Is it really that bad to only want validation from men?

[Chelsdope0]

I live off the validation and lust from men… doesn’t matter who…

It makes me feel worthy and good.. it’s an addiction 😭

Updates

1 y

Like I have to continuously post half naked pictures of myself to feel remotely good about myself…

[abc3643]

Fun question!

Good for you!

BUT:

You don't want to make yourself into "rape bait". That is heavily flirt and then don't come through when he responds. It's like Charlie Brown, Lucy, and the football. After awhile, Charlie Brown would go "all Peter Griffin" on Lucy if she kept doing that.

So, sure, flirt or whatever and drink in their attention, but don't do it to the point that the man you've targeted becomes angry and possibly violent.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZkJAx8FycI

[abc3643]

RESPONSE TO UPDATE:
Yeah, that's the way to do it, but make sure you are sufficiently anonymous.
Maybe start an Only fans.

[Chelsdope0]

Yeah that’s my only concern… I wish I was rich enough to have a bodyguard lol… but I do fear that I’ll be stalked

[abc3643]

Well, for now, enjoy the attention. Makes me wonder what sort of fantasies you have...

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately it means you’re worthless and men who aren’t simps see right through it that… You have nothing going for you and his attention will never be enough so you’ll seek it form other men as well.

Most men want a woman who has a life going for her that doesn’t need constant approval and validation….

[Chelsdope0]

That’s not true. I have a life going for myself

[Opinion Owner]

I mean if your validation only comes form men that’s pathetic

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry…. But it is and if you’re even having to ask you probably know that

[Chelsdope0]

Okay I’m worthless. I know

[Opinion Owner]

I mean no decent man ever wants someone like that. Just simps and on the other extreme players and fuck boys

[Chelsdope0]

Well it doesn’t matter. I think lust is better than love… I’m not going to get my heart broken by “decent guys” anymore

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not… you’ll never be fulfilled ever especially when you’re older

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think any real decent dudes given you a chance. That or yeah…. They obviously break up with you

[Opinion Owner]

I mean if someone was looking for lust or just wanting to jump into bed. I would break up too

[Chelsdope0]

I’m saying when I was a “good girl “ I was still done wrong.. so it doesn’t matter

[Opinion Owner]

“Good girl” you mean pretended to be someone you’re not and the decent men could see through it

[Chelsdope0]

No not true..

[Opinion Owner]

I mean it seems that way by how you put it in quotes and who you are now

[Valdemort]

It's not necessarily bad, but there's a reason you do - which probably is a bad (or negative) reason.
Could relate, but you gotta figure out for yourself if it's really making you happy and if it isn't, you gotta find a way to work on that and not be looking for validation from outside.
You're likely just a little (or very) unhappy with yourself on the inside and I think that's something you might wanna work on.

[BarryLiverstone]

Good thing you learned your lesson. If he found out, you would be punished

[BarryLiverstone]

Sorry, I did that wrong and meant to reply to someone else

[Chelsdope0]

I had my heart broken and betrayed so I know I don’t want anything serious ever…I feel so safe emotionally in doing this. I’d never go back lol

[Valdemort]

Thanks for mho!

[emeraldsaphire]

I feel this so much. I don't do this anymore, but before I met my current boyfriend I had tons of nudes on my phone, and I'd send them to almost any man who asked. It mortifies me how many naked pictures and videos there are of me out there. :') thankfully most of them were on snapchat

[BarryLiverstone]

Good thing you learned your lesson. If he found out, you would be punished

[Chelsdope0]

I had my heart broken and betrayed so I know I don’t want anything serious ever…I feel so safe emotionally in doing this. I’d never go back lol

Does your current boyfriend know?

[Chelsdope0]

@BarryLiverstone how would she be punished

[BarryLiverstone]

By her boyfriend. He is a dom and regulates her kinks

[emeraldsaphire]

Ooof, I've been there before.
He does. He was an friends with benefits at first, but I fell for him and he fell for me.

[emeraldsaphire]

@BarryLiverstone He knows, and he didn't own me back then, so it's fine lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Right. As I said you learned your lesson, so you don’t wanna do it again

[emeraldsaphire]

@BarryLiverstone What lesson? I was single, and played with guys. Now I'm in a closed relationship so I stay loyal to him.

[BarryLiverstone]

That lesson., you are now loyal and don’t play anymore

[bowenw]

You may just like the attention. It is not uncommon.

[Chelsdope0]

Yeah that’s it nothing else

[bowenw]

I think a lot of people like to feel appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s not healthy. As time goes on you will get old. That validation will diminish overtime. Then what? I’m not saying that to be mean, it’s just more than likely what will happen as you age.

[Apple1996]

Nah its normal. Mostly everyone wants validation and attention

[In_Trance]

it might seem like all you want, but it will run its course and eventually won't fill the void either

[Chelsdope0]

Yeah I know

[TonyMetal___86]

A real man's opinion about a woman and his support to her are important!

[Chelsdope0]

I agree ☝️

[TonyMetal___86]

Also to us guys, a real lady's opinion and support matters to us 😌

[Chelsdope0]

Ofc 🫠

[Anonymous]

It's only bad if it bothers you knowing you're a shallow, one dimensional and low value woman. But only you can decide whether that's bad... to you.

[HungTexan]

I think it’s fine if it works for you.

[Dargil]

You sound too good to be true.

[Abbycado]

Yes, that is bad.

[Chelsdope0]

How so?

[Abbycado]

You are 27 and can’t answer that? Smh.

[Abbycado]

Why are you whining about it then?

[Chelsdope0]

I personally don’t think it’s bad. You commented saying it is. You’re 19 and you can’t have a conversation? You could have easily commented your viewpoint

[Abbycado]

As a nineteen year old, I did. Let me recap.

“Yes, that is bad”

There is my viewpoint.

[Chelsdope0]

Noo that’s your opinion.

[Abbycado]

Wow.

“ Your viewpoint is the particular way you see the world, or your distinct perspective on things. It's literally your point of view!”

Or in other words, an opinion. Ffs, muted.

[Chelsdope0]

I wasn’t just asking for a yes or no answer—I was asking for a perspective. Saying ‘yes, it is’ is an opinion, but a viewpoint requires reasoning. If you believe seeking male validation is bad, you should be able to explain why rather than just assuming I should already know. Dismissing my question by bringing up my age isn’t a real argument—it’s just avoiding the discussion.

[Anonymous]

No, not at all, i love women who want it and who accept it in a nice way

[ChicoFromThe305]

Whatever you gotta tell yourself lol

[Chelsdope0]

Here we go🙄 what is that supposed to mean?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nothing I haven't already said before, answering your question, it is bad but we have different opinions, it's why I said whatever you gotta tell yourself

[Chelsdope0]

I’ll say this again. LUST is better than love. LUST WILL ALWAYS BE BETTER THAN BEING LET DOWN. The most beautiful but most dangerous thing a woman can do is deeply love a man. Love destroys you.

If any woman genuinely loved herself she would do exactly what I’m doing.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Being owned by everyone shows the opposite of self love and self worth, love might make you vulnerable in certain ways but it makes a big part of your personality, you were given the ability to love, you should embrace it rather than please a world that doesn't care about you, by expressing your love you can at least find one person that will love and care about you, you let yourself fall and never picked yourself back up, that's only going to effect you and make you more miserable, no amount of unpure attention will fill the void, you gotta mature, this behavior is pathetic, a woman that loves herself would move on from heartbreak, learn and evolve, not collapse, and throw away her dignity to try to please a world that never be pleased.

[Chelsdope0]

I’ll be the judge of that.. you don’t really understand.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I understand this isn't the answer to your issue that will give you the best results, it might be a limited pain reliever but you are stubborn chels I'll give you that, a blessing and a curse indeed

[BarryLiverstone]

Not healthy. But you want to feel needed

[Chelsdope0]

Yeah, I want to feel wanted and desired

[BarryLiverstone]

Think that’s what many people want to feel