The skinny guy, or the "hard-gainer" as people call it in the fitness industry, are people that find it hard to gain weight or muscle, but find it easy to lose weight. Now, some people believe that is a blessing, but I believe it's a curse. I am, unfortunately, a hard gainer. I'm 17 years old, 5'8, and weigh about 118 pounds. I've been working out for about a year now and I've only gotten little results in the gym.
When I go to the gym, I work my absolute hardest. I stay there for at least an hour every other day doing both compound and isolation exercises. However, I come home, take off my shirt, and I'm sad because my body is nowhere near where I expect it to be. Today, I'm going to explain why I hate being skinny, why it's important to me to build muscle, and why I may be skinny for the rest of my life.
WHY I HATE BEING SKINNY
Everyday I look at myself in the mirror and imagine the body I want and then compare it to the body I have now. Then, I compare my body to my friend's bodies using my photographic memory. This is what keeps me motivated to go to the gym, but it also makes me hate myself because i'm skinny. Take a look at this picture.
Does he look familiar to any of you? If you're into fitness, you would know that this person is Connor Murphy. My friends at school are somewhat close to his physique, but I however am not. I take a look in the mirror and compare myself to him and it is no where near is physique, as expected. This is what I want to look like in about a year or so, but with the track i'm going down that might never happen. Let's take a look at what my body looks like.
As you can see by these non-flexing an non-pump photos, I am pretty skinny, and I hate it. There are three reasons why I hate being this skinny.
1.) Girls hate it
Girls hate it when a guy is this skinny, they want a guy with more meat on him so that when they snuggle the guy's bones isn't hurting them. Girls tend to weigh more than me and they become unattracted to me when I lose dominance matches with other men, which I will explain in my next point
2.) Guys want to challenge you in everything
Guys who are bigger than you, in my case almost everyone, want to challenge you in these dominance matches. What I mean by that is they challenge you in things that will show their dominance, like arm wrestling, so they can either satisfy their selves or other women. It become annoying really fast because once you lose enough matches, my last point become more relevant.
3.) People don't take you as seriously
People don't take me seriously because they know I can't do anything. Like for example, someone can take your phone from you and then you ask them to give it back, but then they say "What are you going to do about it?". You can't do shit, because the other dude is bigger than you, and you'll get your ass beat unless you're a black belt in karate.
Now sometimes you come across a guy who will give you shitty advice, here's the advice I've heard from other dudes on how to get more muscle. It may not be shitty to you, but it's shitty to me because it doesn't work on me
1.) Eat more
I absolutely hate when someone tells me to eat more. Here's the deal, I'm 17 years old, I do not have the money to go and buy food all the time, nor do my parents. I can't eat all the time because if I eat too much I'll throw it up; my body cannot handle this bullshit 3000 calorie diet that these guys give me. All I can do is workout basically, and then come home to some small meals.
2.) Only do compound exercises
This personally doesn't really work for me that much because I go to the shitty Planet Fitness. I'm broke and my parents don't care enough about my fitness life for them to get me with a real fitness place, and they don't allow me to get a job, so i'm stuck with PF. At my PF, we don't have bench presses, just the shitty smith machine, but I gotta work with what I'm given. I usually do a combination of both compound (smith press, dumbbell bench press, shoulder press, squats) and isolation exercises (exercise machines that target specific muscles). I don't see what the problem with isolation exercises are, in fact I believe they help me better than the compound exercises.
3.) Move less
This has to be by far, the dumbest piece of advice given to skinny guys. People would say "move less, walk less, and fidget less". Uh, I have to walk to places in order to get to other places. How the hell are you going to expect me to walk less when I need to walk? It's the dumbest shit I've ever heard.
WHY IT'S IMPORTANT TO ME
Not wanting to be skinny is a huge factor in my life and it's something that is now at a high importance level, right under school. Here's why it's important to me
1.) To get more girls to be attracted to me
Girls, especially my age, want a guy who is more muscular. Now I know there are exceptions to the rule out there, but most want a guy who is muscular, athletic like. They find it physically pleasing and most imagine that every guy is like that, similar to how guys think that only girls with big boobs are good in bed because of porn. It's a goal of mine to get an attractive girl to say "Wow, you have a nice body." Kind of like how girls react to Connor Murphy. Maybe one day I will achieve this goal, but they chances are very slim
2.) To get people to take me more seriously
I want people to take me more seriously and I believe that they will when I buff up a bit. Skinny guys get the short end of the stick, even fat people (no offense to them) get more respect and acceptance by society than skinny guys. I believe that fat people's is more noticeable because of media, but skinny guys are the main ones being insulted behind the scenes. In today's society, people respect you more if you are buffer.
3.) My own personal goal
This one is kind of hard to explain, but being big is my personal goal because that is how I want to satisfy myself. Working out and joining the military (yes, I plan to join the military through ROTC) shows myself and to all my haters that I'm not a pussy, but I can't show them that if i'm not gaining any progress.
WHY I MAY BE SKINNY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE
1.) No progress
I want to show you guys something
This, right here, was me in 2014, my freshman year of high school. I started my fitness journey my Junior year, or in 2015. I'm pretty skinny here, I probably weighed about 100 pounds.
Now again, this is my today. weighing in at about 118 pounds with about a year of working out. Not much change at all, barely any. At this rate I don't believe I can make my goals a reality.
This is going to sound like I've contradicted myself, but hear me out. Eating is important to gaining weight, but I simply can't do it. I always feel like I eat enough, but apparently I don't and if I eat any more than I do i'll throw up my food because my body cannot handle the amount of calories going into me. It is physically impossible to take on these 3000 calorie a day diets, nor do I have to money to spend on these meals.
So in conclusion today, It is almost impossible for me to gain weight. I don't have the money to buy weight gainers or spend a bunch of money on food everyday nor do I have the stomach to do so, I don't believe I have the genetics to do so, and I don't believe that any of my goals will be fulfilled. There are many skinny guys out there who feel the same way too, so I am not alone on this. Obviously there are guys who went from skinny to buff, but they had the money and the stomach to do so, which I don't. Anyways, thanks for reading if you have any comments feel free to leave them down below!