Do you think women will always 'gang up' on a guy if there's a disgreemtn or breakup involving one of their friends? Regardless of who is right?

[martyfellow]

Will they 'back up' a woman who is clearly in the wrong, even if they know she's in the wrong? Will they ever break away from this girl solidarity code?

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+1 y

Poor proofreading, sorry!

[lumos]

No. Not always. Sometimes, yes. But most of the time, REAL friends are able to tell when their friend is in the wrong, even during a breakup. I'm friends with this one girl, and she used to date one of the guys in our class. They weren't 100% exclusive, but they had gone out on several dates so it was kind of expected that they probably shouldn't hook up with other people. Well, she did. She played around with multiple guys at parties and did provocative things with them, even when her date was near. It broke his heart to be honest, and we (her friends) actually DID tell her off more than once to either stop playing around, or tell her date that she isn't interested in him. She was being a shitty person and we weren't afraid of telling her that.
But obviously, you need to understand that some girls like to twist reality, especially during a breakup. This goes for guys too. I.e. they will say stuff to their friends about their ex to make the friends gang up on him/her. One of my friends rejected a guy once (and apparently he was seriously "in love" with her). She did it very politely. But the next day, his friends started harassing her on Facebook, calling her a bitch for rejecting him and so on. So honestly, guys aren't much better.

[jrose]

I can't speak for all women, but for myself, I'll say I can and have broken the "girl solidarity code" if such a thing exists. Maybe it's because I grew up with brothers and have a lot of guy friends, but if a woman is being ridiculous or is wrong then I'm not about to follow the crowd just because we both happen to be female.
I had 2 friends breakup and even though I was really close friends with the girl at the time, I didn't automatically take her side. I actually refrained from taking sides- neither one was necessarily WRONG, they just broke up...
And although I truly love my sister-in-law and we're honestly friends, I take my brother's side just as often as I take hers. It's not a girl code thing, it's a who do I agree with thing...
Of course, my best girlfriend knows I have her back even when she's wrong because that's what best friends do- stick up for you even when you're being totally ridiculous- at least to the outside world. (I'll also tell her she's being nuts). I do the same for my best guy friend when he's being a dumbass- I defend him against anyone who insults him, but I also tell him what I think...

[martyfellow]

Well, within the family, the girl solidrity code doesn't apply so strictly, of course...

[jrose]

I also take my guy friends' side on occasion as well- unless you're saying my best guy friend is family, which I guess is partly true...

[martyfellow]

I think you are unusually fair-minded!

[desidoll]

No not really.It depends on the girl. Some can be very defensive when comes to their friends. I am not.I will listen to both persons and make a fair judgement.If she is in the wrong then she is wrong. It doesn't matter if she is my friend and he isn't.

[martyfellow]

You nice girls are the ones answerng the question. Unfortunately, doll, you are a minority among US females--the ones I'm describing aren't going to be answering the question, admitting a pack mentality

[desidoll]

Thanks for the BA!

[martyfellow]

You deserve it, although you don't seem to know how mean some of your sisters are!

[desidoll]

Haha! :D

[WhiteSteve]

In most cases, I'd say yes, haha. Unless we're talking a girl's close guy friend, but even that girl is flippable, haha. I've seen worst enemies become best friends over mutual dislike for a guy.

[gonyr]

People will have their friends back.

If one of your guy friends had a breakup with his girlfriend would you go be friendly with his ex? Or stay on your funds side?

[martyfellow]

No, a guy wouldn't usually back his friend up if he was certain his friend was wrong..that's the difference here

[gonyr]

You have your friends back. In private or away from the situation you tell him he's being a dick but you have his back

[Nightingale]

Yes. Also, expect false rape accusations and their male friends to also gang up against the accused.

Seen it happen. More than once. Lucky enough it wasn't me.

[lumos]

False rape accusations are not as common as you seem to think.

[Nightingale]

I believe that it would be hard to estimate how common they are, but here is a nice read anyway.
en....pedia.org/.../False_accusation_of_rape

In my personal experience, I know for a fact it was a false accusation because the night he allegedly rape her, he was crying his heart out at my place fearing he will never see his kid again.

Everyone sided with her, and while the charges were dropped (she admitted it didn't happen) a lot of people still think he did it.

[martyfellow]

In my professional experience dealing with such cases..I'm seeing it happen more and more. No one knows how often since statistics aren't kept, but an awful lot of females think 'just win, baby.'

[LittleSally]

No, they will not. I didn't. One of my friends (not my best friend, but a friend none the less) did something stupid and she and her boyfriend broke up. I supported him, because he was in the right. I believed he deserved my support. She, on the other hand, didn't get any, but I didn't empathize (sort of) with her, but still made her see she did something really stupid and that it's her own fault.
You should always stand up for the righteous ones. Doing otherwise is completely illogical.

[martyfellow]

Good fro yu Slly, but the people who behave in the way I outlined generally aren't going to answer the question!

[LittleSally]

True...

[Prof_Don]

In confrontations, females have more of a blind "pack mentality " than guys do!

[martyfellow]

Sums it up, I think

[523206720]

I don't gang up unless the guy mistreats the girl. I think objective justice and fairness is more important than friendship.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

oh yeah, girls will always stay together, unless a girl wants to hook up with the guy, she won't betray her friend.

[kheserthorpe]

Always no. More often yes.

Older I get the more it happens among peers.