I've seen what goes on here with the guys on this site, and I do want to say that I don't agree with all of it. I don't agree when they blame everything on feminism, but it's not much different when women blame their hurt or problems on society being male dominated and the "patriarchy." I'm not going to say these guys are always right, and I don't excuse all their behavior, but I can understand why a lot of them are pretty upset here on GaG. It hasn't really proved to be a place where guys can release or say what they think in peace. Oh, sure, you can tell me all about how females get hated by the guys for what they say, and I wouldn't entirely disagree with you, but overall females are still getting supported. I see it going on on many sites, but especially this one.
Contrary to females' retorts, the guys here don't really hate women, they hate that females can say what they think, and then get loads of upvotes for it, even if they're wrong. The females lash at guys and generalize, and get cheered for it, but then they're fast on their feet to put a guy down for "lumping all women together," and this even goes on in real life. They hate that people aren't respecting what they think or how they feel, and how females just want to tune them out and call them butthurt and sexually frustrated for everything. They hate that it's okay for the females to feel how they want to feel and lash at guys, but then they get hated for feeling the way they want to feel. So in some sense when they're talking about how hard they have it, they're not exactly wrong. It's a constant competition with females to prove to guys how bad they're treated or how bad it is for them in every day life, and it does get old and exhausting after awhile. Females pretend none of this is true, but it is.
I see a lot of women here calling guys whiners for not liking something women do, yet the women are whining about guys doing this and acting like this, and that's what the guys are sick of, and sick of the females not looking at themselves and seeing how they make us hurt too and aren't perfect. Guys are trying to basically say, "It's not just you! You whine and whine but we hurt too and you're part of that hurt!" They're constantly exposed to women stating all their complaints and anxieties about men, and after awhile it does get to be very tiresome and frustrating to have a group endlessly needing to say something about you.
So I can see how it makes guys upset. When you keep having women counter what you say and think with shots at you that you're a whiner, butthurt, aren't getting laid, or hate women, it does get to be frustrating. Because they're doing everything they can to discount you, tune you out, and find a reason for why you shouldn't be heard or taken seriously.
There's talk from women about society not being as respectful to men getting emotional as they are with women, saying what they think, and how they get viewed as weak, yet females pretend they're not part of the problem, but they are. And in some ways they're even nastier and more derogatory towards men for it than other men. They ridicule some guy's singleness or lack of having sex no less than another guy might, and try to use it to explain why he's so "bitter." And are most of them really resentful and constantly rejected? Or is that just the better to look at it so females don't have to take guys seriously? Women will come on some of my posts full of anger and calling me all kinds of things, but I never try to figure them up as immature, bitter, sexually frustrated feminists or man haters, but rather I see them as just having an attitude because a guy tells them the truth and they don't want to hear it.
And honestly? Why should some guy's singleness or lack of getting sex have to do with what they're saying or feeling? And even if he really is angry about it, I guess I could say that's human, especially when you have other people telling him that it should matter to him that he's never had a girlfriend or never had sex. And is it really any different than females who are angry at guys because guys don't find them pretty, or are pretty but get rejected? Is it really any different than females who get in bad relationships one right after the other and resent men for it instead of looking at their own worth or what they lack? You have women out there who rejected a guy just because he's a virgin and they think he wouldn't be any good in bed and needs some "experience" first. You have women out there bragging about how much sex they think they can get or thinking it's funny or sad that some guy has never had sex or a girlfriend or has been single for a long time, yet women can cry over how they're 30 and still single or can't seem to find "a good man," and just keep ending up being treated like shit. That's what's pathetic, and that's what does bother these guys. Women are pretending they're not part of this problem and that it's guys doing all this to other guys - which is true - but a fair amount of it is still done by females too, and it upsets these guys because they don't admit it.
It makes no difference to me if some guy is still single or a virgin. I really couldn't care less. But when people start making an issue of it, it does make me feel sorry for him and make me wonder why it should even matter.
So, yeah. I can see how guys here feel pretty bad. Everyone just wants to keep crossing them out as women haters and jerks, and don't care to hear them out or understand.
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