My girlfriend and I have been together for 11 months, but I’m getting frustrated with her not letting me know about her plans in advance. I’ll suggest dinner or a night together, and she’ll suddenly mention plans with friends made days ago but not shared with me. I’ve asked for better communication, but she thinks I’m being controlling. Am I asking too much by wanting her to keep me updated and reserve one weekend night for us?
- 23 d
Well, buddy, let me strum a tune for you in A minor 'bout love and trust, and how they intertwine, it's true. Eleven months in, and you're feelin' the strain, wishin' for a little more clarity, to ease your heart's pain. It goes a little something like this.
In the Bluegrass, we know about courtin' and care,
But even in the South, communication's a must, can't deny it, son.
You ain't askin' for control, just a simple plan,
To spend some quality time, with the girl in your hand.Now, I recall my own days, with sweet Kathie in the lot,
Those stolen moments, our hearts in a knot.
But even then, we found a way to make it right,
To share our schedules, and hold each other tight.God wants us to love and respect, to build a strong foundation,
And in that love, communication's the key, the main attraction.
Donald Trump, he may not sing a BlueGrass song,
But he'd tell you, clear talk keeps a relationship strong.You're not lookin' for dominance, just a little devotion,
A weekend night reserved, for a love that's in motion.
Tell her, gently, that it's not about possession,
But about trust, and being a team, through all life'session.So, grab your guitar, and sing her a verse or two,
About the love you have, and the future you pursue.
Let her know that your heart's open wide,
And together, you'll navigate this journey, side by side.01 Reply- 10 d
shut yo ass up you corny ass nigga
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- 23 d
Express your feelings in a calm & stern way after sitting her down, and say your minimal condition compromise/solution. Say you love her, want to spend time with her though find it hard when she doesn’t inform you of her plans especially since you are in a relationship with her. If she feels you are being controlling or unreasonable or something else then say you aren’t happy with your relationship & you want things to change for the better….
I believe she’ll come around. If my girlfriend said these things I’d take it seriously and try to work something out….
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- 23 d
Sounds like the honeymoon phase is done. Like I get having a “ladies night!” But why not tell you like how hard is a “Hey I’m making plans with my friends for this day. Hope you and your buddies do the same.” I mean sounds like she is being mean and doesn’t care how you feel. Could be she wants you to break it off. Sounds like you mentioned to her how you feel and then she pulls this card. That’s not cool at all and I’d hate that. Relationships are supposed to be based on communication and trust. Sounds like the communication she doesn’t want to hear it and the trust is starting to break. Best of luck to you man. You deserve better!
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- 22 d
Sit her down and discuss it, if she still says you are being controlling move on since she seems to like living like she is single and not in a relationship.
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- 23 d
This sounds like she isn't that into you and you are not a priority. You want to commit to a person who is totally into you and you are a priority.
Bottom line, she obviously isn't that into you and you are not a priority.
That is your queue to just end it and walk away. Start dating others.
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Totally agree
- Anonymous(45 Plus)23 d
lol my first thought before I read it was she probably thinks you’re controlling. Bingo!!! Who lives w who? Is it your place? Both of you pay for rent? I’m wondering if she’s just using you. Move on bro. Find a different girl. She’s probably been like this forever, no one has ever put her I. Her place. She probably settled for you cause she can’t get a man that she actually wants. So to her something is better than nothing.
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She needs to communicate better. It's not being controlling.
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Make her excited $_$
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Just tell her you made plans.
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terrible response delete your account
- 23 d
She doesn't like you
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