I'm not sure if this going to justify a mytake or if this is just going to be a rant off the cuff BUT this site has gone down hill & developed into a cess pool.
I'm going to rewind a bit all the way back to early 2015 when I made an account on here because I was going through some personal turmoil. I had no one I could talk to about some difficult subjects revolving around friends & relationships and I felt like a group consensus and outsider opinions could be useful... and for the most part it was, I got some interesting takes, insight and ideas on the issues I was going through. I had some enjoyable private conversations as well.
I was never really a regular user on here, usually I'll come on ask & answer a few questions during a period of a few days & weeks then disappear for a few months and repeat that process.
What I've noticed in the past few weeks and more so in the last year of coming on & off this site has been a little disheartening and it has me wondering why I even come back at all. The engagement on questions has really dropped off compared to years ago and even worse there seems to be a major division between guys and girls on here. Maybe that's a sign of the times but there's a lack of understanding on all sides that has turned this site into a reincarnation of Yahoo answers or something similarly idiotic and trivial & banal.
I see a lot of guys straight up attacking women in the comments section as if they personally done them wrong and ruined their lives. I understand where you are coming from but parroting Red Pill & MGTOW ideologies as if they are the holy gospel in a hostile manner at women who are uninterested in hearing it isn't going to change their minds and just make you look deranged.
And for the girls I see very little engagement & empathy. Most of time the responses are not well thought out and lack any understanding especially when it comes to complex women & mens issues (I could say the same for guys for this as well). The level of care is at the floor and predictability for how people are going to react is about the same.
I feel like I'm on some sort mismatch of Vice magazine/Jezebel.com (the female mindset on here) meets an incel/nice guy reddit forum (the male mindset on here). Getting agro and venting at people as if they are responsible for your misery isn't going to solve your problems. I just find it ridiculous how negative and the lack of acknowledgement for personal blame/responsibility I see on here, a lot of you are ruining your own lives but you are to stubborn & ignorant to see that... it's no one else's fault but you're own so stop demonizing other people and especially the opposite sex.
*End Rant*
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