My wife is mentally unstable; what can I do, any advice?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I have been married for 7 years. Her strong, assertive attitude has turned into hostility, paranoia, and conspiracies. She’s isolating us, cutting ties with loved ones, and lashing out. I’ve tried therapy and counseling, but she refuses help unless I attend, despite no progress. What can I do?

[lightbulb27]

Find the source of the stress/brain damage. Could be physical, emotional stress, envirionmental stress, hormonal shift...

guide to deal with that stress by getting her lots of sleep, exercise, clean diet.

This is a real battle, you may not suvive.

Get support from family/counselor... for yourself.

[Finchie40]

Run the other way and move on, mental illness is serious shit and sadly it won’t get better , no matter what medications they put her on , it won’t make her better , it might subside it for a little but eventually it will stop working and you will be back to square one with her , , I been in your shoes man and I thought I could get her help , I have tried numerous times to the point I had to throw in the towel for my own sanity

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear what you're going through.

Have you tried talking to yours or hers parents for advice? You could try and apply to a mental health care facility.

Or when you have some alone time, I'm not sure where you're from but there are free support system calls you can call for advice.

All the best.

[White_Widow]

Have you tried talking to her? Can you narrow down as to when she changed and if something happened during that time that triggered this?

Also it might help to go to your doctor and do a blood test to check her hormones and vitamines levels. It could just be a simple vitamines sufficiency.

[MoonFace2]

I would go and speak privately to a psychiatrist or psychologist about her behaviour. I’m not questioning your sanity, I’m saying that they might be able to give you professional advice on how to stay safe and how to support your wife.

Mental illness is a complicated thing. I’m no professional but I have mental health issues, so it’s possible that she’s having a schizophrenic episode (Those are signs of it, some of which I had, the hostility, paranoia and lashing out). Before I got the right medication and time in a psych ward. I’m okay now. She might be okay too, with medication. On the other hand, you might just be in a controlling relationship and need to get out. This is where the advice of a therapist would be useful. They’ll have some idea of how her mind works.

[slatyb]

If she won't see a professional you may have to divorce it's tragic but you have a life to live. My brother-in-law began acting like your wife and his wife had to divorce. Now he's alone and won't talk to anyone.

[Apple1996]

Love and support her. It's all you can do. Men are often times try to slove problems when all the woman wants is to be heard, supported and cared for

[Alwayreckles93]

Maybe she got tired of your mother getting involved into y'all's marriage! My ex would always put his mom and little sister first and not me that was enough for me to drive me crazy.

[Nikki1989]

A therapist can provide you with coping mechanisms, support, and guidance on how to navigate this challenging situation. If she doesn't attend, you go yourself and work through this.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Get out. You can’t make her better, as much as you might wish you could. If you genuinely fear for the safety of you and your family, get out.

[Darklydarkened]

There's this Turkish proverb. "If you have a death in family, you cry for a day. If you have a madman in your family, you cry every day"

[Unit1]

Hostility?

Mmm. Another case for the Divorce lawyers to get paid.

[andreasderjuengere]

De-stabilize yourself. And you will be a good match again re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[In_Trance]

You have to take it on the chin.
This is what you signed up for

[genericname85]

she's isolating "us"? who's "us"?

[jahaims]

Attend with her if that is what she needs to get help.

[IslaTheWitch]

attend with her...

[Godihateyou]

G9 on an adventure vacation that is dangerous and make sure she doesn't make it.

[Flower7]

Why do you not attend then?

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe you should go too

[exitseven]

See if you can get her committed.

[BigTex53]

Find a good psychiatrist

[SleepingHazard]

Join her in therapy if that's what helps.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say it but I would get out.

[Mangospacho]

Is she going through menopause?