I never exclude my partner from anything and I don’t have friends’ that exclude my partner as well , she is always my top priority , the same way I hope she makes me hers. usually in the beginning it’s never an issue , but as time goes on , it becomes an issue and she starts prioritizing her friends or friend over our relationship. Which turns into a double standard. My ex met a girl friend that she prioritizes over me and I felt hurt and upset that she is all of a sudden doing this to me when she never did it before because we were always inseparable so it was never an issue. When I tried expressing my concerns to her , she would get mad and upset and say I am being insecure? . I laugh because I think to myself didn’t you get mad and upset when my friend wanted to take me on a trip and you had a shit about it? So why do girls’ do this to their partners’? I don’t get into relationships to be single , it seems girls’ do. She never admits she is wrong. My ex met a girl that I feel is gay for my ex making me think my ex is bi sexual , by the way she prioritizes this girl, my ex stopped being intimate and affectionate with me the second she met this girl , so that threw a red flag as well at me. This girl takes her on vacations and buys her gifts and makes sure I am excluded. I told my ex I don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl that doesn’t want to experience things together , or chooses a friend over our relationship Am I wrong to dump girls’ that are this way? I want a girl that wants to experience things together travel to places together that we never experienced before. When she is away , I have no clue what she is doing , or what she is really up to , so am I wrong to feel this way?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah bro, doesn't sound like you were wrong to feel upset in that situation at all. It's messed up that she expected you to always prioritize her over your friends, but then turned around and did the opposite with this new girl. A relationship is supposed to be a two-way street.

The way she suddenly changed and started blowing you off for this "friend" raises some serious red flags too, ngl. Taking vacations and getting gifts from someone else while excluding you is straight up disrespectful. Hard to blame you for thinking there could be more to it.

I'd say your gut was right to be worried, man. You don't want to waste your time trying to make something work if the other person isn't even committed to the relationship anymore. Prioritizing each other should be a basic expectation.

Don't feel bad about dumping girls who pull that double standard shit. You deserve a girl who's reliable, loyal and wants to experience life together just as much as have her own friends. Hold out for someone who treats you right, brother. Your happiness should be the priority here.

So nah man, you weren't wrong at all to feel the way you did or end things. Trust your instincts - they'll help you avoid wasting time on people who aren't really about the relationship. Keep your head up, you'll find the right one!

[Finchie40]

Thanks brother , that’s exactly my thinking and that’s why I ended things with these type of girls’ that think they should be catered to at all times , never admitting she is wrong and acting like she is always right , when I start dating a girl her and I have no issues with friends whatsoever , because her and I choose each other and know we want each other , but as time goes on and we both choose to commit to each other , these girls’ change their minds after some time together and act like they are missing out on things , and get jealous if a friend invites me somewhere and doesn’t invite her , she will pout like a child , so the goodness of my heart, I put myself in her shoes and tell her she can come as well. My friends, have never told me to exclude my girlfriend whatsoever , but when it comes to her friends’ excluding? is already a given and I think Wow , that’s fucked up , but ok , have a blast with your friends’ but don’t get upset at me when I go out with my friends’ without you. Every girl I have been in a relationship with pulled this shit on me because they are selfish little whores that want their cake and eat it to. I use to stay at home while she was away with her friends , thinking is she being good or bad , I assume bad because I was automatically excluded , I wasn’t even a thought , which to me is fucked up , considering I made sure she was included because if she wasn’t? I wouldn’t go period. I feel disrespected in the relationship and feel she is probably up to no good , which sadly at times I was right that she was up to no good , So I never sit around when a so called girlfriend chooses her friends’ over me , I don’t stop her from going , because in my mind she is no longer my partner by her immediately excluding me. A respectful girl will tell her friends let me talk to my partner first before I make a decision. Which is the respectful thing to do , but I received no respect in return , and that’s why she becomes my ex

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah bro, I totally feel you. There's nothing worse than feeling like the side piece instead of the priority, you know? Like if they're gonna be in a relationship, their partner should at least be as important as the friends, if not more.

It sucks when it starts off great and they're super into you, then all of a sudden their friends come first no matter what. That's not how relationships are supposed to work. You make compromises and include each other in stuff.

Then the double standards are whack too. They get mad if your friends wanna do something without them, but they can ditch you no problem to party with their crew. Fuck that noise.

The ones that never admit they're in the wrong are the worst. Always playing the victim like you're being controlling or insecure. Nah bitch, everyone just wants to feel respected by their girl.

You're totally right to bounce when they start treating you like an afterthought man. Once the trust is broken, it's done. Not worth wasting your time wondering what shady shit they're up to when they go MIA with the friends.

Live your best life without those disloyal hoes bringing you down. You'll find someone way better who actually wants to experience life with their man, not leave him at home every weekend. Keep your head up bro, you're doing the right thing.

[Mwolf]

It can be a bit hard trying to balance it all out. If one is going to say no male friends it should be expected that the other might say and should follow and not be hypocritical and contradicting themselves for sure. I get in a relationship you are exclusive and prioritize each other, but life also goes on and happens. Just cause someone isn't working doesn't mean you need to spend every free moment with one another and some people need time to recharge alone. Just like some are fine texting a few times a week, or preferring in person over video chat, being called "honey", "babe" or "baby" etc. everyone has a different preference it's what makes us unique. They have to be able to find common ground though. If my boyfriend and I don't go out on a date night for 3 weeks cause I was busy then the next weeks he is out of town with his buddies, that's just life, as long as he isn't cheating or only wanting to meet when he eats or never wanting to meet (which might make me think he might no longer be interested in me, in that case I would just straight up ask how he thinks our relationship is going. We are very straightforward with each other, open books.)

[Crimsyjo]

I tend to put my all. into guy I'm with. I barely even want to see anyone else. But I know this is not supposed to be healthy. So I wd hope any next relationship I can maintain some friendship time. But it would be a low priority for me. Ideally I'd love to hang together with my friends and guys friends or else have an agreement like once a month to be apart and see our friends. Relationships should be about balance, compromise and coming to agreements!

[Finchie40]

Yea I don’t mind if she has friends’ but I do mind if she chooses her friends’ over me when she clearly wanted me to choose her over my friends’ so it becomes a double standard and that’s why most relationships end. You can’t expect someone to do for you if you can’t do for them , it needs to go both ways , not one sided , when a relationship turns one sided basically their way or no way , they can have that relationship all by themselves. I don’t stay with girls’ that treat me like a convenience, because she will be my convenience as well, if she treats me like her top priority , I will make her mine as well. That’s how relationships work and how love grows between 2 people , not one sided nonsense. People should t be getting into relationships to act like they are single , when a girl starts acting like she is single , I will act single as well while I am walking away from her

[JustRollTheDice]

Nope not wrong you're their number one priority or nothing at all.

[Nikki1989]

That is some massive insecurity on your part. You are obviously not relationship ready.

[Finchie40]

How am I being insecure? It’s ok for her to do certain things but not ok for me? That’s not how a relationship works because it’s one sided , basically her way or no way , so I don’t tolerate that shit whatsoever, I am not going to stay with a girl that treats me like a convenience, that only wants things her way , she can pretty much have that relationship all by herself. I prefer a girl to give to me the same way I give to her , a girl that wears my shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers , if not’ it’s a waste of time

[SweetJoyGirl]

No, you are not wrong.

[Finchie40]

Thank you, you are a girl that understands respect in a relationship, sadly there are ones that do not know what respect even means

[SweetJoyGirl]

Hanging out with friends when you are in a relationship is fine, but you also have to respect your partner.

[Finchie40]

Exactly , if she wants me to respect her she should do the same , unfortunately I end up with girls’ that don’t understand this concept

[NathanDavis]

you have to earn that...