Should I give old college female friends the coldest shoulder when they get married?

[GeorgePulchri]

I’m 28 (M) now and single. My reasons for not dating are irrelevant.

But I do still feel like when I talk to ladies, here and there flirty energy sort of just happens (I don’t intend for this, and I try to bury it or ignore it from them as much as possible). Most times girls don’t mean anything by it, they are just being friendly.

Although I’m good at ignoring these happenings, other guys I notice get kinda nervous or weird when they see me talking to a lady and she is smiling or laughing naturally. These anxious micro-tells from other males I’m hyper aware of, especially when they are dating the girl. (Do the girls not notice what is happening?)

Heck, last year, one of the girls kept coming up with excuses to hug me and got mad that I only gave her half hugs (and right in front of her sexual partner/ boyfriend to!!! I put up with it, but I felt so embarrassed!) She and her boyfriend are roommates with me for our house, (we were all coworkers in a stressful job) and I assure you, we have never ever slept together!!! (I’m a virgin)

Long story short…I don't mean to be mean to old friends, be they girls or guys, but I feel like the only ethical thing to do is to give girls in relationships as cold a shoulder as I can, so the guys know they are fine, I’m neither physical competition nor emotional competition.

I’m just not a heartless person.

[egan3141]

Let's say everything you presented is true. Do you really think you deciding to stay away from these women is going to change anything? The women are still going to treat people the same way they always do and the men are still going to have the same reactions they always do. So, other than being rude for a reason you consider good, what do you accomplish?

[GeorgePulchri]

I’ve never had a girlfriend. How would you respond if another guy was hugging up on the girl you are trying to build a sexually intimate relationship with and telling you they are just good friends?

I wouldn’t know how to answer that.

[egan3141]

There is a huge difference between a guy constantly trying to hug your girl and a guy returning hugs from you girl. If it actually bothered me, I'd say something to MY GIRL. She's the one taking action.

[Abbycado]

This is an immature and impractical mindset.

[GeorgePulchri]

Please please elaborate! How is it immature? I feel like a horrible person for existing.

[rachel776]

[HollyK21]

What’s the difference between a half hug and a full hug?

[GeorgePulchri]

Full - full frontal embrace, both arms clasped round other as tightly and cozily as possible.

Half - one arm barely hovering over the other’s shoulder, with light tap on the back, minimizing contact while still communicating the intent of a hug between acquaintances.

[In_Trance]

This is fucking lame.
I'll never understand you bitches that come online with multiple accounts whining about the same shit week after week

[GeorgePulchri]

What do you mean? This is my first account

[GeorgePulchri]

Whats lame about not wanting to cause people to be unfaithful to their significant others?