Remember Gentlemen, YOU are the prize

[Apope16]

Why sit around and wait for her to text you back? Why agonize about her truest feelings for you? Why place her on a pedestal as if she is a goddess and poops out flowers?

No gentleman. Hold your chin high. Dont let these swiping ego whipped ladies get you down. Text her twice a week to set up a date or a phone chat. No more than that. You have a life. Because...YOU. ARE. THE. PRIZE.

You are the leader and she expects you to lead. She wants you to ask her out and decide where the date will be. Because you are the prize.

You are a focused man. Whether you are rich or poor..most divorces center around your wealth and how much of YOUR wealth she will get. Because you are the prize.

You trim the hedges, you mow the lawn, you keep the finances in order, you fix the car. You are a man. You are the prize.

When it gets dark and cold and windy. You hold her in your arms like the day you first met her. She tells you that she doesn't look the same. That she doesn't feel sexy anymore. Or maybe its the latest that the kids did today. She is angry. She is all sorts of things. But you hold her tight. She came to you and bitched about life because you listen and you are there. You are the prize.

When the world is exhausting that libido is strong. Your erection makes her feel powerful. Sexy. She feels wanted. Even loved. When that achy feeling of wanted to be filled up returns she is desperate for you. You are the prize.

Someday after the thousands of horny messages she will get it. It will either be the nice confident lad who got away or the husband she took for granted. But now she is is 39 and its love the man now or she is alone forever. It could be too little or too late. Maybe by then you are married to a new lady that younger.

Gentlemen, Love these women to death. Show them your humor and your passion and your strength. Then maybe someday they will realize...

YOU ARE THE PRIZE.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I don't know why but i felt like SnoopDog is wrapping the words😂but it's right women actually want a man to lead, even if they say no and are stubborn they want someone who is at the level of craziness they are and over power them in a loving manner and sharing of responsibilities

[es20490446e]

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[Aakash_Hangargi]

I won't I am cheap and won't spend money😂🤣thanks

[es20490446e]

Good :P

[Anonymous]

Neither partner should be put on a pedestal in the relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

What the fuck?

[padreflint]

jackk_123 if you were to take your 3 year old daughter out to the store would you take her into the men's bathroom when you have to pee?

[Imcmullan]

What in the fuck is wrong with Jack? Lol 😆

[Ratmuffin]

Jack is whack. Seems like a creeper

[M3_Charles]

💯 - if a relationship is about point scoring and socioeconomic politics, it's not a relationship, it's a business

[Ratmuffin]

What about an executive? Can i put them on a pedestal, if both partners fail to make a decision? A chair is kinda like a pedestal, can i put the chairman on a pedestal?
Im asking first because the last time i tried to give my OPINION i was told that my OPINION was wrong. Which has to be, THE, DUMBEST, fucking response i have ever heard! Oh my OPINION is wrong? As soon as you explain how the fuck an OPINION can be wrong, ill be by one of the lakes here and I'll fucking make sure my gun doesn't jam this fucking time!

[Opinion Owner]

I never said your opinion was wrong?

[Ratmuffin]

Not you darling. Ur ok. None of this will matter eventually

[M3_Charles]

Lol who you directing this anger at?

[Ratmuffin]

It doesn't matter. Ill delete it

[Ratmuffin]

I don't know how. Just ignore me

[alligatorblues]

Coming from one who has never been there.

[MyHonest2Cents]

This is true, it also makes the other person uncomfortable.

[alex202020]

Wait, are you telling me that women don't poop out flowers? I laughed out loud sorry, because my first long-term relationship oh, she was very sexy very beautiful and English was not her native language and when I said to her I imagine her farts smell like flowers she went around telling her friends in her native language and I knew what she told them cuz it all give you this look of like not discussed but like I was an insane person. But honestly she felt like she was on a pedestal and she got a kick out of it that I said that sorry but I just like that you put in there I never hear it anywhere else except in my brain that's cool. maybe this is just me but I see several contradictions in your blanket because if you're texting some women and talking to her all the time she will see you as weak and at the same level if not below her and once she doesn't have this respect type level she usually tends to walk all over you and if you're different that's really awesome but for my experience I don't want to do this, but I feel forced to repress suppress whatever the word is the urge to text or to call or show that I'm super interested in her because once a woman goes to that place where your unequalled with her or even below her in her mind she starts being sarcastic and once a relationship goals the sarcastic Direction I believe there's no point in staying in it does nothing to help her bring it back maybe I'm wrong but that's just my personal experience and thought process. yeah I want to be with her and talk to her all the time come with me very complacent with just being with her and only her. But for me I've noticed, I've experienced that it just seemed that way or in love with her and everything yeah she likes it for a little while and then she starts making sarcastic Commons negatively and then she becomes more sarcastic and eventually speaks nicely to everyone but has a total different tone when she speaks to you, or in this case meme haha have fun stay you if that's the way you are but please try to understand how men feel as well and why they may act the way they act. anxiety and all that kiss real regardless of how many times you hit on a woman or talk to a woman or got the courage to talk to a woman so the woman you're talking to makes it easier for you and and she is into you as well, just remember you don't know how much that guy likes you to get the balls to actually talk to you oh, it usually is not a spur-of-the-moment
I mean I have been Smitten by women for like 6 month year and don't dare to say anything just waiting for some opportunity to present itself, and many regardless how much I like them in hindsight I have never gotten the balls to talk to them so my point is you should make it easy for the guys to see if you actually like them because you're opportunities will go way up to date if you seem approachable. and I don't know where women got this idea but playing hard to get it's not necessary if a man likes you and it feels so great when you actually know that she likes you as well without the game of hard-to-get. nd this what I say is coming from a guy who in his friend's mind would seem very successful with women.

[Barbaric]

When you put a woman on a pedestal you shouldn't be surprised when she looks down on you. It's better instead to bend her over it and rail the shit out of her.

[alex202020]

Yes, then you need to buy a multi-purpose pedestal I don't got that kind of money dude. my solution get a few dogs and realize what true love is. Have fun misogynistic prick. :-)

[Barbaric]

I will, unlike you.

[alex202020]

dude, I have not been with a woman long time yeah, I have dog sanctuary and I'm not lacking in that feeling of love and appreciation and I have no desire of ever being with a woman again. If you think misogynistic prick is a derogatory term you're mistaken and I have a life that is awesome, but if if you imagine me not having fun and being miserable and that causes you some kind of satisfaction, imagine me like super miserable all the time like I'm sitting on a sofa with a gun in my hand, tears in my eyes I put it up to my head and then I put it back down on my lap and I say no oh, and they just repeat that cycle over and over and over again like constantly throughout my days. I do that for you man so you feel better and I sound like I'm smug, I'm not dude I'm just playing

[AmandaYVR]

Well I'm against anyone being the prize, or the king or queen or princess etc. So I reject it on that premise.

But aside from that, your model doesn't work and here's why. Many men have a preference and preoccupation for wanting many women and not offering commitment and loyalty in return.

There are guys who cheat.
And there are guys who (often in the early stages of their life through or in their 20s) do like some girls, have some feelings for them, but they are not ready to commit. They just got out from under their parents' roof, or school and teachers telling them what to do and think. The last thing they want is to be more confined or restricted. They don't want to have to answer to anyone for a while. They want to go, explore the world, explore all the different types of women, etc. They want to make their own choices and not have to answer to anyone else's. Many won't want to give this up until later, once they've had some experiences and some independence. Some never grow out of this thinking and want this their whole life.
And yes, there are also men who want just one woman, would be happy with one and would be committed, but they are only one portion of this.

So if anyone is 'the prize' it can only the one who is selective and discerning, not the one saying yes to anything with legs, the vagabond who wants freedom and as few responsibilities as possible.

And this is not girls. Girls are inherent nesters. They want stability more than adventure. (Plus, they have biology at stake, and if they're going to raise a family with kids they need to start in their 20s for best odds and health of the babies.)

So thus, you have a circle which just keeps going round and round.

[devilman666]

This is kinda sexist tbh. Girl's are inherent nesters? Bullshit, lots of women waste their youth on adventure. Plus millenial women aren't going to have children so it won't matter for my generation, only the milennials with millionaire parents will be able to own a house before they're 40. Then again, if Covid-19 kills enough people it might fix the housing crisis a little bit.

[devilman666]

Women are selective and discerning? Is that why they're always complaining about assholes and vagabonds taking advantage or them? Because they picked the right man right away with their selective discerning skills? No, they fucked up multiple times like everyone else, get over yourself.

[devilman666]

Also, little known fact, there are women who cheat too. In fact, statistically both genders cheat about equally, but I've heard studies say that women are better at hiding it.

[AmandaYVR]

Nothing about what I said is untrue. It's called a summary.

I am well aware that women are cheating in approx equal number to men now. In all of history prior to this, men had the practical advantage, with the women being housebound and raising multiple kids. Plus, without birth control they couldn't hide affairs as easily. It was also more socially acceptable for men to have multiple lovers. Do you all think women weren't attracted to other men? The whole thing is a wash now. But I never said women don't cheat. I said men want more partners and not monogamy. That is different.

Just because the financial ability to afford a home has gone to shit doesn't mean the desire for nesting has gone away. And one of the key reasons people are not having kids is because of the high cost of living.

It is pointless to discuss something with someone when they are going to basically just fall back on the idea that there are exceptions to everything. OF COURSE THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS. But the majority is what counts when summarizing complex situations.

[devilman666]

-.- "in all histoty prior to this, men had the practical advantage", are we really going there? Women always want to make it seem like men have all the advantages, but no, we don't. Here's an interesting thing to think about, if there were more men cheating than women, who were the men cheating with? It's simply illogical unless you assume that there are a large amount of gay men married to women... which there actually probably was a decent amount of gay men married to women at that time cause being gay was against the law.

"Men want more partners and not monogamy", this is incorrect and I can prove it. I don't want more partners, I'm currently a virgin at 24 and dont want sex unless it's with a woman I have deep feelings for. Further, some men want more partners, some men want monogamy, some women want more partners, some women want monogamy, it varies from person to person not gender to gender.

[devilman666]

Desire for nesting? Jesus were you born in the 50s or something? Do you think women are birds or something? Have you SEEN young women? They want to go out and have fun, they don't want to settle down, most of them dont have any desire for marriage until they hit their 30s and start worrying about being alone as they grow old. Women these days party more than men do.

Yeah, thats what I was trying to point out, people my age can't have kids regardless because barring an economic miracle, they won't be able to afford it.

[AmandaYVR]

THE PRACTICAL ADVANTAGE OF CHEATING. Not in all of life. Don't take things out of context. I am precise with my words. Now that women can cheat as easily as men always have been, they are. SATISFIED?

You're rude, argumentative, have no nuance in your understanding and talk out of your ass based on little life experience and your anecdotal ideas. And you're an absolutist. There is no rational discussion with you.

What level of commitment are you seeking in a relationship? ↗

Guys (single men): what do you want: a relationship, hookups, or nothing right now? ↗

You are a waste of my time.
I'm done with you.

[Dongtai]

Are you the real @AmandaYVR? I've never seen you write a generalization about any particular before. You're one of the wisest level-headed writers I've encountered on here but this is the one rare time where i have to disagree with your generalization. I disagree with @Apope16 as well but I'll have to write that out later today. I'm supposed to be working on homework. This response just surprised me seeing it written by you.

[ChiTown33]

@Dongtai i have to agree but it's not always what you say but how you say it. Maybe this subject triggers Amanda a bit we all have our triggers. I agree normally with her because she's level headed and unbiased. But this is a he said she said subject. The fact that she's a woman makes it impossible to give an unbiased view.
Sorry Amanda i have to side with devilman and Dongtai.

[AmandaYVR]

@ChiTown33 Dongtai
Yeah you're right devilman is driving me crazy. I am triggered. It's his style, aggressiveness, lack of logic that is pissing me off and I'm losing my focus. I really think he's a waste of time to debate anything with. The Asker is a better writer at least. I disagree with his premise but at least he's got some sense.
I shouldn't have answered this question. The title is too incendiary, and it brings out a less evolved crowd than what I prefer and am used to as my peeps. So instead of countering all his stupidity and trying to clarify my writing and thoughts better, I'm just goona leave this one. I may not be blocking much but I also don't want to spend my time with people who aren't worth it.
Sorry guys, I'll try and do better next time.

[Dongtai]

@AmandaYVR You don’t have to apologize. It’s understandable. Lately there’s been a lot of sexist Mytakes from both genders. It can be overwhelming to see so many people agree with a generalization. I’ll admit that sometimes I feel attacked when I see “Modern Men Should Be This Way” or “Why Men Suck” when nothing about me matches those articles but my gender.

I think this lockdown is starting to force people to see “themselves” and deal with parts of themselves they’d otherwise be able to ignore or escape. This is an outlet. These people with this sexist or bigoted views are writing from a place of hurt.

[AmandaYVR]

@Dongtai Thanks. Yeah there's definitely a ripple effect. I saw two really stupid mytakes, not those ones, maybe, but guess there's even more. I just got accused of being anti-women, so I get it from both ends, no matter what I do. Exhausting.
You ever watched Curb Your Enthusiasm? I like that show, and Leon Black is hilarious. "I causes the ruckus, Larry!"

[Dongtai]

I’m not sure where this weird gender war has game from but everyone needs to step off of their imaginary pedestal. Both men and women are writing why their respective gender is “above” the other and why the other is below them. I’m willing to bet 90% of these writers are either single or unhappily committed. No one with a GREAT love life takes the time to write garbage like this.

You are not going to fix your love life by wasting your time online bashing gender groups. Women are not going to magically fall into your lap if you adopt a superiority complex towards them. Stop encouraging these us and them attitudes.

Here’s the thing. People (male or female) are individuals. There is nothing wrong with putting an “individual” on a pedestal. Some people truly are worthy of admiration. But that admiration is earned through their own personal achievement and characteristics.

No one deserves a pedestal simply for being born male or female. People who do this usually have sneaky motives and are just trying to win someone over. They don’t truly admire that person for who they are but rather what they are.

Men. Women. Be yourself. You don’t have to be superior or inferior. Strive to be your absolute best self and you will attract the right partners. Hurt comes with growth. Don’t let it turn you sour. Everyone goes through disappointment and heartbreak. But bitterness isn’t going to magically prevent that from happening. It guarantees it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well, these days women are less likely to make the first move so you could have a point there. But it doesn't mean that men are the "Prize". And neither are women egotistical for doing what they do. All of of this is kind of stereotyping men and women. We're not all the same or at least don't all act the same. It's usually women who are mistreated, ALL. THE. TIME, and men are the triggers of this. Sorry to say, but this "My Take" sounds kind of egotistical. While it's true that women want men to take the lead it doesn't make HIM the prize, it makes WOMEN the prize because the man is the one trying to Impress the woman. You Just proved it lol. Plus you are kind of looking for a fan and not a great woman is what this post sounds like. Also men are not always the ones doing every single thing for the woman and for the relationship. You're treating it as if the relationship is all supposed to be one sided with one person making all the effort which is the man. Where is a say for the woman? The woman also has roles to play in the relationship too. The fact is true that women like it when men take the lead, but it doesn't mean the man needs to do everything in the relationship. A woman needs to also Initiate and do stuff to make it all work out too.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

And also to point out there's some points that I disagree with... As a woman I feel like I should be the one to also take care of my man and not Just him of me. I want to work too and make some money too, not Just him doing it all for me. It should be mutual. And Just because he has a life, doesn't mean that the woman doesn't lol she too has one.

[theronaldmcdonald]

I agree with some parts but others are quite toxic. No one belongs on a pedestal in a relationship. A relationship is a partnership, men are not the only ones who can provide stability. Texting someone twice a week to make plans is fine if you just don’t like texting, but if you’re doing it for power that’s pretty pathetic. You’re idea of what a relationship should be seems pretty unhealthy, seems like you want a pet more than a significant other. You just want someone totally dependent on you and that’s not what love is. And that’s on toxicity.

[Apope16]

Its twice a week because he is busy and texting twice a week to give a lady space eitgout being needy.

[theronaldmcdonald]

I get that, but it’s not like sending a few texts takes up a lot time. “I’m too busy” is a bullshit excuse, especially if it’s ALWAYS your excuse for not doing things. It is very important to have your own life in a relationship, where you have plenty of time alone and with friends, but when you are interested in some you make time. Doesn’t have to be full on conversation all day every day, but just a good morning and good night and an occasional call shows effort. My boyfriend has two jobs, is in college full time, is the frontman of two bands, and is a very social party kinda guy. He jam packs his schedule and he is the most genuinely busy person I have ever met. Despite that, he still sends a few texts everyday and he tries to call when he can. Everyone has time and if they genuinely don’t, they should consider not dating for the time being as a relationship takes a decent amount of effort from both parties.

[hopefulecynic]

Coming from a single man.
Haha

This is why relationship seldom work between opposite genders. Everybody wants to be king or queen.

It's a partnership or nothing. You want to think that way You can stay single or just go through break up repeat. That's up to you.

I have no qualms with the fact that you're a man saying this. I would feel the same if a women said it.

Your outlook will determine the richness of your life. Just my take on it.

I feel compassion towards people who let ego get in the way of letting love find it's way to them.

There is no ego in love. It's contradictory.

[Apope16]

Thanks for the great post.

There is absolutely ego in love. Ego means dignity for oneself. Or self value or self respect.

If one person in a relationship feels they are losing their ego and their part doesn't make their ego feel validated... it is a slippery slope to destruction.

There is nothing more powerful in representing ego than to for someone to look you in the eye and say "I Love you."

There is a chemistry in hearing that. You butterflies. You feel giddy. It is the highest representation of someone expressing that you matter to them more than anyone in the world. Think about that. There are 3 billion people in the world and you matter more to that person than 2,999,999,999 other people that exists on the planet. Its deep stuff.

[yrdady]

I'm a worthy man getting better and stronger everyday at many things. I am attractive with good genes. That's not what you mean though. They want bombast. They want frame. All this to me is game/gamey. Required unfortunately in many cases.

When I enter a new field, some of the first things that happen are I get confident and better but also humbled and brought down. Even with skills I thought I had I am humbled by better men and people. I don't like to put women on a pedestal. IT's just that women and society or the environment often runs the scrambler on us. That's the crux of it. They scramble our brains, or try to, to debase us. I don't want to have to exert any effort to make myself think I am the prize, but at the same time, I know what you're getting at. There's this scrambler going on. They try to bend you and break you and make you cave. If you don't cave, you can get a lot of love. I just want to be autonomous and effective.

[Apope16]

Good Stuff!

[Anonymous]

I cut the bushes. I take the car in. I take care of the Bill's. I go to a shrink to bitch about life. I hug myself and give myself orgasmic attention. He just goes to work and plays video games and ignores everything. I don't know what you are talking about. My husband needs to be dragged down to do anything. Talking to him is exhausting. He is an angry man that will bite my head off. Best to be left alone. I just do everything.

[Apope16]

Im sorry for your plight. he's not a MAN. he is a boy. Find a MAN.

[Opinion Owner]

It's too late. I am married. But my dad was a man, but he saw his role as a hobby. He liked house and car maintenance. My husband does not. He only likes video games.

[Caramel_creme]

A lot if this battle of the sexes rhetoric stems put of insecurity. You see this defensive attitude a lot in regions and sections of society where there is an imbalance of power between the genders.

In the last couple of years I have had the benefit of having some varied experiences in different geographical locations and in different socio economic circles. The more educated, aware and progressive a group of people are, the less all this becomes relevant. People are assessed there more for what they bring to the table as individuals and not by their labels (of which gender is one of them). In egalitarian circles, this whole discussion is irrelevant...

[Godofbliss]

And yet the women there too will divorce a man for not being manly? Won't they? Or they wouldn't even marry such a man, they'll blame it on some other fault... but deep down... they know it's because they want someone confident enough to spank them without being ask to...

I don't agree that the guy is the "prize" though... that in itself is not manly... most women want a confident, stable and strong man... not an arrogant one.

However egalitarian you become.. the basic nature of the sexes won't change... the woman can earn more.. she can do the lawn even... but the man will always have to be manly... he doesn't get to be less confident, less stable or less strong physically... the girl would generally never pick a guy that's worse than them in this regard...

[Caramel_creme]

@Godofbliss As a matter of fact, my boyfriend is not masculine (in many ways he is sensitive and even effeminate), and very much an introvert. He gets anxious in social situations, soft spoken and suffers from insecurites. So, no, you are wrong - in my circle, women don’t necessarily need their men to be masculine. There are many women like me.

My Boyfriend tells me about how it was difficult for him especially as a child and teenager growing up in a society that Expects a man to be masculine, and says that things he notices a major change in this today - especially in thé younger generation. Teenagers and people in their 20s - the guys are more open to embracing their feminine side.

[Godofbliss]

If he's sharing his emotions and insecurities with you.. and only you.. then your boyfriend here is not effeminate like you claim him to be... and you're not as egalitarian as you think...
And being an introvert is not effeminate, it's actually more common in men. Being sensitive is also not specifically feminine.

By manly, what I've seen most women expect is... you don't breakdown it front of other random people... you can keep your emotions in check till it's appropriate... you can be stable when your partner seeks to open up about her problems... most importantly, you do what needs to be done..

[Godofbliss]

If you can say you boyfriend walks, talks and goes about spewing emotions everywhere... like a lot of gay guys... then ya.. you can call him feminine...

[Godofbliss]

It's kinda sad that you think he's feminine for being guy who's learnt to open up a little to his girlfriend.

[Godofbliss]

My advice... ask other people if they think your boyfriend is feminine... cause you clearly seem too close to the issue to realise it either way.. they probably don't see him that way.

[Caramel_creme]

@Godofbliss I didn’t say he is sharing his emotions and insecurities with me and me only.

The reason I mentioned being introverted is not related to being feminine, but your argument that women expect their men to be confident (more confident than them at least). In my case, I am much more confident than my Boyfriend.

[Godofbliss]

But there are other parts to it... is he less stable than you? Less physically strong? Do you not feel safe when you're with him? Does he go around spewing emotions... or walking and talking like a girl?
If he do doesn't, you're not egalitarian and he's not feminine. Don't turn him feminine to suit your need to be egalitarian.

[Caramel_creme]

@Godofbliss
“If you can say you boyfriend walks, talks and goes about spewing emotions everywhere... like a lot of gay guys...” That’s not typical of how gay guys behave in my experience. It is not typical of how most people including women behave. That being said he gets mistaken for being gay fairly often.

“My advice... ask other people if they think your boyfriend is feminine... cause you clearly seem too close to the issue to realise it either way.. they probably don't see him that way.” I haven’t asked my friends. Never came up as it’s a non issue to me (unlike to you).

I am definitely emotionally more stable than him.

I am not physically stronger than him. And yes, while it has never come to mind, I suppose in a situation where I would feel unsafe as a woman, I would feel safer with him by my side. And that’s because he is a man... not because of the typical expectation of masculinity that is complained about.

[Godofbliss]

You could've led with the sentence, "he gets mistaken for gay fairly often"... it obviously means he behaves that way... body language.. the vibe in general etc...
and however saintly you claim to be, you picked up on the fact that he's feminine too.(just cause i pointed out it's the walk and talk, and emotions everywhere.. you get uncomfortable so I rephrased it.)
But you're egalitarian... good for you... now what? Enjoy an effeminate man? I doubt many women would want to be in your position if asked without the fear of judgement.

You know, most people these days pick partners based on how they'd like to appear rather than who they are attracted to? It leads to unhappiness in the long run... just saying.

[Caramel_creme]

@Godofbliss What can I say when you insist on believing what you believe...

[Daylight7550]

I'm surprised he's even still with you. You sound a threat girl for real.

[Godofbliss]

@Daylight7550 lol.

[MzAsh]

A man who actually does these things without complaining... now that is a prize.

[Apope16]

Do you think that type of man is sexy or beautiful?

[devilman666]

A woman who cooks and cleans without complaining, now that is a prize.

[MzAsh]

Apope16, both!

Devil man, I’ll cook and clean without complaining at my convenience but when duty calls, my man gets it done without me having to ask.

[devilman666]

Hopefully he gets it done at his convenience then.

[MzAsh]

Obviously. We both work but I have multiple jobs. I can’t always be there. He can more.

[Dargil]

"You trim the hedges, you mow the lawn, you keep the finances in order, you fix the car. You are a man."
*I pointed that out when the divorce action came. She said: "I can get that anywhere. That's nothing." Now, once in a while, I drive by the house she got in the divorce looking for the For Sale sign. Maybe its there in the tall grass. Karma's a bitch... Bitch!!!

[hi_it_is_me123]

? You are divorced and are 29?

[Apope16]

This is awesome! haha. I should make it MHO if I can. Right now I can't.

[Dargil]

@hi_it_is_me123 Married at 22

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

Things are different now. Both of my daughters, early 30s, make way more money than their husbands and do the yard work, finances, are more educated, and take care of things in general. They have anxieties and procrastinate. I’m from a different generation. I’ll gladly treat my man as the prize if he acts like a man most of the time. Sure he can cry for serious things and nurture his kids the way fathers do, but he’s got to be my rock.

[DianaWest]

what a load of total bullshit. at the end of the day the only prize is YOU. not anyone else. not your partner. YOU. (and of course your kids and parents) unfortunately, some people devalue themselves, and others value themselves far too much. it is hard to find a good equilibrium between the two. value others, but value yourself more and don't kiss anyone's ass. life is too short for ass kissing and all this bullshit.

[RolandCuthbert]

Good luck convincing guys here. I tried and I guess because of my wording, they rejected it. There are too many guys at GaG who pretend that women won't or can't like them.

But on this thread you get 26 thumbs up.

Weirdness.

To All the Men Who Think They Have Been Friendzoned, Passed Over, etc. Here is a Little Advice...

[SweedyPie]

Is it bad that I disagree on some points? Well, I guess we just have a differing opinion on some things. I want to be all of these things for my partner too. I don't expect it to be all on him to take care of me. I feel happier when I'm the one doing the caretaking. All I want is love, trust and honesty in return. A strong unbreakable bond and that's it. I want to put him in a house make sure his throne is niiiice and shiny where he'll reign supreme. But I expect him to feel the same about me. I don't mind being the one who puts more money in our bank account and having absolutely zero prenuptial agreements. I want to make sure he gets massages and cuddles and suck him mercilessly when he comes home from work. Make sure our house feels like home, a sanctuary of happiness. I could go on forever. Yes. I know I'm different and it's fine if you don't agree. Lol. :D

[Tally_ho]

I hate all of this prize $h1t.
Couples should be equal in everything.
If you have to start with the thinking that you are better in some way or something to be won/won over then in my experience that never works out

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It's impossible for couples to be equally good at same things we have to accept each other strengths and weakness no matter whose the Prize then only a relationship can work

[Apope16]

Good point. THanks for the reply!

[RAIDERMAN55]

Waiting by the phone for her text & pondering what she is feeling for you are lame so I couldn’t comment on subjects that I have no knowledge about. I can comment on why I put my woman on a pedestal if I were in a relationship... a real man knows to put his woman first and making her feel special, for example opening any door for her, making the effort to support her passions which should be as important to you as they are to her & when it comes to intimacy a real man knows his job isn’t to satisfy his woman, a man’s job is to please her mine & body like no other... I say that because the majority of guys out there seem more about themselves which is truly accepting defeat on their part.

[Ratmuffin]

You were obviously raised right. Hats off brother

[Anonymous]

I would cheat on a such guy who is wanna be dominant macho idiot and again another idiot who reduce woman to their age and drgrade woman in their 30s

[Opinion Owner]

I mean if he does not want to spend time with me and only text 2 times a week, i can spend my time with another guys

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh sorry i misunderstand you

[Apope16]

The man want to spend time with his woman. He just doesn't want to look needy and he as a man with an active and busy life.

[_inkRat]

Then why you want to be a shit who cheats? Why not leave him? I mean what wrong with you?

[Opinion Owner]

Why should i have emphaty for such idiots

[Lman3000]

Ya know reading this either I've lived in a shitty part of New York too long or this is the most white person thing I've ever read. Like who fucking does this nowadays? I don't even wanna know how many women you could've possibly been with, Also I like how no sees this, if you mention how you can date as many women as you want or you brag about how many you been with I think, Wow you must really suck with women cause you can't seem to stick with one for a good week. Which is basically a fuck boy or might as well be a damn porn star or prostitute

[arabgoddess]

How does this apply to women who wear the pants in the relationship?

[Apope16]

There is nothing sexier than a strong woman. She just needs to let go and allow her man to lead. Otherwise she will not respect him. It could him doing laundry. Or him leading surprise date night once a week.

[arabgoddess]

He's nothing like that.. But thanks ☺ I don't think it's sexy.. A man taking the lead is sexy

[Apope16]

See my lastest my take "I am woman. I am the prize."

[Apope16]

YOu know the dynamics of your relationship. build your man up. let him take a lead on something in your relationship every once and while. he might surprise you. could be a chore. could be cooking. could be a date. could be anything. but if you dont you will grow to resent him as your little bitch.

[arabgoddess]

He's slack and lazy.. He was raised Like that

[Apope16]

Then you will not work out. You do not respect your man. You view him with deragatory rather than loving terms. Your relationship has an expiration date. The clock has already been ticking.