So women always say they like guys who are "protective" because it makes them feel safe. Now on a evolutionary stand point that makes sense. Females animals choose the strongest male mates because they have the best chance of protecting them against predator species and they have a higher chance of producing healthier offspring. However, we now live in a technological world where that is no longer an issue.
Now some might say "but what about violent people that could attack us?" Yes it's good to have someone strong protecting you. However that doesn't mean they are going to be stronger than every violent guy that attacks women. We also live in a world of guns that almost render strength worthless. A bullet will go through a bodybuilder like it'll go through anyone else. Most violent offenders usually have some form of gun or at the very least a knife that they can use. Strength would only come into play if you have one of those rare movie like moments where both people are trying to shove the blade in the other. But this is reality and that is very unlikely in an actual fight. Fights with weapons are won by the person that usually strikes first because the first strike is enough to kill the other person.
Now others might ask "They deter violent offenders from attacking us because my man is intimidating." Yes this is true. They deter criminals that were going to bully you and make you cough up your purse. However, they don't deter the really violent criminals at all. The type of crooks that after you give them all your valuables still shoot you won't be scared at all of him. They run up blow your bf's brains out before either of you knew what was happening and then tell you to cough up your belongings and then kill you to. Remember Bruce Waynes parents?(I know it's irnoic I just used a fictional scenario for real life situations but it's the most iconic and it does in fact happen all the time).
Now that we've established how having a strong guy in your life isn't all that practical we ask ourselves "Then why do guys still do this?" Simple, they are delusional and over confident in their own abilities. Most guys go through their whole life without ever getting in a fight yet so many think they know how to kick ass. They don't. Guys will tell girls all the time they'll protect them and then once another guy comes into the picture your guy will get his ass handed to him by this new guy when your boyfriend tried to protect you when the other man walked up and started talking to you. Yes this is usually the only times that your "protective" boyfriend actually tries to protect you is when other men hit on you. Sometimes they aren't even hitting on you they are simply just talking to you with no sexual intent. But that doesn't stop your knight in shining armor to turning the situation violent and actually endarging everyone because of it. Don't confuse their confident cocky attitude for the actual ability to protect you. Think of it like a dog. The small dogs bark all day but they could just be sit on by the larger more quiet breed dogs. They bark because they know they can't bite.
So some people wonder "Why do guys act protective over girls to the point of being hostile to guys that even look in her direction?" Many answer with that the guy just truly cares about the girl and wants to keep her safe. Trust me when I say that they aren't actually worried about you being physically assaulted when they puff their chest when some guy is eyeing you. They are doing it for their own interests not yours. They are afraid that you'll fall for the new guy and instead of letting you pick they scare off guys that might be potentially better bf's than him. They are insecure about themselves and believe you'll drop them for someone better. They don't seem all that masculine all of a sudden now do they. A lot of girls think the guy just acts angry around other dudes because the guy is worried she will be hurt by the dude. Your overprotective boyfriend is not thinking of that at all. He's thinking about how he needs to get rid of guys who might be better than him before you find out that they are better than your boyfriend. They don't for a minute think you're in any actual danger. They think they are in danger of losing a piece of their property. Yep you're a piece of their property. You're as much property to them as their Ram truck is. So please have some self respect since they can't seem to respect you enough to handle guys that are coming on to you on your own.
"But what if people who are hitting on me at a bar actually are bothering me?" My question is do you not think you can handle such people on your own. You're an adult try treating yourself like one and letting then know you're not interested. If they refuse that's when you can ask your significant other to step in. But they don't have to make a huge scene and try to pick a fight with a person that could potentially beat your mans face into the pavement. Just because he's the one with a girl doesn't mean he's the stronger one. I saw an episode of Mad Men the other night that I thought was a perfect way to deal with obnoxious men who keep hitting on a girl. Don and Betty Draper were in Italy when two men started repeatedly hitting on Betty. Don shows up but instead of acting really insecure and just shoving the dudes he acted classy. He let Betty handle it and even played along and acted like he was just another suitor trying to attract her. She plays along with him being a stranger and they act like they met for the first time. The other two men decided to just leave after seeing this. That is how you get rid of obnoxious people like adults instead of just defaulting to trying to fight with them. But if you like your boyfriend being banned from every bar he goes to because he has to start something with every guy that looks at you then by all means pick the "protective" guy.
Now you might think "Does this mean I might have met 'the one' but now that opporotunity is gone because of my current boyfriends insecurity drove the perfect guy for me away?" Quite possibly yes. No guy that just tries to scare off any guy that likes you is "the one" because if they were why would they be trying to scare off other dudes? They'd have the confidence to know they are just right for you and not be afraid when other men hit on you. Because that's what real masculinity is. Having the confidence in yourself and respecting and trusting their girlfriends to spur the advances of obnoxious men on their own. Being with a guy that gets aggresive anytime another male is around you is actually unsafe for your well being and it can destroy your social life. You lose your friends to the protective man. You lose any chance of making new friends because of the protective man. If they can have it their way the only person you interact with is them. If you want to have a healthy relationship stay away from these men that feel the need to display dominance all the time because they will drive away so many positive opportunities for you.
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