Should I let it go?

[Anonymous]

• So I've been friends with this girl for 4 years now and we've had our ups and downs just like everyone. We weren't so close in the beginning, she liked me and i rejected her but we stayed friends. We became a lot closer recently in 2024 and I kinda caught feelings and told her but she liked another guy so we stayed friends again and i lost feelings. We hang out or used to at least almost every weekend since we live in the same neighborhood. In October she said she wanted to hang out one day at 9:30 and she said "I'll text you at 8 ish" I waited till 8 and cancelled some plans for this since we haven't gone out in a while but I didn't receive anything not at 8 not at 9:30 not even the next day. I didn't want to text her asking what happened because the last couple of times I asked her to hang out she said she was busy so I thought she just didn't want to see me. A couple of weeks later I sent a snap of me studying a subject she has studied before and she replied saying "OH I MISS THIS SO MUCH, HOW IS IT GOING BY THE WAY" i replied saying it's alright and didn't try to continue the conversation so she didn't either. At new years eve I sent a snap of Christmas decoration and she replied with a heart emoji. I really wanted to talk to her so i just said hi and asked what she was doing on new years and we just ended it there. Two weeks ago a friend that hangs out with us texted me asking if i wanted to hang out with both of them so i said okay and then she said she won't be able to make it and i should ask the girl i talked about if she's still going i said no let's just go another day when you're available. We haven't talked since new years like i said and i kinda miss her cause she is a great friend but at first my ego was a bit too much and i acted like i don't care even though she might have just actually forgot about going out that one night. So do you think I should text her saying what's up maybe ask her what happened that day or just let it go? Thanks in advance!

[SueShe]

Yes you should let go because obviously, you are having a crush on her that is not reciprocated. You are putting your hopes high and then you fall from even higher when it does not work out.

Let her go because there is nothing positive going to happen. She is not really into you except perhaps a friendship but even that friendship is very superficial at this stage.

You are basically wasting your time on her. This time is better used concentrating on your education rather than to divert your time and energy on girls.

You have all the time necessary once you finish your education to get into trouble with women.

[Asker]

She comes back every once and a while though. She isn't helping me let go you know, everytime i try to forget she texts me or does something that pulls me back. Thanks for the advice though I will try to let it go.

[Anonymous]

You both sound too immature to be dating at this stage.

[Asker]

Yeah I get you but I don't care about dating her as much as i wanted our friendship to continue if you mean immature as in young im 17 and she's 16 so i don't think we're that young

[Avicenna]

Ask if you can ask nicely

[Asker]

I can ask nicely but I think she just forgot that day , because she asked again after. if she didn't want to see me again she wouldn't ask again you know what i mean

[In_Trance]

Move on