My girlfriend hates everyone except me?

[Anonymous]

She's quite antisocial and she makes herself no problem in hurting people who slightly cross her.
It was very difficult to gain her trust, especially with all the abuse she went through her whole life.
Have you ever had any experience with such a person, or do you have any advice for those situations?

[btbc92]

One thing I can't I stay in the people that's calling people antisocial and don't even know what that is. You have to remember especially as somebody who is also an abuse victim, she is an abuse victim. And when we go through abuse we can't just trust anybody because now we've been violated and been severely hurt, not just emotionally or physically. But also psychologically and mentally as well if not just spiritually. First you got to look at why did you choose to date her. Why were you trying to gain her trust? What was the benefit of it because I'm pretty sure she was not looking for you to be dating. If you're going to make those kind of assumptions about her, then perhaps you shouldn't be dating at all let alone her. You chose to pursue her and now you're complaining about what you can't handle? You knew she had problems before you were dating her. And the best advice that I always tell people, is that if you cannot handle it stay out of it. I went through abuse my entire life and I still go through with that with people. And the best advice would be for her to actually learn to love her stuff again. Because apparently you're showing you don't really love her either. There's a reason why we lash out at people and we don't do it intentionally. We do it because we're tired of constantly getting hurt. People who should have defended her don't defend her she had to learn to defend herself. When she didn't have it in her life she had to do everything herself. The best thing that you can do if you expected to by in this relationship, is to stop judging her.

Stop saying she has no problem hurting other people. She doesn't want to hurt other people. She want to feel safe and she doesn't feel safe. Stop treating her that she's a problem and she wouldn't try to be a problem. I think the wise choice for the both of you is just a cut off this relationship because it's not going to get any better. And she needs to go see counseling for herself.

[btbc92]

cannot stand about people*

[Anonymous]

My abusive ex husband

[Opinion Owner]

Something about this just reminded me of my ex and there’s actually a girl I live with who reminds me of him as well.

[Asker]

She's not abusive but she can be really jealous

[Opinion Owner]

How so?

[Asker]

She always gets worried about me, always calls me when I'm not with her and when I cut myself with glass it was a tragedy for her

[JKwolf]

Hi ! My girlfriend is exactly the same because of all the abuse she had in life.
She literally hates everyone and fights 90% of the time and stays calm only 10% of the time. I try to avoid all negative talks... But sometimes fight go bad. Very bad. I tried to change her. Only way she will change is with experience and understanding herself the importance of being good. Otherswise thers no solution to it.