If a girl doesn't initiate plans at all, and as a result we never hang out, does that mean she has 0 interest?

[Anonymous]

[Miristheiss]

Are you already seeing her and going out from time to time but it is always you that initiates?

If you'd never see her or talk to her again if you weren't the one who called and who asked her to do things with you, meaning she'd never call you or ever initiate, then yes, she has almost no interest in you.

[Finchie40]

Not necessarily , she might be waiting for you to take lead , now if you take lead and she still doesn’t initiate any plans with you , then kick her to the curb , she is just using you , but if she likes you , she will initiate plans with you as well

[Asker]

What if I rarely if ever initiate plans or if I do they are vague?

[McLlovin]

Start initiating plans with women you date. It shows confidence. Confidence = attractive

[Finchie40]

If you rarely initiate plans , she is going to assume you aren’t really interested in her so she will probably keep her options opened for another guy that does. Most females’ are attracted to a guy that takes lead , that pretty much proves he is into her , she wants to be swept off of her feet from a knight in shining armor. , so if you want her to be into you , that’s the best thing for you to do

[Anonymous]

No it means she’s a straight woman. She’s looking for a man, you’re acting like a woman. As a man, you are the one who’s supposed to plan dates and take her out.

If she rejects you or cancel your dates without suggesting an other day then she’s not interested.

[Asker]

What if we're friends?

[blackeagle007]

You seem like a female

[Asker]

@blackeagle007 who me?

[blackeagle007]

No, the female poster

[heruncommonsense]

Pfft I'm a straight woman. I will never lose my virginity and I hate males, BECAUSE males refuse to act like women.
I'd rather be with a woman than a male even though I'm not attracted to women. At least I'd have a CHANCE of being safe and appreciated

[blackeagle007]

@heruncommonsense straight but you hate males? We don’t act like women because aren’t women!!! Makes sense doesn’t it? But ok have fun being single. That less cooperation with other of your cohorts

[blackeagle007]

Competition

[BB0909]

Many girls I know do not initiate a plan but may be interested in the guy. It would help to assess how she feels while hanging around you. Is she interested at all or not. That would be the biggest clue tbh.

[heruncommonsense]

Why would a woman hang out with a male?

Think about it. If she DOES agree to hang out, you'll complain behind her back. Males treat anything with a woman that isn't sex as a chore. This is one of the more minor reasons why I refuse to lose my virginity.

[Asker]

By hang out I mean like getting lunch or coffee together

[heruncommonsense]

Ok? Why would anyone want to do that with the opposite gender?

[heruncommonsense]

Doesn't negate my point at all

[RxR0954]

Alright coming from someone that hasn’t initiated further plans with their friends… she might just be struggling with juggling her own issues, not saying you were a bad friend or ain't worth hanging out with, some people are just kinda depressed and depression kinda takes all the joy of life away

[mitch7753]

well, it really depends if you’ve got her number and you’ve hung out with her before and she doesn’t ask you to do things every once in a while then yeah she definitely has no interest. Every girl I’ve ever hung out with That Like Me was always reciprocal. If I would ask her to hang out one time the next time she would ask me that’s how A relationship works it should be reciprocal. Don’t listen to these other people. They’re just lonely Cock suckers

[Asker]

We never hung out at all

[mitch7753]

Well, in that case you’re probably up a creek without a paddle, have you even talked to her yet?

[Asker]

We talk through text. She texts first sometimes and I do the same

[mitch7753]

Yeah well then just ask her to hang out take her somewhere and if it goes good for both of you I would say she’ll definitely ask you to do something or she’ll say something like hey When are we hanging out again?

[Asker]

I told her let's hang out or let's link

[mitch7753]

And she didn’t say anything?

[Asker]

She was vague. She was non-committal. Do you think that was because I didn't give her a set plan with a time, place, or activity?

[mitch7753]

That’s probably it what I would do is I would suggest a couple of different times and this is just an example you’ll have to toil it to your schedule. I would say hey I’m free Tuesday night and Wednesday night. I’d like to grab a coffee with you What you say do either of those nights work for you if she says yes she’ll usually pick a day. If she says no, but I can do Friday. That means she’s interested, but probably just busy if she just says no and doesn’t say anything else I would move on what you wanna look for is a little bit of effort if she says I would love to, but I got something else done and doesn’t offer any other times where the two of you can hang out I would just drop that as a romantic idea

[Asker]

Yeah I see the problem is I didn't do that. I would say I want to hang out and the way I said it it was like an idea and not an actual plan.

[mitch7753]

Yeah, man, do that. Just do something like that or it sounds like an actual plan. Women love men who take the lead and plan things you shouldn’t always have to plan things don’t give me wrong. You want her to show interest, but you want to do the first move so plan something with her hair in the next week and let me know how it goes. I believe in you, bro you got this good or bad. Just remember you had the balls to do it and that’s what matters.

[mitch7753]

Yeah, man, do that. Just do something like that or it sounds like an actual plan. Women love men who take the lead and plan things you shouldn’t always have to plan things don’t get me wrong. You want her to show interest, but you want to do the first move so plan something with her here in the next week and let me know how it goes. I believe in you, bro you got this good or bad. Just remember you had the balls to do it and that’s what matters. Sorry for the double post. There were some words that were misspelled because voice to text misunderstood me.

[BonzoInBitburg]

If she doesn't contribute anything to a relationship then she's not interested. If she agrees to go along with your plans then she is interested. Grow a pair and make plans. If she she follows you then great, if she flakes then move on.

[Asker]

Give me an example of real plans and not something vague

[egan3141]

"Would you like to join me for a run Saturday at 8 AM? Maybe meet at (some coffee shop near a good place to go for a run)"
"I think I want to go see (some movie) Saturday. Care to join me? Maybe 4?"
It's not hard to make a real plan

[AviatorTom]

If you hever hang out, that means you don't initiate either.

Sounds like neither one of you is interested.

If you're interested in her, plan things to do with her, and let her know you'd like her to do the same.

[beenherebefore]

Maybe means she wants you to be the one initiating. Women often do not want to come off as desperate or thirsty.

[Asker]

So a girl will text you first but won't initiate plans?

[beenherebefore]

Could be possible or chances are she just likes the attention you give her through text and doesn't really have the intention of taking things to the next level.

[queenofcardio]

She might prefer for you to initiate. Ask her

[Eddaisy]

Evet bYes, it probably has nothing to do with it

[Asker]

What?

[Staximus]

Grow some balls and ask her to go do something fun or out to lunch or dinner. If she says no then she's not interested.

[Asker]

What if she considers me a friend?

[stratford]

She either lacks confidence, is self centred or overly needy.

For a relationship to work, it needs to be two way.

[Anonymous]

Simple, you ask her instead.
That's when you fully and properly know in such case.

[seeyounexttuesday]

probably now that you've failed as a man in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

She is probably indoctrinated by patriarchy so she thinks that you have to initiate.

I really dislike that passive/submissive type...

[Rachel256]

No not necessarily. I would recommend you ask her out and not worry too much about if she likes you or not.

[ivydavis]

Girls don’t initiate plans. If you like her then ask her out. What does she like? Take her to do what she likes.

[Bloodbreath]

Yes.. if she's interested she will let you know

[Nikki1989]

We are not mindreaders. Ask her.

[Anonymous]

No. You should initiate.

[Asker]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

You’re the guy. Plus you clearly like her.

[Asker]

I'm confused. Girls don't initiate plans?

[Opinion Owner]

Some do. This one doesn’t.

[Asker]

You think most don't?

[Opinion Owner]

No. A lot do these days. But this one doesn’t.

[Asker]

I don't think she likes me at all. She text first but it's mostly friend vibes

[Opinion Owner]

In that case you’re probably out of luck. Any chance she’s interested?

[Asker]

Im really not sure

[Opinion Owner]

Try asking her out and see what happens

[Asker]

It's gotta be the right opportunity. She gotta give me a hook.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. Or you could just ask her and see what happens. Something casual, like coffee or a movie.

[Asker]

I understand what you're saying. Think about it if she wanted it to happen you don't think it would have happened already?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. Maybe not. She could be waiting patiently for you to make the first move.

[Asker]

For 3-4 years we have been in off and on contact. There were long periods of time we didn't talk because of issues.

[Opinion Owner]

Just ask her out! Worst can happen is she says no.

What kind of issues?

[Asker]

Issues that causes fallouts like immaturity, miscommunication, misunderstandings and other things

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm. Give me an example.

[Asker]

One time she was going through something and I guess because I didn't check on her and she was upset. She was acting cold towards me and I said something is wrong with you to her. We stopped talking because of that.

[Opinion Owner]

I think she likes you. Ask her out. Your chances are better than fifty fifty.

[Asker]

Why would you think she likes me? I'm curious

[Opinion Owner]

Because that’s the reaction of a girl who is frustrated because she wants the guy to ask her out and she doesn’t

[Opinion Owner]

And he doesn’t

[Asker]

We have known each other for years. This happened early on

[Opinion Owner]

She definitely liked you early on. Whether she still does I don’t know.

[Asker]

I'm not sure because even early on there were other guys she was talking to. She used to come to me for support

[Opinion Owner]

Just ask her out. Worst thing is she says no.

Gtg. Good luck.

[Tangxiaoxue]

It's hard to say, maybe she's more introverted

[In_Trance]

What else could it possibly mean?

[Anonymous]

Are you close friends?

[Asker]

Define what you mean by close friends

[Opinion Owner]

You speak almost everyday and you get along

[Asker]

We don't talk everyday

[Nemesis2k7]

Basically

[bunniesrcute]

exactly

[qwerty2469]

Yes.