The Magic of HUMILITY and KINDNESS

[laurieluvsit]

HUMILITY

There are many definitions of humility, including being low, which is the root of the word it is derived from, but here is the definition that I like the most ...

"Humility is considered a state of being, highlighted by your behavior and approach to things. It's also considered one of the virtues of the human condition, along with kindness, patience, diligence, charity, temperance and chastity. Humility is often thought to occur in the absence of pride"

What is humility really and what does it have to do with kindness?

In order to understand humility, we must first examine its arch nemesis -Pride, as mentioned in the humility definition above.

Proverbs 16:18 says, "Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Ms CapricornHoney asked the question "Have You Ever Had A GAG Stalker?", and the first guy to answer said that by being on social media you deserve whatever you get!

It made me very sad to see such an answer ☹

Then my GAG friend Ms SnowMoon asked this great question…"Why do we as a planet struggle to be nice?" ...another great question! Thank you Ms @SnowMoon!

I have had so many attacks trying to separate me from my friends or run me off of GAG, some which have sadly lost me some friends, and some which have not because there are some friends, who are "real friends", who stick with you through thick and thin.

Yes, you may attract haters, even though you try hard in every way to be kind to everyone, which leads us into the next character quality...

KINDNESS

I want to dedicate this song to my great GAG friend that I have had more laughs with than anyone else on GAG so far and has stuck with me in spite of my detractors.

Ms @Brainsbeforebeauty - more affectionately known to me as Ms BBB, has both attributes that I am describing here, and that Mr Tim sings about, in unlimited abundance!

Now listen to Mr Tim's incredible country western style song about being humble and kind, just as Ms BBB is ...it is AWESOME!

What is Kindness?

"Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. While kindness has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires great courage and strength."

Snoop Dog says, “Be Different – Be Nice” ...but why is he saying that being nice is being different? ...SERIOUSLY? ...Isn’t it sad that being nice would be considered something odd? …LIKE ...REALLY? ...IT IS?

...so being nice is actually the exception in today's world and not the rule? ...ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

What could be a sadder state of affairs when being mean and rude to others is considered the norm? ... GOD TO EARTHLINGS ..."What are you thinking?"

iSo, you must be different, a one-off, to be nice? ...is that the place social media, and the world around us, has brought us to?

Well then, I do agree with Mr Snoop …listen to his song about being nice ...YOU WILL LOVE IT! …I PROMISE!

Please be nice, and not just to those that you judge to deserve it, but surprise someone who you think doesn't deserve it ...let's try to make our world one that everybody feels like being nice in ...IS THAT ASKING TOO MUCH?

...Now have a great day and ...PLEASE BE NICE! ...OK? ...lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aww thank you for your kind words and compliment. And I think you're awesome. And I couldn't agree more. I think it's gotten better, but when I first joined GaG, feel like more people tried to come at me for nice posts than people with posts bashing and hating on people. But think they got bored because the more rude, I'd just say 'thank you sir have nice day 😊,"
Or just "ok well thanks for replying'
I feel it's gotten somewhat better. There is a lot of kind people on GaG with a few asshats sprinkled in the mix 😁 another awesome mytake Laurie! Stay awesome, stay safe♥️

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome and so true!

... for me I think most of the 'bad apples' I have blocked, so now only the good ones remain :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I've only blocked two people. It shouldn't have to come with that. Say what you have to, but keep it somewhat respectful. Lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mho ♥️♥️🤗🤗

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome, that's two from me today, You're going to be a "Master" before you know it! ... but to me, you already are :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aww and funny, not much a country music fan, but listening to that song while reading what you wrote that night, made me cry 😭😭 just didn't admit to it. Hope you're staying safe ♥️♥️♥️

[laurieluvsit]

I had the same reaction when I heard that song as well.

In fact I can't seem to get it out of my mind now :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I know, just listened to it again, and yes got teary eyed. I think people should live by that anyway, but those words have never been more poignant than now.
Q:What's the scariest thing you ever saw?
A: A blonde trying to use big words 😂

[laurieluvsit]

Q: Why are blonde jokes so abundant?
A: UH? ... I'll have to think about that one... lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂😂 in other words, it's gonna be a loonngg while 😂😂

[laurieluvsit]

So true :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂♥️

[Tunasub]

Ms. Luvsit,
You seem to have written your take with humility and kindness to help with feeling what is being read. I thank you for sharing this and I have a great appreciation for who you are as a person. You get it, you aren't afraid to show that you care. You give me faith that there are good people in the world. You are a blessing 🙏.

[laurieluvsit]

Wow... you are too sweet Mr TS, thank you so much for also having a big heart and caring about others!

[Tunasub]

Thank you. I just call it like I see it.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I don't really see as niceness and humility as being mutually inclusive.

Humility I see as more to do with how someone handles both success and failure. Do they become arrogant in success and bitter in failure? Or do they share the credit when they succeed and take responsibility when they fail?

Kindness I see as more of an outwards-facing behaviour trait-- it's the standard of treatment we reserve for those around us...

Helping an old lady cross the road?-- Nice.

Pushing an old lady down in the street?-- Nasty.

Watching an old lady struggle to carry her groceries up a flight of stairs, but doing nothing to intervene?-- Well, it's not technically nasty, but it sure as shit ain't nice.

Most mature adults would consider it dishonourable to watch her struggle from a distance and not offer a hand. Yet that's exactly what many would do. Because our culture is all about "me myself and I", and virtues like honour, patience, and charity have largely fallen by the wayside.

Yet at the same time we can get likes on facebook and Instagram by putting out the APPEARANCE of kindness and integrity. So we help that old lady when the cameras are rolling, but when nobody else is watching we leave her to deal with her own problem.

The ideal is that the individual ought practise both humility and kindess, because then it becomes a self-reinforcing feedback loop of positive outcomes. The acts of kindness engender good feelings from people around us, but we remain humble and don't let those good feelings become a substitute for future good deeds.

[Lliam]

@SomeGuyCalledTom, Dude. That was great. Well said, sir.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Thanks, @Lliam

[JohnWickman]

We've been trying to incorporate such behavior for quite some time and it has sloooowwlly begun to take root in some circles I've noticed. Pay it forward, random acts of kindness, greeting with a smile. Putting others first is a great act of humility whether they deserve it or not. Doing the right thing even when no one is looking conditions self humility if that makes any sense. Doing something good for someone without letting them know it was you. In today's world we have so many people saying the right things but not practicing what they preach. Sorry for the long answer but I am really into this topic.

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, being nice to each other makes it a much better world! :)

[lightbulb27]

Good take, we need more of that in our culture... humility is big part of the "east" but not the west. Kind... that's family and personality.

Be honest, do you go for humble guys? The challenge is humble looks weak... not very manly. I suspect most women say yes, but most in reality... are not.

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, humility is a must.

Humility and weakness have no connections with one another. Some world champion MMA fighters are the most humble people on the planet... weak? ... I don't think so... lol

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

tbh I think men look more weak/ insecure when they desperately try to cling to the slightest scrap of praise. A man who can share accolades and give respect to those who paved the way for his success... is gonna look more secure in himself than the guy chasing clout and trying to make himself look great and ignore the people who helped him get where he is.

[lightbulb27]

Fair enough:)

[COMMODOREII]

I disagree that people are not nice or unkind due to social media or any modern technology. We have all just fallen back into our old ways. You say Snoop Dog and Tim McGraw are encouraging everyone to be kind and that it is different but if you think about it that is the same message that Jesus Christ taught us over 2000 yes ago. I am not here to preach but to think about it logically and in a scientific mind. In a way it just means that over 2000 years ago the human race have been unkind and it took one man to tell us to be kind and love one another. This is just person. I haven't even mentioned any other religious or not who have taught the same lessons of kindness. The dahli lama for example. Isn't it crazy how we all keep falling back into the gutter of hate and unkindness and takes these people to remind us what we should be doing?

[broken_heart_at_48]

In some neighborhoods to much humility and kindness will get you killed

[kangy]

it isn't difficult to be nice
if one's mood is down on that day, just find a littler corner and stay there and dont vent it on others.

[laurieluvsit]

Great advice Ms Kangy!

[kangy]

Thank you

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome :)

[clampfan101]

I have always tried to do both, and just about always succeed.

[laurieluvsit]

Agreed! You are at top! :)

[clampfan101]

Thank you. 😊

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome :)

[Dchrls78104]

Jesus Christ was humble and kind... if more people were like him we'd have much fewer problems in today's world. Good take.

[lasertag]

Look what jesus did for us let's follow his example. If we treat people like we want treated this world would be better. Do at least 10 good deeds a day it could change somebodies life.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

There's nothing more to way you summed it all thank you for this piece🤸‍♂️🎉

[nella965]

kindness is something that you are born with. you cannot force it upon someone, especially adults

[SnowMoon]

Thank you for the mention chick <3 xx

[laurieluvsit]

I love your posts! :)

[Meropatrick]

Sorry to tell you but this is not how the world works.

[Dchrls78104]

And we wonder why the world has the problems it does these days?

[Jupiter1]

This is perfect!

[Lliam]

<3 <3 <3, Laurielovesit.

[TCredo]

Great My Take - and a wonderful message! :)

[Plitty-Tank]

Yes. It pays to be nice to others.

[LEADFOOTboi]

i'm Humble asf, nigga...