When women say "you are too good for me" what do they mean?

[Yesman69]

Happened with my bitch ex and now with this great beautiful girl, she says I'm too good for her and to forget her...Someone help.

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+1 y

Hahaha, no. You all are funny. They would say it and truly mean it. And It's kind of like that girl's situation with the great looking guy, talented, smart, wise etc. (Me.) And my ex was a pothead, had a kid. Etc. I was Mr. Perfect and she was below average class, though she had the looks. This new girl, I really like, and she is troubled due to past family issues, and I am a great guy and she feels she would bring me down with all her problems and thinks I deserve better. We talked.

[Anonymous]

idk it depends on the girl and the circumstance. I've said that before when I really meant the opposite, or when I just wasn't interested in a guy anymore

i have also said it and meant it. I'm kind of a bad girl, trouble at times. I was with this really attractive, good guy. he was sweet, amazing, kind, talented, intelligent, etc. and he wanted to marry me. I couldn't do it. I felt so insecure in a relationship like that with someone so perfect. I started being resentful to him because my flaws were greater than his, because people see the two of us together, knowing what our personalities are like and everyone says "youre so lucky to have him" and "hes such a catch, you better hold on to that, girl!" and I just highly doubt that anyone ever thought the same thing about me. aside from having a pretty promiscuous lifestyle (not when I'm with someone, but when I'm single), I'm a difficult woman. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, I'm opinionated, argumentative, and I'm perceived to be a bitch in many peoples eyes. I was the one who was lucky to have him, but no one thought he should have been with me. I had people telling me that to my face from his f***ing church, saying I should hope he could save my soul. I just got tired of it. he was awesome, but the relationship was f***ing ridiculous. I hate feeling like someone is everything that ill never be and he's only tolerating me, but I'm lucky to have such a perfect person in my life. so I needed out, and I broke up with him. I need someone who is closer to my reality, someone a bit more broken and dirty I guess.

its all so stupid though because I still love him. he has a new girlfriend though, he's moving on so I know I need to do the same.

[Prof_Don]

Oh wow, your entire answer sounds like a situation that I'm in with a girl...this is probably EXACTLY how she feels.

Thanks for the insight, Ms. Anonym. :)

[Prof_Don]

I never thought about that type of thought process before...

...see? I've been on this site for almost two years, and I'm STILL learning about the opposite gender.

8-)

[Apope16]

Your answer is exactly how it is with a girl im dating.

[Niceguyfinishedlast]

Man that hits. I have a friend that I love dearly and we got drunk together recently and this is kinda what she explained. She thinks she would drag me down and screw me over. Every time I bring up dating she runs away.

I just don't get why you would think someone who you perceive as better wouldn’t love someone like you even though you think you are so flawed. I want flawed, not perfect.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Well firstly men say that too sometimes so don't make this a stereotype thing. And it means that she's just not into you and can't think of a more constructive or creative way to express herself. I would come up with something much better like "OUT NOW DON"T WANT YOU! OUT OUT" or "Go get the mail for me, and while you are at it don't come back". At least I'm not covering anything up.

[Isaif370]

What if he actually does go check your mail and take it? Just thinking.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Isaif370

This is so old I can't even remember writing this.

[Isaif370]

Alright, haha. I just found this through Google last night :6

[Dudelinsky]

Whenever i fart or burp or act goofy around a female or tell her she reminds me of an aunt or if she has sisters who are attractive, it means i think she's fucked up ugly and shloudn't even exist. Especially if she's covering her face under foundation or makeup and looks beautiful but ain't when it's not applied and has too high demands for her own natural looks.
Sometimes i even let them pay my food.
You for an example. I would use you for your money and laugh at your dilapidated toilet bowl face from a distance.

[Dudelinsky]

One more thing. You look like a tenderloin.
Change that facial appearance before you reject any dude or you might be rejected at first sight, as i don't like females who look like rodents.

[udolipixie]

When women say "you're too good for me" what does it mean? Usually bs.

Most girls say that to reject or dump the guy while still having him feel good about himself.

When it's not bs it tends to be a girl with some issues. Self-worth or self-esteem who thinks she's not good enough for the guy or deserving of such treatment from him.

[Yeahhbro]

true true although the last part its bs though

[udolipixie]

@girlsareconfusing

Perhaps the last bit is bs for you as it most likely doesn't apply if a girl says it to you.

The last bit is a rare occurence.

It does happen as plenty of people out there with issues that feel less undeserving of certain people/treatment.

Two answers on here shows the last bit isn't bs guessing they did not lie.

[Gorce]

when a guy say's that to a woman, it means "I really like you but I am not going to change my lifestyle for you...there is too much p**** out there I KNOW I can get and I am not locking myself down to YOU" when a woman says that to a guy it means "I think you are a nice guy, but I am talking to a guy that really turns me on and there is no way I am wasting my time with you...little man!" the common demoninator is not wanting to waste time and keeping thier options open BUT saying it in a way that makes the other person seem more important as in " you are too good for me, you are better than me" *wink wink*. Sad but 100 percent true.

[frozenhorizon]

If she isn't making it up just to get out of the relationship, then the main reason is probably that she has major self esteem issues... as in she thinks she is a horrible person for no logical reason and no amount of logic will convince her otherwise. If that's what it is then she should probably go to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

To me, it kinda means that you cannot or will not treat the person the way they deserve to be treated. Either you don't like them enough or the way they like you, or you just can't be there for them because of some personality flaw, like being a liar or unkind. It could be that you end up with girls who know they hurt people and they don't want to do that to you. That could be especially true if you are attracted to "damaged" girls, which some guys are. If you have a "knight in shining armor" complex, life can be very difficult ... just as it is for girls who want to "save" a troubled boy.

[Dimonik]

A. You're not being manly enough (too soft/femine) for her. No need to be overly nice to her or tip toe around her feelings constantly. Just remember there's no need to be outright mean. ;d

B. She got issues with herself, and can't really understand why someone likes her.

C. She's just no interested anymore, and tries to end it without sounding too bitchy. Even if it is extra bitchy...

There may be other reasons, but I feel these are the most common ones.

[cindilynn]

I have never ever thought a guy was "too good for me" however the only thing I could think of as to why these girls say it to you is you're probably too nice! If a guy seems like a pushover or if he seems like too sweet to be real then most girls will run the other way. She is a bitch who can't be honest with you and say that there's no attraction to you.

[Catie101]

i can't say why every girl says it, I think everyone has different reasons. I have told my boyfriend this when I think about how good he has been to me and how much I love him. someone could be thinking the opposite of this but don't want to hurt you, don't know for sure but it seems plausable.

[MWalsh89]

Could simply mean she has some deeper rooted problem than you might know, like depression. I say this all the time to my boyfriend, not exactly, but similar things like I'm not worthy of him, he deserves better, etc. And I honestly think it has something to do with that. She might suffer from depression.

Sometimes it might be a way of know you've hurt someone, being hurt that you're the cause of hurt and trying to find some way to make it better and sort of clear your conscience.

[Anonymous]

You're a nice guy, and there's nothing "wrong" with you, but you're boring and you don't attract her sexually.

So she's trying to let you down easily, by saying you're good for her. What she means is, you're a good guy, but I'm not sexually attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

Girls are seriously bitches these days. They are snobby and yet have the nerve to say ''you're too good for me'' as a way of trying to tell you that they're too good for you. Funny things is, girls who look down on guys like that are not worth it and, honestly, you probably are too good for them. Don't waste your time on girls like that, find someone better.

[Anonymous]

maybe you're too sweet that it seems you're fake.

Some times my guy can be too sweet and it seems fake like he's just doing it because he has nothing else to do or something.

Or they might think you're doing it to them because you can't get anyone else.

Or they might think you're doing it to them because you just want any girl and they're not that special.

you know, they might have inferior complex or low esteem and feel you are too good for them and they need a bad boy.

who knows.

[kheserthorpe]

It means you're good on paper. Apparently she either doesn't have a big desire to have sex with you, or you make her feel crappy about herself in some way. Or both.

[TaffyTongue123]

She can be a really good person but feel guilty about being with you because you treat her so right and take her out, unlike her boyfriends or in some psychological cases, her father so she feels she doesn't deserve. The best thing to do is to show and tell her she does deserve U.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

It's utter bullshit. A piss-poor attempt to spare your ego. It actually means "I'm far too good for you but I'm going to pretend to be a nice person and spare your feelings."

[Yesman69]

Damn. Sorry to hear that.

[rachel05]

sry I had to comment on this one for u.. it's too funny... I've had guys tell ME.. that they don't wanna poison me.. because I'm too good for them lmao... I just found it funny when I saw this.

[Yesman69]

Haha, alright. :p

[Iceangel08]

I tell my husband that all the time. But I haven't cheated on him. For me I have always thought low of myself and thought that I was never good for him. At time I still think it. But I do guess every girl has a different reason for saying it.

[martyfellow]

She;s going to dump you for some guy with a hot car and/or more money to spend on her, in all likelihood.

Don't argue with women who say this, theyre nearly always right!

[Tenseven]

Sadly, it's prpbably BS. Who doesn't want someone who's too good for them? We'll all ride that train until the "too good" person tells us to jump off.

[Yesman69]

Right? That's what I thought. But, no. They try to be noble and "set me free.," but always come back.

[CestLolaVie]

They mean you're too good for them. They've probably cheated on you or know you're in it more than they are. These are the main reasons both girls and guys say it. I've been there, done that.

[justbanANNAz]

she said that and ur still calling her a bitch smh lol

[Yesman69]

Hahaha. She maced me. She was a bitch. The first one. Damn this is old. But, the first one was crazy and I dropped her, when she was supposed to return my stuff, she only brought some things, and cried about how hurt she was about the break up. I asked if she wanted to try again, and she said yes. Only to blow me off every time I would reach out to her until she told me to forget it because she had a date. Bitch. Anyhow, I've now learned the meaning and reasons why. But, thanks all. Haha.

[reixun]

They're letting their pity party inconvenience your relationship.

[Yeahhbro]

it means you are not good enough for me...i mean think about it, why the hell somebody complain about having too much? or the best? it doesn't make sense

[Anonymous]

It means you're nowhere near good enough for her. She's got another guy in mind who she's more interested in doing than you (or who she's actually doing).

[yololoyo]

It means you can't make her feel attraction for you

[Yesman69]

Hahaha. You have no idea how funny that is to me. No, I figured it out since I posted this a long time ago. But, if there was one thing I could always make a woman feel was "attraction."

[yololoyo]

Then fuck her and stop complaining

[Gommers]

It means they have plans to cheat on you in the future and pretend like they're not blaming you.

She's a wreck get the fuck out.

[Yesman69]

Damn. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, bro.

[Gommers]

Don't consider yourself immune to it, that would be foolish. You're smart enough to know that man

[Yesman69]

You have to know all the factors to know which ones apply. Trust me. I know.

[Fearless_banana]

Translation..
"I'm not sexually attracted to and I'm trying to let you down nicely"

[Yesman69]

In your case perhaps. Never in mine. Not since middle school, anyway.

[mshaker]

She cheated on you, and she feels like sh*t. You will find better. Take Care.

[Anonymous]

i have many experience of this line... it is very sweet line to tell you NO...

she has no interest in u...

{girls girls girls... without pe*** they f*** u).

[Anonymous]

It's a bullsh1t line that makes it less painful for them to push you away

[Anonymous]

it means you're really nice and they need someone who isn't as nice, so they don't feel as bad being a bitch to you.

[bcromartie]

That you're better than they are. They just don't know it.

[Yesman69]

Well... if they're mentioning it... maybe it means they know... you know?

[bcromartie]

Well... It has been 4 years.

[Yesman69]

Indeed.

[yopyopyop]

It's one of the most stupid way to break-up.

[belby]

she isn't interested in you.

[irykiryk]

*F*** off. General meaning.

[Anonymous]

She's letting you down gently

[Yesman69]

Applicable to other people. Not me.

[bruce3]

some say to not to sound rude when they reject

[anonman32]

i think its just a lame excuse.

[Anonymous]

Could be they are trying to let you down gently.