Feel bad and guilty for being pretty?

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to sound like flexing/seeking attention at all, saying this in advance. And this is a longgg rant cus I’ve had these thoughts for long.

Every time people call me pretty I’d just feel guilty and like I don’t deserve it. I often get compliments from strangers, almost in every places I go and every new person I meet they’d tell me I’m beautiful, regardless of genders. Im of course very very grateful for this and I’m happy that they’re this kind to say these nice words to me. But I just would still feel like I don’t deserve these compliments at all, I don’t think I’m really “that” good looking.

I also am treated nicely by most of the people, when I need help they would love to lend me a hand. And sometimes they might be especially nice to me, for example not blaming me when making a mistake (if others do the same they’d be upset), or offering special favor. I appreciate all of this but I sometimes feel really bad for having privilege:(

When a friend tell me that she think she’s not pretty I don’t know how to make her stop thinking so and I really want her to know that 1) she’s absolutely beautiful 2) I’d still love her as a friend no matter what she looks like. Also I feel super, super sad when another girl tell me that they wish they had my eyes/nose/height, and that they feel ugly. How much I want to tell them that they’re NOT ugly at all but really beautiful! (Ughh this sounds kinda fake but I’m serious!) I just want these girls to feel confident because I know the pain of seeing other girls and feel hopelessly ugly, cus when I was really insecure about my look I used to be like that too and I know how bad it feels.

I’m struggling with accepting compliments and feel bad for the girls who don’t think they’re beautiful or think they don’t deserve love bcs they think they’re not good looking enough. I really don’t think looks matter so much for a person!

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[Levin]

Don't feel bad or guilty. Love yourself.

Also, people don't respond to attractive people necessarily favourably. People try and cut down attractive people if anything due to jealousy. I had no idea I looked pretty decent until quite late on, because most people in high school are uncultivated and nasty.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice:) Luckily I didn’t receive much unnecessary hate in high school, tho in junior years there were.

[Levin]

That's cool. You seem like a nice person so you deserve to be treated well.

[MrZameer]

You shouldn't feel guilty for being pretty.
God made you pretty beautiful, so you should be proud yourself, but down to earth.
it's really rare that a girl is pretty but down to earth. But as you said that you are pretty and down to earth so it's very good to hear from you.
You should be happy on being pretty. And take all these compliments as Grace of Almighty.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes yes. Well I’m not so pretty but I’ve realized I’m pretty attractive. I wouldn’t ever try to cheat with another man’s woman but I’ve had married women throw themselves at me and see men get insecure when I’m around their girl especially when she’s looking at me.

As many people are nice to me I get occasional people who treat me like shit. I’ve realized that some dudes feel very insecure around men who are attractive. It’s also women who feel like they need to reject me before I reject them. I know this behavior when I see it.

But yes… I can flirt with waitresses and get free deserts and appetizers and drinks comped. Not always….. but sometimes. I definitely get different treatment from service and retail staff. Again occasionally I get someone who hates me for no reason.

I feel bad for a lot of dudes out there. I do….. I’ve seen women show a side of themselves to me that many men will never see.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes attractive people are treated differently and if also will crush a girls heart when I’m not interested. I try to be friendly I want to genuinely be nice but I can’t be interested in everyone.

[chilldude33]

Maybe you're getting favors because you're underage? Like they are literally trying to help a kid.

[Asker]

I’m not a kid, I’m already 19 and working part time, I chose the wrong age before

[ehatsham_hussain]

And most girls do anything for that.

[Asker]

For?

[ehatsham_hussain]

For getting fake compliments and being called pretty.
I don't think all compliments are real.

[Anonymous]

When they say hotties are dumb...

[squadrista]

Oh no