The real struggles of being a handsome man

[Anonymous]

The struggles of being handsome in the real world

1. You are more likely to be overlooked for competitive roles, the male superior in your work who perceive himself “alpha”, wouldn’t want any competition.
   It’s proven that people take authority from good looking individuals promoting you would undermine that authority.


2. If you are considerate to others you will come across as “fake” or “gay” if you are straight you might miss some chances with the ladies. And if you step on any ones toes you are considered a “douche bag”. No mercy lol.


3. Other men are threatened and overly aggressive. "Guys are competitive,".


4. Women become more hostile when rejected ( This is true for me I rejected this girl in the first year of college she turned a large group of girls against me and loathed me for the rest of the 5 years we spent together in university).


5. Being groped by women in public yes it happens


6. If you are going through hardship people won`t give you the same consideration.


7. Women gawking at you constanly can be creepy we know what girls go through when it happens to them.

The struggles of being handsome in the dating world

1. If a good looking guy hits on an average looking girl....she would either think that he is just playing around with her or he must be a loser for hitting on her because she thinks he can do better.

2. When a good looking guy hits on a hot girl, she automatically assumes he must be a player and hence will put up more and difficult sh!t tests, than she would to an average guy.

3. The girl knows he is good looking and will be less open to him, because she knows that if she opens up to, she might end up doing the nasty with him. (the girl will be even more less open if she is in a relationship.)

4. Good looking guys really can't use the methods out there like negs and c+f, like how average looking guys can, because they will seem like an *******. So what happens is, that the conversation gets boring because you can't bust her balls because she will take it too seriously and she will start losing interest.

5. When good looking guys talk to girls they get so nervous they just want to leave, which sucks.( I can attest to that happeining to me more than I can remember)

6. Girls automatically assume they are taken.

7. Here is a good one...if a girl has a boyfriend and you don't even like that girl and just want to be friends..she will act so distant from you because she doesn't want other people to think that she is cheating on her boyfriend. wtf? Just because your good looking. Bummer not even qualifying for the friendzone.

[pnl86]

I'm so confused. Is this supposed to be about work or dating?

Sure, being good-looking presents different kinds of issues in "dating," but I think like a lot of people have already mentioned, those issues are probably better to stomach than the alternative issues unattractive people go through.

As far as work, I haven't found that to be true. It depends on your profession, job function, and the dynamic that sex appeal may even play.

For example, men are responsible for hiring me. 60+ year-old men, mostly white, married with children that are sometimes older than me. To them, I'm just a child, a tool, a very specific tool for a very specific job. I'm not taking their wife away from them. I'm not exactly threatening their sex appeal, or "alpha" status. Instead, the opposite is true. I'm an "extension" of them. I'm the face that represents them. So, they like and prefer the fact that I look a certain way. That's something that works "for" me.

When it comes to collecting money, I bring in money through the door without having to send a single e-mail, or letter, or file a lien, or file a lawsuit. How? I introduce myself to the girls at accounts payable. I ask them about where they went to school, how long they've been working there, etc. Yes, I will admit, sometimes I take off my wedding ring and leave the door of uncertainty and ambiguity open wide for them to question whether anything that was said or done was purely business or potentially flirty. From that point on, they bite on the bait and the hook is set. Just a phone call, and, "Sorry about that, that was my mistake I've been so busy, I'll have the check out to you by today."

On the other hand, if a good-looking female attorney was involved? Automatically, men are on-guard. Why? Because women have a "reputation" for using looks/sex to get what they want. They have a "reputation" for manipulating men "through" sex/looks/flirting. So, men are "automatically" on guard. If she uses those tricks, RED FLAG, steel wall comes slamming down. If she doesn't use those tricks, she still faces an uphill battle.

Men don't have a "reputation" for using sex to manipulate women into doing things, and women don't have a "reputation" for routinely being the idiots to fall for stuff like that. So, girls are less "on guard" to those sort of things with good-looking guys.

[myTake Owner]

This mytake was about struggles in the dating and workplace

You brought some points, but the working relationship I meant was more geared towards middle managers and those guys that are middle aged and also the young obviously a near retirement working college won't be threatened by your good looks since he has other priorities or already been there done that.

Plus the male male jealousy is more of a mellenial generation phenomenon.

True that guys will be more at guard with beautiful females but that shows your alpha intrinsic side a Beta male would fall for a women's seduction more easily.

[Anonymous]

ill tell u the struggles if i can remember them

if u r really up there in the looks dept only women who equal you in looks will signal you at the same time theyre really afraid youl reject them so theyre overly sutble which doesn't help ur confidence if ur shy

lots of guys feel intimidated by you lots of people want to hurt you lots of them want to use you for narcissistic supply to b ur friend lots of people want to help you AT THE SAME TIME they WANT TO HURT YOU its a crazy world

lots of people won't help u if u need help if ur ugly u get almost 90% more help beleive me I've seen it no offense intended to more average looking people

almost all women will not express interest in you unless theyre on your lvl or u express invested interest in them

its easier for people to be disapointed in you because theyre expectations of u and ur looks are so high u have to live up to high high standards much higher than normal.

people r just more afraid of you in general it makes it harder to get to know them unless u actually try to get to know them and comfort them

people dont c u as a normal human being that can have flaws u r criticized a lot more closely and the backlash is much stronger

if ur a good looking guy or well above average like me things are less smoother. if ur in the middle u have more equilebrium but if ur not everything is more extreme. the bad goes to real bad and the good goes to real good.

[Opinion Owner]

it makes things REALLY REALLY hard if your not prepared for the life of a very good looking person. just like if u have a lot of money. a lot of money could be really good but it could be really really bad if your not prepared to handle it

[myTake Owner]

lots of guys feel intimidated by you lots of people want to hurt you lots of them want to use you for narcissistic supply to b ur friend lots of people want to help you AT THE SAME TIME they WANT TO HURT YOU its a crazy world


You summed it up pretty accurate there I know its a moxed blessing being handsome. Just like some guys here think that beautiful girls don't fart hmm because they are just that beautiful I. e. they are not seen as moal. humans its the same flawless ness expected of us

[talias288]

Read my rant about the same thing. I wouldn't mind having a few platonic guy friends. If they're hot even better. I just made friends with an unattractive, really old looking guy thats overweight but he thinks just like me and I get so EXCITED talking to him. But we've only known each other for a month or so and he's already contacting me every other day... clingy. Great! JUST GREAT!!!

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1824531-why-do-white-guys-run-from-hot-mixed-chicks-that-approach

[OralB]

Of course you had to make it racial

[Clairehandy13]

This is what my mom told me.

If good looking guys with no shirt on is sweaty, he's caled hot.
If a average or "ugly" guy eith no shirt on is sweaty, he's gross.

If a good looking guy stares at a girl, the girl feels fine ir something.
If an average or ugly guy stares at a girl, he's called a pervert.

Kind of unfair...

[myTake Owner]

your mum is wise

[ManuelMarquez]

Are you saying because of what you said good looking guys have it easier?

[Azara]

its the same with women though. thats not about men, thats about being attractive or not.

[BackInGame]

I'm kind of handsome - easy to get a job, people gather around you, everyone is tolerable and less demanding, people perceive you as smarter and more capable as you are, you get away with making mistakes and stupid things all the time, cashiers and receptionist are all nice and smiling, people say you have a sense of humour, halo effect is everywhere (google this up), people smile at you, getting laid is easy and straight forward - even with very good looking women, you don't have to pay women a shit instead they pay you, you get invitations everywhere, building a social network is a routine, you get a lot of friends on FB, you get job offers from random people, almost half of population covers your back (women)...

I know the difference of average joe and handsome world, because I went from average-fat to fit and kind of handsome. It's like landing on other planet. I have lots of friends who are handsome too. I just graduated and I was the 1st one who got a job from my class, despite the fact that they were many better guys applied for job.

GOOD FACE = GOLD and basically there are no cons. Saying that having very good face has drawbacks is stupid and probably coping from a non-handsome person. Your face is at least half of your personality.

[Anonymous]

Yes!! Finally someone who understands. Most of this is all true. So true that I won't even touch on all of them. I'll just say that yeah from experience I have been groped before and I have had girls gawk at me and some get pissed off when I deny them. Luckily as far as work is concerned so far I'm beloved at the places I work at. Sure someone might make a joke or something, but overall the guys at my work places didn't really care. They saw me as just some young guy. Most of them were already married with kids and stuff so not much threat to them. Though there were very few women involved. Perhaps if more worked at the places I've worked at then things would differ some.

Most of the bottom list I haven't experienced that I can think of, but I wouldn't doubt that it happens.

[myTake Owner]

For sure the struggle is real, you are lucky in that you haven't experienced workplace discrimination because of your good looks, as you said it depends also in the environment

[Humping_Tornadoes]

I don't want to sound arrogant, but I know I'm not bad looking, and I can attest after working for almost 8 years in several places, that at least the first three points, and six are 100% factual. Guys are critical to women that they gossip and talk shit of other girls (which is true), but guys do the same thing only in a less passive aggressive manner. Also, yes some girls are vivid stalkers if they are attracted to you, and can lead to very awkward situations at work.

And there's not much to add in the dating world thing, it happens and it sucks.

Great take man!

[myTake Owner]

Thanks man its so pathetic when men act like women

[Enaya]

Saw a couple of guys being very rude with a handsome guy at the office even though they didn't know him. I think men do the same thing that women do against pretty women. They get jealous and refuse to help them.

[myTake Owner]

I didn't know girls noticed males bullying each other BCof jealousy but with us i think its not as common

[mrbobz]

I dont know if the two are related... I was quite fat and dressed pretty geeky and i had a few female friends in work, some i would even hang around with outside of work, then i lost a ton of weight and started looking after myself and dressing better... the female friends i had in work barely speak to me any more, i often suspected its due to that as nothing else makes sense... its puzzled me for a while... its kinda lonely now. There could be other factors at play am not aware of, all these female friends have bfs and i have a girlfriend, i suspected i was no longer able to be written off as "just a friend"... who knows, maybe i just turned into a douche! :)

[Mysterio421]

As a guy who gets called handsome a lot, I have experienced most of this. Girls look at me a lot in the classroom and gawk and stare. I have had a few approach me. Some were nervous when I talked to them, etc. Do I like the attention? Sure, but with the whole mind games and the dating scene getting worse, I think it's a waste of time right now. I am just focused on my business, investments, college, etc. What amazes me is when you reject a girl they become pissy. Even to the point of trying to sabotage you. I shaved recently and as a result get less attention and have to worry less about this. It feels great.

[ManuelMarquez]

What are you saying? You saying you are not as handsome or not handsome at all after you shaved?

[Mysterio421]

I was saying that I am handsome with the stubble but I decided to shave everything and I no longer have stubble. I have that baby face for now. But I still look handsome.

[Yesitisme]

I have similar situation, I don't think I have a very handsome face, but I have a sense of style and I used to wear my hair mid length, that draw a lots of attentions and jealousy at work, I am getting very very tired of people not taking seriously at work and they all accuse me only want to get attentions from woman in work all the time. And I do also get unequal treatment by girls in work, when I don't say hi to them or when I just try to focus on my work when they walk by, they will give me this nasty look and start being rude to me.

So last week I decided to shaved my hair, and I already feel people suddenly becomes friendly with me, and I myself actually feels better talking to others now it's strange. haha

[Bananaman177]

Yeah, I'm sure the dudes in the pictures above have just as hard a time getting hired as these guys, uh-huh. Right. Sure. Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree.

Also that people can be so harsh and assume you shouldn't ever have any problems or be insecure. I had a few good looking friends who had shit childhoods, but were never given the sympathy or benefit of the doubt that more average guys would have gotten.

[myTake Owner]

People look at us as if we have perfect dream lives they judge on what they see on the surface

[Opinion Owner]

Case in point: more than one guy told you to go painfully disfigure yourself. :(

[myTake Owner]

I gotten thicker skin by time so. it don't affect me anymore

[Marinepilot]

I'm told I'm handsome, although I've never been comfortable with it. Everything said here is true. In spades ! Especially in getting hired for good jobs. Most HR guys are
nerdy guys who don't have a lot of talent and they really are insecure and jealous. You're
damned if you do and damned if you don't. Moreover, you'll be accused of doing the nasty with girls that you may not know or have no interest in.

[myTake Owner]

There's more more jealousy now days that's a given.
I think it stems from the mellenial generation upbringing of them being the centre of the universe.

[schnipdip]

I am the center of the universe fuck-face

[GoodDogNigel]

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[myTake Owner]

Buhhuuuuuu

[Anonymous]

Some of this is true but it's also true lots of women approach you and it's easier to break with a woman because she had less expectation of being able to hold on to you. Many woman accept it more easily, at least that's what I found. They also are more likely to go straight to sex with no games (if you are also confident and don't buy into bullshit) and you don't need to put in as much effort to please them. If you do put in the effort they are over the moon.

[myTake Owner]

its a double edge sword indeed but the pros outweigh the cons as you said

[Anonymous]

1. This can happen to females too when other females are involved, but they’re more underhanded in tactics than direct.

2. I’ve not noticed that with attractive women.

3. See the answer for #1.

4. Some guys behave the same way. They target pretty girls to project their insecure issues onto as some sort of cathartic act.

5. Welcome to the female world!

6. Thankfully women don’t experience this, likely the opposite if attractive.

7. THANK YOU!!! The first male to speak any common sense!!! 🙌🏻

[Anonymous]

If you think less attractive people have it easier why are you bitching? Just pour acid on your face. If you're not willing to endure the temporary pain then I guess it's not a quarter as bad being attractive as you say it is.

You could easily swap places with an uglier person by just fucking your face up but you won't and still act like you're a martyr for your looks even though you have it easier. You say it's proven that attractive people have it harder in the career fields yet not once did you provide any sources or data. Here's mine. www.businessinsider.com/beautiful-people-get-more-job-interviews-2013-9

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGJLDbA4538

[SchmouSee]

Actually this makes me think of one particular guy and honestly, what you wrote is almost 100% my thoughts. I hate to spoil the party for you but this is actually true. Not sure how to change it, but I hope people will get to know the real you without being weird around you

[Stacyzee]

I bet the unattractive men still would want to trade places with you any day.

Who do you think has it worse?

[Stacyzee]

Should that even be a question? Hah

[myTake Owner]

People see with a rose tinted filter, they don't know about the downside of others lives

[schnipdip]

Dude you sound like a pretentious dick... Complaining about how hard you have it. .. yeah.
Dating is 1000000 times easier for guys who are hot because every girl wants to fuck you... You need no work.

Online dating. Women have been put on pediatals so high they all believe they deserve a hot guy. They won't talk to a guy who is "average" because they have these "hot" guys making them believe they can get better.

21 years of alive I've been called handsome once by a tranny.

Grow some balls you prick.

[John_Doesnt]

Exactly, this guy is complaining about having a better situation. The people doing a myTake should be the ugly guys/girls.

[Sarahnsk]

@John_Doesnt hmm, well I'd say it might be easy for the guy to bang chicks, but a lot harder when he actually likes the girl. It's not like in the movies, every girl feels insecure in real life, that means when a hot guy hits on us we will always wonder why he is doing that... Or at least that's what I've experienced and observed.

At the end of the day though, it's not only about looks, I've seen a ton of ugly guys get really hot chicks because they just know how to make a girl feel special, even for a night.

[giovannimontolivo]

Lmao. You made this seem like it is a negative thing. But what you said about dating is waaaaayyyyy off brah. I used to be skinny, but then I worked out and acquired aesthetics. The way women treat me now is a day and night difference from what it was before. Girls randomly touch my arms, chest etc. and throw themselves at me. So if you are good looking, you will NOT have girls putting up defences, rather they will want you more. So I'm not sure where you got all the info you put under the "dating world" category.

[OpenWine]

I've wondered how back then the fat guy in class told me in front of the other dudes that I am the ugliest guy he's ever seen. another dude used to kick my bag through all classroom and was hostile to me for doing nothing. he just told me "I don't like your face".
there were also times where I got compliments but fortunately I don't take off from all the charming words I've also been bombarded with, mostly by older women.
for a fact I like your take, even I will always keep at the benefit of a doubt and not call it fact but a point of view.

[LittleSally]

I get that...
I have to say - I agree.

Similar things happen to good looking women - in both aspects.

[myTake Owner]

So you get rough treatment from women?

[LittleSally]

From women and men - especially ones I reject...

[Bandit74]

It probably depends on how good looking you ate. I can imagine being like a 8 or 9/10 potentially turning people off. However I think being like a 7 would be ideal because you're still above average but you're not soo good looking that people will write you off or be intimidated.

[ManuelMarquez]

@Bandit74 why would,8,9, and 10's turn people off?

[pavlove]

Yes! Love this take and topic.

Struggle: Talking to a girl and there's a mirror next to her head and you keep catching glances and getting lost in your eyes instead of hers...

[myTake Owner]

Can't be chatting her up in front of a mirror then