Why Do Boys Lie?

[Sheriblossom]

As you can see in the title, this is a pretty self explanatory MyTake. Many of you are going to tell me that this should be a question, but I asked too many questions and I don't want to wait 4 more hours to bear with me lol. So I will try my best to make this MyTake a less of a waste of your time.

My Experiences

If you've interacted with people in your life, chances are one of them was a guy. If not, you'll get around to it eventually. Perhaps out of those guys that have talked to you, guys have lied to to you. This is not to say that girls don't lie, I'm well aware we do. But that is not my focus of the MyTake. Keep in mind I'm 16. I barely ever talk to guys at school, yet in the last 2-3 months, I've dealt with guys who've lied to me. I'm not putting the blame on anyone. I'm just stating a fact. Hopefully some people out there can relate to me when I mention that guys tell me these things:

"No, you're the only girl I want"

"Wow, I'd wife you"

"I want something serious, I want a long term relationship. You'd spoil me"

"You are so hot/ beautiful/ sexy"

"I want you so bad"

"You're the only girl I want"

"I'm not like other guys" (pft really? lmao)

I know there are way more examples, but these are the ones I've heard recently. I'm not saying guys aren't genuine at all, but I've never had the chance to interact with such an angel of a guy. People think I'm boring (when they don't even know me) but who knows. Maybe they're right. Hope they find someone more interesting, and I can find someone to appreciate me. I'm not scared of not finding someone who's genuinely interested in me. I'm well aware I'm capable of that.

How Do I Know They Are Lying?

Well, lets just say that they say this to you:

"I want something serious, I want a long term relationship. You'd spoil me"

"You are so hot/ beautiful/ sexy"

"I want you so bad"

"You're the only girl I want"

"I'm not like other guys"

BUT LITERALLY THE NEXT DAY...They talk to other girls and flirt with them, asking to DM them and saying how hot that other girl is. Then obviously they are lying! Okay, don't be like "Omg they are just trying to make me jealous." Hell nah girl! We both know that! There is no way they are betting on making you jealous unless they know 1010384757% that you will see them do it. Rarely ever is he trying to make you jealous unless he knows that you know, that he is trying to get your reaction! Don't be oblivious.

Over the internet???

Guys obviously lie in real life, let alone over the internet. Most times even when guys say that they are serious about you (merely over the internet) they are probably lying. I'm sorry, unless you have a way of trusting him and knowing he's not lying. Go you if you can do that! But I'm not as smart. I get hurt when people lie or pretend to be interested in me. There was a guy who used to be interested in me (only over the internet) but he admitted to how he doesn't give a single shit about people on the internet, and especially not me, so if that's not enough of a proof that guys lie, I don't know what is. He used to pretend to be interested in me. I really hope he doesn't read this because I just want to be able to say what I have to say in peace. He told me that he continued to talk to me to be nice. Yet that means that he should ask me for pics, and send his own pics? I don't think it should work that way.

Incident 2

Needless to say, this second situation (with another guy) was even worse. It's the type of lie that you figure out the first second he talks to you, but you choose to ignore it until the next day, yet if just happens to confirm the fact he's a liar. I'm just going to stop here, I really don't need those guys to come and hate on me and give me shit about writing about them.

Final thoughts

I'm not saying all guys are bad. I'm just saying many of the guys I've encountered turned out to be less genuine that I thought they would be. If you want to take my experiences and apply it to the shitty girls you've met, then go right ahead. This is for you to take how you want to. But you gotta remember, not everyone has the same heart as you. You have to be strong, and stay resilient to this type of non-sense. If you are broken hearted/ hurt by what someone has done to you, watch this video. It helped me over the toughest times in my life these past 2 months when I really thought this one guy would be more genuine to me. But I couldn't keep his attention. Now, I'm better than ever and I realized how amazing I was all this time. I'm really better off without them!

Share your experiences below about girls/guys who've lied to you!

[victoriaxoxo]

To be honest O. P., I think the issue is not lying but more like the general behaviour of the boys that surround you. They sound immature and young. I lie too for my own reasons, when I was younger I barely lied to guys because there wasn't much I wanted from them or that they could provide. As I got a little older white lies started, whether it was to obtain favours or to get him to cover my bill or attention etc. I then sometimes lied when I complimented the guy. Sometimes I would tell him that he is the only one that I find attractive or that I love, not so much to deceive but because in that precise moment I truly felt like that, yet the next day I could feel the same about somebody else. Then I began lying on purpose, largely to avoid drama. My youthful innocence and truthfulness had at times resulted in more arguments and splits so sometimes I lie to avoid drama especially with people I cannot afford to lose.

I think at your age boys are a bit overwhelmed with beginning to dabble in emotional and sexual relationships.

[Sheriblossom]

I wish I was just talking about guys my age haha, it seems like age doesn't really bring more maturity in some guys

[victoriaxoxo]

Everyone lies, I just think the reasons for lying change and with reasons the seriousness and frequency of some lies changes too.

[Omar5881]

Well if you say the truth women would just move over from you like you're so hot , what is he supposed to say she isn't and she starts being insecure and " I'm not like other guys " well if a guy actually says that then it's a huge red flag like who DaFauq praise himself thinking he's that unique. Long story short both genders lies because most of them aren't mature enough to deal with the truth

[Sheriblossom]

I see your point, but also, when every single guy says "I'm not like other guys" then it becomes pointless. Think about these examples. What if someone said sorry for everything they did? Or what if someone complimented everyone every single day? It just gets to the point where you don't know if it's genuine or not. If I didn't hear it as often, maybe it would mean more to me. But every single guy I've talked to so far has said that within the first day of talking. Again, not making generalizations about guys. Just saying that I see it as a pattern in guys I've talked to. I'd rather find out if he's like other guys based on time, and my own judgement; not him just making a blanket statement the first day

[Omar5881]

I agree with you here

[azzntittiz]

What is funny is that most articles, so called relationship experts and women on here will tell you that men don't lie, they are in fact honest and straight forward, you just can't get over yourself, because if he meant to be with you he's not playing games.

Not sure which planet they're from because men have been lying and playing games ever since I was a little girl. I am not bragging but I have had the boy's attention even when I didn't even notice it as a tiny little girl, and I can tell you it is their nature to be very misleading and manipulative.

They take a long road for a short one, dragging things out, making it as painful and unnecessary as possible, waste women's time and inconveniencing them. Even the ones you are straight up platonic with will do this. It is almost like they are wired to do so, but if you ever meet the chronic liars, you might consider killing him, just walk away. These are the ones that lie in front of your face, even when it's something you caught them doing, and are okay with, but they just keep lying and calling you crazy.

[FinalVow]

Well I guess I can't really say I am not like other guys (I honestly don't know if there are other guys like me) that being said I have always held to the firm understanding that if a lie has more than 2 moving parts you might as well tell the truth. Explain? okay goes like this party A tells Party B something that is a lie about Parties C, D, and E. This scenario relies on Party B being to stupid to actually talk to Parties C D E about the afore mentioned lie. The example of a lie that can only be undone by time. Party A tells Party B a lie about themselves (not important what) Now party A has to remember for all time that lie and make sure they never forget it. There is a reason they say the truth always comes out. Because of that understanding my parents drilled into me for 13 years I do not lie even to spare someones feelings. I would rather they get hurt but know the truth than them be happy but ignorant to the truth. I leave it to other people to decide if I am like or unlike other guys. Might seem sad but when it comes down to it I care not what happens to me as long as those around me are happy and in a good mental and emotional state.

[Monalisa77]

So the guy i lijed in college who later turned out to be gay, acted like he was interested in me. Hed try to wind me up, act like he was annoyed about everything, gice me looks etc so hed got my number and then nothing.

Now i know not all guys will be lo
Ike that (or i hope) but i was a vulnerable 18 year old. Everyone was encouraging him,(even the teacher!!)

I think id be able to tell a guy is lying if they suddenly asked me for my number or said all that. Im not like most girls so im not gonna fall for it.

Now the guy i like hasn't made near the same amount of attempt as the first guy, although he has tried winding me up /smiling at me but a lot of the things have been coincidences that just happened out of the blew. I haven't felt he's gone out of his way, but some things have happened that make me Think its all a big joke. I hate feeling like they're being egged on. If it turned out my worst fears are right id give them a big slap. Im not down for this happening again

[bailey11]

You know the 'ol joke: how can you tell if a guy is lying? His lips are moving! :-))
But seriously, people (men and women) will often lie because they don't want to get into trouble or because they have ill intent. In other words, they want to do something they know they shouldn't or they want to be deceptive.
For example, a guy will ask a women out to dinner and he'll often want to have sex with her afterwards, but he won't be honest and say that when he asks her.
I would suggest to women (and girls) that they ask the guy does he expect her to "put out"/to give him free sex, afterwards. Depending on his answer, you might not want to go out with him.
And if you do go out with him, don't drink alcohol - unless you want to have sex with him. Alcohol lowers our inhibitions and we end up doing things we regret the next day when we're sober.

[Anon-ymous1]

Because boys want sex with multiple girls, per evolutionary biology, which is really, really normal. The same reason why you want to "settle down" someday or become a wife or reproduce or whatever. If that's okay for you, then it's okay for boys to want lots of girls, because we're supposed to.

That's the answer.

[Mr_Smile]

Everyone lies. And if you say have never lied, then you are lying. People lie because they are ashamed of the truth, because they don't want to get into trouble, because... they want to, I guess. There's no one reason you say "this is why all boys lie", people lie for their own reasons, usually depending on circumstance. You alos have compulsive liars, who can't help but lie at every oppurtunity.

[Sheriblossom]

read... lol I mentions the fact that girls lie, and I also told everyone why I said "why do boys lie"

[MarvelFan300]

Boys/men and girls/women who do that don't know what to do with their lives and are immature. They also don't know how to keep a relationship going when they have the person in their trap. I have a similar experience with my ex. She was sweet, caring, and fun at first then her true colors (bitchy, lying a lot, flirting with other guys in front me) came out in the middle of our relationship and that left me confused, angry, and sad. One night, we had a huge argument and broke up.

[Nivinxus]

This take... is really just pointing out the obvious.

[Sheriblossom]

Lol okay, I remember that for next time :)

[Phoenix98]

Your 16 everyone your age are immature liars, back stabbers and everything else annoying.

It'll get better as you get older, men will mature they'll go from being annoying horn dogs going through puberty to becoming grown men.

[BrittBratt2416]

I think its cause to avoid drama or they think lying is a better option to do instead of hurting someones feelings.

[Belgie]

They lie to get sex. This is not a secret.

Honesty doesn't get you sex. If it did, they would pursue honesty as a working successful strategy.

[martyfellow]

Most guys around your age think it’s manly to try to get their way by lying, and then bragging about it to their friends if they succeed.

[martyfellow]

Just about every female in my life who was older than me lied about their age,, even when they must have KNOWN I had figured that out! Sure that’s not such a serious lie,, but that’s the point. If they lie about such a benign thing what WON’T they lie about?

[Landshrk0068]

It's human nature, for men and women to lie. It's necessary just like breathing.

[Sheriblossom]

lol what

[Landshrk0068]

It is necessary for humans to lie. Mostly it is to help bonding with our fellow humans, but it can also be for individual gain.

[Sheriblossom]

Interesting point

[Kuraj]

For the same reason women lie.
All we ever do is motivated by our ego, and the only thing you can ever trust a human to do, is for them to only think about themselves.

[Anonymous]

I will never understand why are girls are attracted to jerks and then complain about how those jerks treat them.

[Sheriblossom]

I totally agree, I wish I could make it stop honestly, I'm just messed up. hopefully it gets better after I get more mature and older :)

[NoFcks2Give]

If you step back and REALLY look at what most women are, you will see that they are attracted to chaos. I'm 26, and I've never known a woman who didn't seem enticed by the drama in their life. @Sheriblossom Just don't have a baby by one of them. It's 2018, guys our age don't expet you to be a 26 year old virgin, but we do hesitate when we see you with kids.

[flamephoenixvy]

Most of the time we lie because we know that if we say the truth things will be way more difficult for us. Everyone says some white lies in everyday life, girls do that too. But most of the time we lie to get sex fast.

[MrNameless]

which girls do pretty much.

[flamephoenixvy]

@MrNameless you mean girls lie to us because they want sex?

[chrisbigman]

Typically, boys lie for similar reasons that people in general lie. It's part of being human. Should people lie? Obviously not, but people continuously do it.

[Mi2mi2a]

The pupose of the boys at that age is getting laid, thus lying to girls for that reason. Wathever the purpose girls have they will lie too to gain it. It's that simple.

[pervertedjester]

Same reason as everyone else I guess, to get what they want until they don't need it anymore.

[Confidenceoverload]

I agree with everything said but That is a Boy not a Man they both have differences girls like bad boys women like good guys