What makes desperate men so unattractive? GIRLS ONLY?

[Anonymous]

As the title says. I don't have much more to say on the topic, but it's telling me my question is too short. :D

[blah404]

Not all desperate men are unattractive, BECAUSE of their desperation. It has much to do with how they go about it.

If they are cheesy and hitting on multiple girls, just to get some a--, usually a girl who is not blinded by his kindness, can tell. therefore, making him unattractive to her. [not necessarily physically]

If they compliment once in a while, listen to them whine [or bit--] spend time trying to have a good 'potential' relationship with her, and even start up text conversations/calls/messages, in a 'smooth' manner, the desperation seems more controlled and mature.

[Asker]

Great answer! It has a lot of depth, and I liked that you took the time to reflect on a deep level. Thanks!

[blah404]

Why thank you :D

[Anonymous]

If I found a guy very physically attractive, and he had a sweet funny personality, but he was desperate, I would probably like him haha.

It's only unattractive if he's desperate in that he will get with ANY girl, because then we don't feel like he especially likes us, or if it affects his personality in a negative way, like he's whiny or depressing, or if he treats us bad somehow. Most often, desperate guys display all these traits and that's why we don't like them.

But if some guy was hot and awesome and basically begged me to be with him, of course I would haha.

[Asker]

Lmao! Good answer! That was really funny. Should've kept it un-anonymous and your owned that humor. :-P

[PoeticNinja]

Desperate men just choose to be with a girl just to be with someone. In order not to be alone.

Desperation is an unattractive quality for one to have.

[Asker]

So, it's because they don't actually like you?

[PoeticNinja]

Basically, yes. Then, they'll pass you up when someone else comes around.

Besides, someone eager to date are more prone to make rational decisions.

[Asker]

That's an interesting observation! Have you known anyone desperate who's done this? Or anyone who dated a desperate partner and this has happened to them?

[tastyapricot]

The man that is desperate can look like he has no character. Nothing to stand on so to say, making a date seem unbearable when a guy tries to impress too hard when you know by his actions there is nothing to impress with.. I hope that made sense.

[Anonymous]

it's like an instinctual thing that repels us. to me I guess I feel like he will go for anyone so I am not that special just the girl who was "willing" enough

[Asker]

Interesting answer! I think I'd have to agree, and good point as for it being instinctual.

[Cuddle_Muffin]

They pressure you and they are clingy as f***. They usually add a huge baggage to my easy breezy life style.

[Anonymous]

for me, its just the simple fact that I'm not sure if they are actually into me or is that they just want a relationship or "good wife" to bring home to mom type of deal.

[rdabby]

Because they are desperate?

[Asker]

Dig further, what makes desperation so unattractive?

[JackieJohnson]

Will I have fun with him ? Even a tiny bit ?

[Asker]

Why wouldn't you?

[JackieJohnson]

Because a desperate (whether it's a boy or a girl) always want to get others' attention, complaining about random stuff & not laughing !

These are the three worse faults I expect people not to have ! It's just my opinion though..

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing!

[Anonymous]

Desperate men are clingy. People don't like that.