1- Guys are VERY rarely taught that it is okay to be open with their emotions when growing up
2- They are also led to believe in society that if they do open up emotionally that it makes them weak
3- A crying guy is apparently equivalent to weakness and not a concern that you should approach and try to support
I want to make it as blunt as possible in the beginning of the post, it is 100% okay to be emotional, it is 100% okay to cry, there is nothing wrong with crying, it is natural, if you are upset, don't hold it in and cause mental stress, let it out, you will feel much better if you open up, or at least you will feel more relieved to be able to release those feelings instead of letting them build up inside.
I understand that society has caused a big scar on guys, making them believe a LOT that it is expected of them to not be this emotionally upset, but I want to make it as clear as possible for the guys that this is 100,000,000% INCORRECT and that you should be more open with your emotions.
Something I want to stress for the girls is something I grew up hearing ALL the time which is this-
"Be gentle" and "Don't be spiteful"
These two quotes are what are heard every time when I play with my sister.
While I agree that fundamentally you should be gentle with PEOPLE and not be spiteful towards PEOPLE, the quote has been rigged and changed to say you should be more gentle with girls and not be spiteful to them, this has led to my sister and other girls I know to believe they can be aggressive towards guys and then expect that they won't be hurt equally for what they did.
A list of things I have experienced and seen girls do both to other guys and myself are-
Pinching,Usually pinching would be a slightly painful experience, but when they have those nasty sharp nails of theirs, they can leave marks, sometimes even cut the skin.
Slapping, slapping is a thing that hurts at first but starts to fade after a bit, not too bad depending on where they do it.
Kicking, for some reason girls kick guys and then get confused to why the guy kicks them back, thinking guys aren't allowed to inflict ANY damage on them which is legit bullshit.
Scratching, this actually hurts a LOT, scratches are probably the most painful I have had on the entire list, because they go deep in the skin, they last a long time and the pain doesn't fade as fast.
Guys, if a girl hurts you, defend yourself, don't believe in this rule, it is a lie, start by telling them to leave you alone and if they continue to hurt you physically then you have every right to hurt them equally, just because they are girls does not mean they are exempt from being hurt.
Girls, DON'T grow up believing you are allowed to do this, it is a terrible thing to be taught, I understand it isn't always your fault but the fault of the ones who raised you, but use common knowledge that is "If someone hit me, I would hit them back"
So now apply that to what logically would happen if you hit a guy, it would make LESS sense to hit a guy and not have them hit you, we aren't target practice or some punch bag, we have feelings and when you hit or kick or pinch or scratch us it F***ING HURTS, so think before you act.
Other things I need to mention is how fast girls seem to be to trying the kick to the balls, I understand if you are doing it to protect yourself from someone who is trying to take advantage of you or something but it isn't okay to just go about doing it if a guy is arguing with you or you got agitated by him.
The rule is,
"DON'T HURT SOMEONE UNLESS YOU ARE PREPARED TO GET HURT AS WELL"
So don't hit a guy unless you are prepared to be hit back, otherwise you are just scum in my eyes.
The excuses I have heard in my time are-
-"I'm a girl so you can't hit me" So apparently a entire gender decides if you get hit
-"Girls are fragile so you can't hit us" I agree, they are typically more fragile, but if that is so, why are they going about using all their strength to hurt people who are stronger than them?
-"Guys are supposed to be able to take it" This one is just utter shit, not a single leg to stand on.
-"I didn't hit you that hard" I don't care, you hit me so you get hit back, and you can't decide on the amount of damage you did to someone else by saying you didn't hit them that hard, if I were to punch a toddler with about 10% of my strength and they go flying across the room, would it be fair to escape punishment for me to say "Well I didn't hit them that hard"
You know what happens to girls who hit guys?
Others say the guy deserved it, other girls cheer for them and the guy who got hit is not pitied.
You know what happens to a guy that hits a girl?
He is called a woman beater, he is shunned by girls and guys, no-one asks if the hit he did was for defensive reasons or if it was because the woman hit him.
I don't want to seem aggressive or make the post solely about girls and their behaviours towards guys but I had to get it off my chest, which is just another part of opening up emotionally like the post says.
This is NOT the behaviour of ALL girls, I have met and do know ones that agree that it is completely out of order to hit a guy and then make excuses to why you can't be hit back, some of them even say that if they ever hit a guy they would feel bad if they weren't hit back.
I know girls who have even encouraged me during growing up and telling me that if I ever get hit by a girl, I should defend myself, I respect them a lot and we are all good friends, they have never once hurt me.
I think all my stress on that has been extinguished.
I have a strong feeling that this will get a lot of hate but who cares, it's the truth and I am willing to shoulder that hate if it brings light to the facts.
Thanks for reading