Hi everyone! I hope all of you are having a great time. I just wanted to write this because yes looks are important but so many people tend to forget that personalities matter and I'd like to make a reminder that personality matters a whole lot.
To me, personality is a lot more important than looks. My type in men is not conventional at all and I have a wide variety of features I find attractive on men. So to me, the average man is alright and most men I run into are dateable looks wise but it becomes a problem personally wise.
I used to really really like this one guy, until he turned out to be immature and stalker-ish and turned out to be very weird. I immediately lost interest and I used to like him for almost 2 years!
And yes the photo is clickbate-please read what I wrote in it's caption-
Anyway let me get right into it!
1. Being polite/nice
I was at a cafe while travelling once, and the guy was so so nice to me and a male friend of mine. I immediately had a crush on him. Like just the moment I saw how nice and wholesome he was, I kept asking myself 'where will I ever meet someone like that' and I often keep thinking of that experience.
That may sound really simple but this guy just radiated positive vibes and was an extremely nice man. Me and my friend immediately noticed and were like 'hey, that guy was a great person you know'.
Being a polite and nice man is just an extreme turn on to me. In a world where so many people are cruel and taught to be self serving, it is a breath of fresh air when I run into a man who is well behaved and sweet.
2. Not afraid to be himself
Whether that means you cry sometimes when you hear a sad story, you aren't afraid to admit your insecurities, you aren't trying all the time to prove how much of a 'man you are' or if you just embrace all the weird things about you all of that is pretty hot to me!
Not only is that attractive, but it makes me respect that person. Even if I don't agree with what that person believes in or what they're doing, I respect people who are not too scared of what everyone else will think or say.
3. Intelligence
Intelligence is just sexy. It is favored in both genders but I'd say even more in men. However, it is still something that is extremely attractive since it is a positive trait and something most people want to pass onto their children.
When I meet a smart man, I'm very impressed. And I must say I'm not easily impressed haha. It is almost an immediate turn on for me.
4. Confidence
A guy who is always dull and trying to prove himself just comes across as douch-like and that is not something that I consider attractive. A guy who is loose, doesn't obsess much about things outside his control and radiates confidence is so sexy!
I don't know how but you can tell when someone is confident just by looking at them. They seem more relaxed and at ease with everything. That is a good thing.
Not to say a guy shouldn't have insecurities, but hopefully he doesn't let insecurities take over his life and destroy his confidence.
5. A hard worker
This one can beat intelligence for me sometimes, but a combination of both is good.
When a guy is passionate about what he does and is so hard working and always gives everything his best, that to me is just the epitome of attractiveness.
I respect those who have a strong work ethic, and I'd also find that attractive in a man.
Now everyone has their physical preferences and all, but I'm a lot more flexible and as I said I focus a whole lot more on personality. I can date short,tall,average size,sick,disabled,slight deformities,mentally ill,mentally fit,somewhat feminine, masculine,hot,average,slightly below average,muscular,super skinny, average,flabby and so on. You get my point. I can like you as long as you look decent / okay, you take good care of yourself and have a great personality.
A great personality to me means so much more than looks.
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