If people are free to choose, then some people will be chosen more than others, and some won't be chosen at all.
It's not probable for everybody to be chosen, because that's not how natural selection works.
Some people will be genetically superior and will be chosen due to that.
Some would be born and raised in a favourable environment.
Some people would learn to play the game and be chosen because of that.
If contraceptives are available then people are free from the worry of pregnancy.
If the culture has lax attitudes towards hooking up then the people will be hooking up.
If you're not worried about pregnancy and casual sex is normal, and there's easy access to every prospective mate within a radius of many miles, then it's only survival of the fittest.
It's a deregulated marketplace where winners win big and losers come away with nothing.
As long as this type of system exists the existence of involuntarily celibates is probable.
When people say they should just get it together, I don't think they're taking the realities of the system into account.
In this type of open system I don't think there is a threshold that the bottom of the barrel can reach in order to prevent the people at the top from taking their mating opportunities, I've haven't seen the point at which that would occur anyways.
If they improve themselves then I think it would come at the cost of creating another one to take their place.
Involuntarily celibates are turning to homicide, and suicide, or lackluster societal contributions in general.
I read that social mobility is lower in more unequal places, so maybe the desperate measures are a symptom of low "relationship" mobility and higher inequality.
It would seem like there could be some kind of outreach programs for these types of people. Something different from the regular mental health spiel, since I don't think the problems can only be chalked up to a mental illness, hopefully something acknowledging their specific situations.
I know lots of people hate involuntary celibates, or they don't care about them, or they come up with any number of negative associations.
My situation of not finding relationships has been similar and nearly unchanging to this day.
Probably other stuff I didn't say or whatever things didn't add up, my thoughts going into the abyss.
I almost feel like it's not even a thing anymore, questioning whether it's only like me and one other person on the internet at this point.