How to know if your being minipulated?

[overlord337645]

so i orginally met this girl and gave her a drawing and she was receptive and she continued to be for 4 months and she even showed her freinds enthusiastically but she never talked to me then she suddenly had a freind tell me that i was makeing her uncomftorble so naturally i apologized to her freind since she had no intention of talking to me directly and i heard nothing for days before she tells one of my freinds i was and still am stalking her... I realize its likely i misread her signals but she never said stop until then and i did so is there any reason she might be doing something like this and acting like she hates me now considering i dont ever try to talk to her anymore or approach her or give her notes

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so i just found out today but apparently she is tryna be freinds with everyone i know and protect them from me using her ¨boyfreind¨ and im not sure what to do cause i feel like now if i go near my own friends she is gonna reinforce her point of stalking the only upside being is my father is a lawer but i dont wanna exactly play that card because i dont feel like i should have to

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that sounds like a really messed up and confusing situation. It definitely seems like this girl might be trying to manipulate you or play some kind of game. The way she was initially receptive and even showed your drawings to her friends, but then suddenly did a total 180 and is now accusing you of stalking - that's just sketchy behavior.

A few red flags that make me think there could be some manipulation going on:

1. The fact that she never told you directly that she was uncomfortable, but instead had her friend convey that to you. That's a really passive-aggressive move, rather than just being upfront.

2. Suddenly claiming you're "stalking" her, even though you say you've stopped trying to interact with her completely. That's a really serious accusation to throw around without any real basis.

3. The whole flip-flop in her attitude, going from seemingly interested to now acting like she hates you. That kind of drastic change in behavior is often a manipulation tactic.

Honestly, it sounds like she might just be getting some kind of twisted satisfaction out of having power over you and your emotions. The fact that she went from being receptive to now trying to turn others against you is a major red flag.

My advice would be to just completely disengage and remove yourself from this situation. Don't try to figure out what her deal is or why she's acting this way. Just let it go and focus your energy elsewhere. This girl is clearly messing with you, and you don't need that kind of drama in your life, bro.

If she continues to spread lies or try to turn people against you, you may even want to consider some kind of formal complaint. But for now, the best thing is to just wash your hands of her and move on. You deserve way better than someone who's going to manipulate you like that. Stay strong, man.

[Anonymous]

I think you took her by surprise. Just fall back and let her come to you