What are the biggest differences between a woman you’re just having fun with and a woman you’re serious about?

[NotUrBB]

[Finchie40]

When a guy is serious about a girl he invests a lot of his time into her , calling her daily, wanting to see her as much as possible , He will prioritize her over everyone else. A fun girl barely gets the same attention, he will call her when it’s convenient for him, , he won’t make her a top priority, he will barely make plans to do things with her other than sex

[dynamicyandere]

One question: Can I see myself happily spending the rest of my life with them?

If the answer is YES, then it’s serious.

If the answer is NO, then it’s not serious.

If they are looking for something serious and I’m not though, I don’t pretend that I do — I let them know we aren’t a fit and we go our separate ways.

[beenherebefore]

A woman you're serious about is a woman you want to commit to and do things right. A woman you're just having fun with is someone you're just casually dating and sleep with with no strings attached and no commitment.

[Kelley1]

Men fuck down for sex, but they marry equals. Equals are wife material. Other women that you can actually have are only good enough to help satisfy your sexual desires.

[JDLives]

So true

[Zack-Bann]

Very easy distinction


A woman I’m having fun can hang around whoever she likes and I won’t even notice it


A woman I’m serious about, if I notice one guy getting too friendly with her it’s “hands off pal”


Once I begin to feel a little more possessive than usual (which is not a lot)
I know I caught the feels

[DishLady]

Aww... that's sweet.

[Piercejeans1]

Wow. Dead on. As I was reading your answer... there are lots of camgirl sites on the web. I can go into the "rooms" of camgirls and not care about who or what is going on. No emotional stuff going on. I tell you what... the worst is feeling attraction to a camgirl... out of the many thousands of them online.

I cannot go into a camgirl show of one particular woman... because it upsets me how the other guys online in that room are "treating her." I know its a woman alone in her home, camming, but the comments... rude and disrespectful... toward her I find very disturbing. Possessive and jealous, yes, those are good words to put on the feeling.

I told her all this and she knows how I feel. I think maybe its more of a father- daughter type of protective feeling. I think the government allows girls / women into that line of business way too early. 18-22 year olds should not be allowed into any form of pornogaphy. I realize I may be alone on this. I know the age of consent for adult industries is 18. I think its too young. We are talking girls who might still be seniors in high school. They have no life experience yet. They are easy marks for people wanting to manipulate them. Once again... I am open to reasoning. Tell me how wrong I am and how mature today's 18 and 19 year olds are... because then I will feel better.

[Zack-Bann]

I’m not sure your experience and mine are even relatable

I don’t do cam girl sites

The transactional para social relationship is unsettling and quite pathetic

There is no winning

[NoOneEver]

If I’m serious about them it’s obvious…

if I’m just flirting with someone there’s pretty much a lot of distance between us and nothing more than a few moments of banter and jokes with enough of a buffer where nothing is being taken further than that…

Being serious with someone takes more out of you and is more exhausting because you actually care, so suddenly everything matters, and they take up significant amounts of your time and thoughts and energy… Even when they’re not around to see that.. They even become part of your motivation in life, etc…

[RxR0954]

I could only answer this for myself from a wlw viewpoint, also from the viewpoint of someone that has fought like hell for their independence and ambitions. I tend to decide if i want to be with someone longterm based on these:

I’d say level of independence and autonomy makes the biggest difference. I wouldn’t want a woman who is still under her parents control. “let me ask my mom/dad” or “my mom/dad doesn’t allow me to do xyz” is honestly the oddest answer for someone pass 20.

The next factor is ambition and career. I can’t be with someone who isn't actively pursuing what she wants career-wise. As this is the central part of my life, i’d want someone that is on the same page as me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Your commitment level. That's about it. If you're just having fun with her, then you can drop her as soon as she becomes too much of a mind fuck. If you're serious with her, you're going to have to deal with the mind fucks and stay with her.

[Kelley1]

Fun girls are only good for a fishing season. At first, they are thrilled with guys out of their league, so they put in extra effort to be agreeable and please the guy. However, after two to four months, they start making demands, so smart men dump their sorry a$$es, and find new fun girls.

[PeachyPie93]

Usually they always tell you when they aren't serious.. like I'm not looking for a relationship or some other bs excuse.. Never ignore it or think they will change their mind because they won't.

A woman they are serious about they want to take her off the market very early on.

[Miristheiss]

Tattoos. Never long term.

Face, tongue, multiple ear, any private area piercings. Never long term.

Her sexual past or loose values.

A club girl, drinker, party girl, dresses provocatively.

Denies her maker.

Plastic surgery.

[Miristheiss]

PS - jobs that disqualify her.
Jobs with travel, police, flight attendant, long crazy hours.

Different values, life goals.

[OneViewpoint]

So you have a long list of insecurities and you're gonna spend your life alone. Go for it.

[Miristheiss]

@OneViewpoint
Dude, go for whatever woman you want.
Do not tell me what standards I should have.
Married with 2 kids so you do not know what you are talking about.

[AgentG111]

Fun means we are going to do whatever just to have fun.

Serious means the person you take interest and stock in for they are going to be by your side and rely on each other as a partnership!

[AviatorTom]

The main difference is the future. You think what might the future bring with the woman you're serious about, while just having fun is just in the moment, not thinking about the future.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

serious:

-genuine deep emotional connection

-green flags overweigh the red ones

-personality match

just for fun:

-attractive and hot but no deep emotional connection

-no personality match

-too many red flags for relationship

-not personality matchTranserious

[DishLady]

What kind of green/ed flags?

[Fromdusktilldawn]

@DishLady
red: self entitled, insecure, gold digger, gossipy, backstabbing, rude, no respect, no empathy, addicted to social media, being shallow af, manipulative
green: respectful, polite, gentle, loving, empathic, humble, being responible for her own actions, being funny and having humour, can talk about everything, easy going

[DishLady]

Nice... The guy would have to give as good as he wants to receive...

[Fromdusktilldawn]

@DishLady most of these just mean "be decent human being" but nowadays this seems to be too much to ask for

[DishLady]

True. But also the scales have to be even... Meaning a guy can't be an alcoholic mf but expect an angelic well-mannered classy gal. (And vice versa.) Both should be good people. Compatible...

[ProbablyClueless]

Emotional maturity. I need to be able to trust a woman to want to let her get emotionally close to me. A big part of that is seeing that she's someone who will nurture bids for connection.

[HighValue]

I don't just "have fun" with someone. Either it is a serious relationship with long term potential, or I am not interested at all.

[Spencer10]

One you call when you are horny and one you call just to hear her voice.

[Nikki1989]

The transition from a “fun” connection to a “serious” commitment is the shift from complementar to seeing them as integral. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Depends if the woman can be taken seriously or if she's full of shit. There are plenty of women i know who are full of shit. They'll say they like me and try to show interest but the moment i interact with them i easily see there true colors. There's only 1 woman maybe 2 who i know for 100% fact i can take serious one is Addison and the other I'm not mentioning

[slatyb]

I don't know. I was never with a woman just for fun.

[mysteriousNicholas]

The mentioning of jewelry stores and or rings 💍 chuckle chuckle 🤭 is the difference

Let alone signing a contract together - ooof

[Paige90]

You live with a person you are serious about

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't have fun with women which means i don't date for fun, if i ever date, it's going to be a serious date!

[exitseven]

She likes to drink and have sex all the time.

[Nice222]

For me it was financial stability. When I got married the statistics were that most relationships broke up do to financial arguments and was the main reason for divorce. So it was very important for me.

[LiamJHayden]

I stopped casual almost a decade ago, so if I an dating her the intent is serious.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I want to club both, but would financially prepare for a longer-term relationship with the latter.

[jahaims]

One is a broken slut that is easy to take advantage of and the other one has self respect

[Anonymous]

I never actually had a date, but if I were, it wouldn't be "just for fun", I want a committed relationship.

[Zoi_2]

You want to be in a relationship with them all the time or just be interested in relations.

[Anonymous]

The woman you're being serious about is being serious back.

[curiousandhonest]

Thinking of himself more and thinking of her more

[DishLady]

True...

[Anonymous]

Men like to play around. But if he sees a woman who has good gene they want a baby through her

[FunkyMonkee]

A few thousand dollars.

[DishLady]

Huh?

[Danny_dan92]

The answer is literally in the question

[Vegasrunner]

The amount of options a guy has.

[Cheerfull009]

Serious will give more satisfaction

[dougeats]

about $20000