I'M NOT A NICE GUY! I get it Ladies, I'm not attractive to you because I'm not an athletic superstar or a good singer. I get it ladies, you don't like me because I'm not wearing the most expensive Jordans or yeezys. I get it ladies, you don't like me because I'm not driving a truck or a nice flashy car. I get it ladies, you need a strong man with big arms and a big wallet to protect and provide for you. BUT STOP CALLING ME A NICE GUY! and a creep, and a weirdo, and a nerd, and a loser, and all the other insults and labels you give average men. I'M NOT NICE TO YOU BECAUSE I'M A DOORMAT THAT WANTS SOMETHING FROM YOU! I'M NICE BECAUSE THATS HOW I WAS RAISED, TO TREAT OTHERS! THE WAY I WANT TO BE TREATED! I can't help it if I'm actually sensitive and care about doing the right thing. I Can't help it if I like to read and collect action figures. I understand ladies, those are all boring and uncool things. But please, if you can do anything, STOP LABELING AVERAGE MEN NICE GUYS! I'm not a creep, I'm not a weirdo, I'm not a nerd or a loser. I am just an average man that wants to be treated with respect and that's the only reason I'm writing this. Your probably thinking that I'm just another, "nice guy" on an angry rant. I don't care! I just hope you'll think about my words. Have a nice day!
What Girls Said 26
"I get it Ladies, I'm not attractive to you because..."
You sound an awful lot like a typical "nice guy" to me. You've certainly got the whole "I know everything there is to possibly know about women and what they want and how they act" thing down.6
Yes you are one of those "nice guys", you guys always project this bullshit on to women and are obsessed with thinking women are always after your money and honestly it's tiresome seeing it on this site and youtube. Yes, there are some women who use men to get to the top the same way there are men who use women for 5 mins of pleasure but you don't like us mentioning that cause when we do, the first thing you scream is "don't lump us together". Well imma tell you the same thing, stop lumping all of us women together. It's not women who are obsessed with money, its actually men who are most of the time cause look how you mention freaking air jordans and a fanzy car. I don't care if you own those things or not but apparently you do. You are definitely one of those "nice guys" who immediately assumes a woman wants an asshole or a rich guy just cause she's not into you. Should I assume a guy is player if he's not into me? No. I am so happy my boyfriend is not like men today in the west, you're paranoid, obsessed with money, anti marriage/relationships, and you blame all this shit on women as if you didn't help with the destruction of our society. Like honestly seeing you guys always speak this nonsense makes me want to go mgtow my damn self cause to be truthfully honest you guys sound like nagging women.. you really do.5
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A badge of martyrdom. Men who spend their most of their time whining about how women “just want to date jerks”. Oblivious to the fact that no one finds people who feel sorry for themselves attractive, much less people who blame others for their lack of success. Most self proclaimed “nice guys” are just as self-centered and misogynistic as the jerks they gripe about, they are just much more spineless. To stupid to figure why women don’t find them attractive, they conclude that in order to get laid they must treat a woman like shit.
They tend to befriend women with the expectation that women owe them something more than friendship, then get all pissed off when the women tells them she’s not interested. Often going after women who are already in relationships, they misrepresent their intentions and try to use emotional manipulation and the facade of friendship as an excuse to get closer to them and score with them.
The sort of man who will give my definition a thumbs down. :)
Nice Guy: Why don’t women date nice guys like me?
Honest Girl: Because, you have no self-esteem and you have to blame other’s for your problems.
1. A manipulative male that forms friendships with females under the false pretense that it won't be a sexual relationship. All the while actually lusting after the female. He is then generally confused as to why the female goes after males that are open about their desires, and blames the female when it is his own fault for creating a friendship when he really wanted to date her.
2. The guy that's always there for his friends.
"Jim's such a nice guy, he tried to get into my pants after telling me he just wanted to be friends."
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The men who are seen as creeps and pedofiles and sociopaths being called "nice guys"? Really?
I think this is literally only a thing in west... maybe.
I don't know first time do I hear this. I'm from Europe.
This is some counterintuitive BS.
Words shall be used for what they mean.
This is bot even sarcasm. This is some twisted shit, ... if it's true... which I have hard time believing in.2
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1- If you are truly a nice person, why is it bad getting called nice?
2- the pejorative meaning behind 'nice guy' was created by some men to make themselves feel better.
3- when a girl is rejecting you and using nice guy in her 'rejection speech', it's no the nice that she rejected you for but the 'But' that comes after.5
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It's usually the guys themselves who label themselves nice guys. It's them who usually say "I'm a really nice guy, why won't women date me?". Apparently you're not one of them, I'm just saying this is what I see most.
Also, the things you said in the beginning of your myTake (provided you mean them) show where the problem begins. If you really believe most women want an "athletic superstar" who wears expensive Jordans and drives a truck or a flashy car, then your perception is clearly warped. And a warped perception is often the main problem of guys who can't find a woman. They have this really odd, over-generalized stereotype of women in their mind and won't let go of it.
Are there such women? Yes, of course. But these are a certain type of women. It's 2018. There are so many different women out there who are into different things. It's really a matter of what type of people you hang out with. I literally never encounter women (my age) who only want to date super athletic guys. Most women I know don't care about a guy being wealthy, because they're independent and earn their own money.
Anyway, to get back to your original point. What exactly is it that bothers you about being considered nice?4
by whining about it, assuming women only like "athletic, good singer, rich men" and saying "oh look at me im not cool im a geek and nerd :("
is exactly why women call you a nice guy. instead of changing things you do that deter women, you decide to whine and complain. there's a reason people think you're a "nice guy", and judging by this post, i dont blame them.2
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I dunno why guys are soo weak nowadays? there is nothing wrong with being a nice/kind guy!! women love that! and not just for women.. but why would you want to meet your creator having spent your whole life being a jerk?
you never regret being kind!! I love a respectful kind guy!! no woman worth her weight in salt would ever give any attention or love to a jerk. Women who do... are pathetic and will soon realize their fault!
never change who you are or think its "uncool" to be nice. Takes a lot of strnegth/courage to be kind! especiall in the face of an unkind cruel world6
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Look, dude, women label men just like men label women. Why? Because women are no better, despite what your mom told you. Most women are sniveling, jealous little manipulative cunts. They will stab you in the back and they cry to their daddies if you call them out. That's human nature. So stop worrying about "women" and worry about "woman," as in the one woman out there who is a match for you and actually worth your time.2
humans are animals. you are not a saint either. you wouldn't marry a woman looking like a troll for her "golden heart". likewise, most secular and even christian women want certain traits in men. they are biologically wired to do so. him being an alpha, standing strong on his feet, not getting triggered, being cool under pressure, socially savvy and with good social circle. if you achieve those you will be called cool, not nerdy or weak anymore. its your character lacks that doesn't make women wet not your hobbies. bet you are a nice guy truly in some aspects. but what life taught me, is that in the jungle you can't play with the rules of heaven. you need to toughen up. and to socialize up.1
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What Guys Said 33
I can see you have much anger and resentment towards women, and as long as you do things aren't going to change. I know because there was a time I felt exactly like you did. It's a not attractive, or a turn on. I had to learn the hard way that I was the problem, and not them. I can see you're going to learn the hard way too. You're basically saying "I'm a nice guy, so go out with me you dumb bitch" If being nice was all it took to snatch up a significant other, then everyone would be with someone. I'm sorry, but being nice isn't a special gift or talent, and none of these women owe you anything just because you're nice to them. You're nice to someone because it's what a decent human being does, you treat otheres the way you would like to be treated, not because you're expecting something in return. Thats not how it works. You need to be confident and someone that she can believe in, someone that makes her laugh, will listen, and bring out the best in her. The best thing you can do at this point is to focus on yourself, your goals and the plans for your life. I wasted so much time when I was younger complaining and being angry just like you are, instead of just focusing on myself. When I started just doing me, that's when I developed confidence and the women started noticing me, and even then it wasn't that big of a deal. I finally understood those guys that got the good looking girls but really didn't make a big deal out of it. To sum it up: confidence, goals, plans and abilities are sexy and what's going to get their attention. Whining, complaining, anger and resentment is un attractive and if that's the way you're being, it should be no surprise that they want to avoid you at all costs.0
Try older women! Less baggage and less drama overall. And they know what they want most of the times. And often they are in their sex crazed stages. Go for it boy!
And stop pitying yourself like that. It's even more unattractive than being broke. Or else you'll get 0 pussy.4
It's fine bro, don't worry about it. My tip to you would be to not invest too much of your feelings into a person until you know how they feel about you. That way if they hit you with "nice guy" you won't be as upset. Don't change who you are though, stay a nice guy.1
Nice take.. I'mma nice guy.. A genuine nice guy.. Basically a gentlemen.. I'm sure not all girls see it that way or use "nice guy" as an insult.. But you are absolutely right in many aspects.. Unfortunately that's what nice guy was been reduced to.. A pun for guys are just wanna get in girls pants, or a weaklin..1
lol @ the female comments.
But really, your life will be sssooooooo much easier once you stop caring what other people think because most people are barely rational primates. Focus on yourself and find people who you enjoy being around and fuck the rest.3
So... average guy... got it... but it ain't changing no women.
I actually commented because i LOVE LOVE LOVE your fucking delivery, the use of caps and emphasis... You are 18... ugh... the things i can teach you... but first... first... you wanna hear yourself speak? check my profile and read my Rantisodes... then check in again lol.
Lovely article... good shit.0
Unfortunately, we are living in a generation where being called nice is actually an insult.
To be honest, if you really don't want to be called a nice guy, you gotta first stop caring about what they say about you. It's just the first step, but it'll be the biggest change.
If you like collecting action figures and it makes you happy, why do you even care what people will label you after they find out about your hobby? People will always bark no matter what. They even criticise the people who give charities. They call them "show-off". They'll always find and highlight the bad in you. The best you can do is to keep doing what you do, considering it is good and progressive, and let the good in you rule your life ans dominate the world.6
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I think I get what you're saying.
Women say they want a nice guy, and when a guy is nice to them, they assume he wants something from them. Well yeah, everyone wants affection and to feel accepted. Yet only nice guys get shamed for wanting human interaction with the opposite sex.
So here's my advice: Stop being nice to women. They don't deserve your respect until they earn it.3
It's not that they are nice guys or weirdos or nerds it's simply that they are probably boring and predictable. The so called NICE GUYS are usually not very interesting. The video below kind of explains this. Hope this helps someone!
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You don't get to decide how people perceive you or treat you.
If you're discontent, it's you that's gotta adapt, buddy. Blaming others for misunderstanding you is useless and counterproductive. Doing so condescendingly makes you weak. When women speak of "nice guys", it's code for weak guy. Given your sense of self importance and finger waging rant, you're not a nice guy. You're weak. That's why people perceive you as creepy. You think the world owes you respect and when they don't, your frustration comes oozing out of your fake "niceness". No one owes you respect. Respect is earned.0
If you're being described as a Nice Guy, then it's because they don't really know you. What you WANT to hear is you're a "Good Guy" or even a "Sweet Guy". Because in either case you're at least being qualified in a real way. I've only heard guys being described as Nice if they were people pleasers who are afraid to get anyone upset, because they want everyone to like them.
You don't have to be a super hot guy for that to happen. My guess is that since you're so bothered by this. You're probably trying to hard as a people pleaser who wants approval too much.2
If she keeps talking to you about bullshit u dont want to hear or ask opinions about other guys or make u do some stuff instead of her doing it herself whatever the reason is fkn block her dude if she is not your girlfriend
I can only accept a little whining from my girlfriend if she does that
Im not gonna tolerate whining bcs u dont know what to do fkn deal with it its your problem i dont care im not your boyfriend so dont use me as a shoulder to cry on fuck off :)
Yes that was brutally honest that is why im not a "nice guy"
I AM LITERALLY NOT A NICE GUY!!
Let's stop trying to impress women with shiny words and shiny new shit. Bitches ain't SHIT!! Do you and have fun for your own damn sake0
lol, its kinda humorous to me how "nice guy" has become such a negative and controversial term now. It seems like women are pissed off more by "nice guys" who never really did anything to them aside from maybe complaining about how they are always rejected or calling her a slut than they are by players who actually cheat on them or lie to use them for sex.
Sure, maybe the guy who claims he's "nice" isn't actually that nice, but it just seems silly for girls to get so mad when most of the self proclaimed nice guys never do anything beyond complaining or acting bitter.0
Just stop being a pussy. You'll be happier. Trust me.0
You got a lot of things wrong, brother.
Being "nice" does not mean people0
l am a real man yes and far to nice fuck it l am still very single l need a girl0
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