This is the situation: Let's make it specific to GaG, shall we? Usually this problem arises in the "How Do I Look and Sexual Behaviour pages on this site. Already, I hope you know what I'm referring to. Not always, but USUALLY this is how things go down.
Insecure girl/ compliment fishing girl/ overall clueless girl: * 10 million pictures and angles of body: "Do these jeans make my butt look good?" "Are my boobs too big?" or just "Am I pretty?" etc.
Sexually deprived guys/ F boys/ Normal nice, friendly guys: "Damn bbygirl you can sit on my face any time you want" " You got them DSLs" "Very pretty, those jeans really work for you, nothing to be insecure about :) "
There is nothing fundamentally wrong with any of these reply from guys. I get that guys are sexual creatures, and usually more so than women are. However if you're not that nice guy I was talking about and just attempting to be sexual from the get go...beep BEEEP BBEBBBEBBEBEBEBP! You just ignored 10 million issues up ahead of you.
1. She's taken
2. She's single but unavailable
3. She's literally a 12 year old and you're some random 50 year old trying to woo her. No excuse. Just plain ol wrong.
4. She's single and she just doesn't like you
The MOST COMMON ISSUE is the fact that yer just creepy dude that is moving waaayyyyy too fast. If you weren't creepy betchu none of dat other stuff would matter. (Refer to 1st 4 reasons)
So yes, this MyTake is targeted at those that need a little boost with dem flirting skills cause trust me, you ain't smooth. Girls, don't sit there and laugh, because "Tee Hee Hee" to everything he says doesn't make you a whole bunch of attractiveness either.
Approaching your target
I see this happen way to often, especially when the first guy I basically flirted with had like 400 girls on GaG. He goes huntin around for a pretty girl. Ooh target found? Shoot her with the charm....that I don't have but thought I did? Yeah. Nice. It gets old when I can see a guy comment on the girl's picture and say "Ooh can you dm/pm me? I have questions for you" yeah. We all know where that's going. Maybe he's actually just talking to her casually in the dms but we can doubt it. Again, not saying it's bad, but please some girls don't like talking to guys that just flirt with everyone. They feel used. And also know how to flirt and talk to a girl if she wants to talk. The least I can say is be nice dude with some personality please. Flirt with me, that's cool, especially if I like your face. Looks are basically everything that sparks initial attraction. But don't try to get in my pants before I even say hi to you. Whatever you say, never ever ever say you aren't like other guys. Because why? Every other guy has said it to me and now I associate all their f boy-ness with you.
We also have that one guy who thinks "Hi, how are you" every day without fail, is nice. When taking to him is like that one scene from Monster's University where Mike and Sully are sitting in the classroom for making cans to collect scream energy. Nope. Boring. #SorrynotSorry . The professor in the scene made me wanna get someone to shoot a tennis ball at me. Have your own life, be exciting , go out and live life and do something awesome! That way you can bring experiences to each other's lives. But also, When guys flirt with me, I might flirt back. Really depends. So I guess it also has to do with if you're lucky or not.
Do you know the precise art and attentiveness that needs to go into this step? Hell, you do it right she might not even know that you're a f boy or trying to get her pictures. Not that I suggest that you mess with a girl's feelings like that. Because years later you'll ask why girls play mind games all the time and it's probably because another version of you walked all over her.
I find it quite intriguing to know that a guy is an f boy. And yes, I just said that. All the girls probably hate me for saying this and all the guys are like "Ha, I knew it!" but it's not because he's some badass who fucks 123455467457 girls. That doesn't matter. In fact, the only perk I can think of is that he might be better in bed. But don't ignore all the stuff that comes with that. No girl wants their man to have been like that even if she accepts it because she loves him. The matter of fact is the fuckboys know how to come across as valuable because they are unobtainable, and because other guys don't really talk to you and make you feel special like he the way he does, and including all the sweet things. Guys can learn a thing or two from the fellow f boy ways believe it or not. The picture below? Yeah. It's not a good way, just pisses us off to the max. But in terms of making her desire you, extending the time you respond will do just that.
If more guys know how to talk like them and flirt better and just be a more interesting person to talk to, AND not be a literal fuckboy, you'd be the dream. That goes for girls too. Im not asking for you to wait exactly 135.7 seconds before replying to a text and reply to his text after 15% more time than it took him. I'm just saying, don't bend over backwards for him. Show vulnerability but don't not let him walk all over your boundaries and your limits. Your boundaries are attractive in a way even if guys don't always like them. Also, you need to have a life a be interesting too. "Oh yea I party and drink and have sex and just don't give a sh*t about life, I'm mean, I'm b*tchy, etc" THAT IS NOT ATTRACTIVE to the guys you want to have in your life. The rich sucuessful and handsome and nice guys you talk about ain't be looking for girls like that for the long term unless somehow your looks magically make up for all that, which I highly doubt.
Having standards like I said is important. It shows that you value yourself and forces him to preform at a higher standard to meet those standards. If he doesn't even try, don't worry about him. This is coming from a girl who gets insecure and doesn't talk to a whole lot of guys either. But guess what? I'm not going to be desperate about it. Sure, sometimes I hold onto guys that may not be giving me their full attention and turns out to be a f boy in disguise, but when I don't let go, it's because I've already caught feelings and messed up big time and I know it will hurt me more to let go initially even though the long term will be better. But in the long term I'd rather wait for the right one and not settle for any lame crap and lack of respect. Don't let this happen to you. Focus on self improvement and being a better person and attributes that actually make you a better person and strong and confident and just naturally beautiful.
This mytake will me way too long if I try to get into the art of attraction and stuff like that. I'm not good at it either. But I'm constantly learning and improving myself. Look at this MyTake as a long intro. First things first. realize that you gots a problem and that you need to be working to contantly improve on your social skills even if it's not a romantic/ sexual relationship. -Sherry :) ( I know many people will disagree with my points, tell me everything :) )
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